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So many....
As a mum of 2 beautiful angels myself (Storm & Finn), it breaks my heart everytime I see a post about a new angelI feel a weight of grief in my chest, knowing what you must all be going through after being through it myself
To those mums new to this journey of grief, I am so very very sorry for the loss of your precious angels and send you all my strength & love
Jo
Angels -Storm Piper ~11.7.07
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It has been a very sad time. The sadness that I feel when I read that a much wanted baby has become an angel feels so heavy. I can not begin to imagine how someone recovers. With this sadness this morning and news from my close friend that her work mate and friend who had been trying for a baby for 6 years died during her C-section, I have had tears all day.
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i'm surprised at how common it is, which is so heartbreaking. it's not something people talk about often, but after i lost Josiah, i've had a lot of people tell me their stories as well, it's just so sad to comprehend.
to everyone xxx
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i found the same thing hun....
i'm surprised at how common it is, which is so heartbreaking. it's not something people talk about often, but after i lost Josiah, i've had a lot of people tell me their stories as well, it's just so sad to comprehend.
it breaks my heart to think more mums have to suffer a loss like i did
no one should suffer the loss of a child, EVER
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6 babies are born sleeping everday in australia. everyday 6 sets of parents join our shi**ty club.
Ahurani's news has torn me to pieces. Why does the universe wait until the very end to take our babies from us? the finish line in site but we never get our prize. its so unfair.
Thinking of u everyday MD xxx
it is such a ****ty club isn't it and i know exactly how you feel, feeling the weight when you hear of a new angel - maybe thats normal?!
although i was only 25 weeks not exactly at the finish line like some of you beautiful ladies i guess the grief is the same despite gestation plus i did get the blessing of seeing my angel alive for 3 hours not that he looked like any baby should ... anyway school run has to be done
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6 everyday?? thats heartbreaking
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Sadly, the statistics haven't changed much in the last decade. I'm the sort of person who looks at the statistics to try and understand why I was one of them.
Between 1999 and 2008, there was about 2500 perinatal deaths every year. That includes over 1600 babies born sleeping and over 800 neonatal deaths (babies who die in the first 28 days). In that time, there has been a slight decrease in the rate per 1000 births, which you'd hope for.
Being a statistic is no comfort. In fact, it makes me very wary of other statistics that are thrown around. Dont tell me the risk of X is ONLY 1 in 7000 or whatever. My baby was the 1 in 20,000.
Everytime I read about another angel, my heart breaks that their parents and families are now in a world of pain and grief.
There is no normal after a baby dies. That's it - you're living on a parellel world and you can never go back to who you were before. That may sound melodramatic to people who haven't lived through it, but for those of us who live it every day, that's just part of what we deal with.
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I've been thinking of you too Skybie, thanks so muchto you, you've been so supportive to me xxx
and it's been so sad to hear of Ahurani today as well, it's just so devastating and heartbreaking!! i don't want to sound nosy, but what happened? was she full-term?? it's such a cruel blow for us to get so far and then not have the reward, which is our beautiful, such-loved baby......too hard to think about sometimes.....
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not sure what happened, she was 40 and 4 and went into labour on her own which ended in an emergencey c-section. i know she lost about a litre of blood because of it and is in alot of physical pain.
i think thats the thing thts killing me, she HAS to stay in hospital, i dont know hows she able to stand it, all i wanted to do was go home, and i was lucky enough to be able to when i was ready
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That kills me too. The thought of being in a maternity ward without your baby is just hell. My heart breaks for her. I walked out the next day with my DH and was able to go home to our own bed and hold each other.
i know she was full term and required an emergency c-sec other than that im not sure
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Yeah, it is the club that nobody ever wants to join, and it really only is those people in that club that really get it. That know how we really feel. Also yes, it does feel like a diffrent world, 'a parallel' you come out of hospital and wonder why everbody is acting like it they always did.
I hate the fact that someone new has to keep joining club, and walking down that same path that we have.
It's too cruel.
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You know sometimes i feel like im still searching for that peice of me that was taken itms?
i feel sometimes that when i look at ds i feel like his missed out on something that was his and apart of him..
i ask him all the time about his feelings about it all and he says"mum i see him all the time im fine".. that should be some sort of assurance but i feel like i owe him something..
its hard to know i never get to see him grow beside his brother or even hug him when his upset..
i cant look into his eyes, ill never ever hear him cry, he wont get to feel my warmth or even taste my cheek when he gives me open kisses
he will never feel the sun hit his soft skin, or feel his brother tug him when his playing around..
there is so much i feel that my ds and him have lost and some times i feel like its my fault and even though i know its not. i just feel like that and i cant help it.
the pain, 10 yrs on is still so raw and deep that i think i live everyday with that pain and the pain never stops... i cant get past the pain. i cant get past the things that stopped me from having a healthy boy next to my beautiful ds..
i remember that when i had them and i was in the room with them ds kept looking aroound and when he laid eyes on him he would close his eyes again.. like he knew something was wrong and he kept making sure he was still there..
i wish everyday that no one, No one would ever have to hear those first two words "im sorry" cause sometimes those words will never ever be wanted to be heard again.. for anything
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I think it's also a sad cruel way to get a reality check..
It's not what you expect at all when you finally conceive that positive test an announce that your finally having that child you have so longed for..
I'm not one that has had problems conceiving but I am one whom has lost a child at the finish line and had a number of m/c's
My heart flops when I hear about all those that suffer that cruel blow.. You start thinking why? How? When?
My heart is bleeding for ahruni and her family now that she will never look into those gorgeous eyes and see that newborn curiosity it's just not fair and no one deserves that.
I have heard of more still births and newborn deaths then I have of full aged adults and that makes me cry cause it's just not right..
Big hugs ladies it's not an easy conversation to have when
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My heart just breaks all over again, everytime I hear of another angel, knowing the pain they are going through
Regards,
Dianne
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There do seem to be alot of full term angels being born lately. I often avoid the threads about it because my heart aches too much for my mind to even bear the thought. It is so terribly sad that anyone has to go through losing a loved one at all, but for a parent to have to say hello and good bye to their precious little baby in one breath is all too heatbreaking. My soul aches for all of the parents who have had to do it. Life is just not fair sometimes.
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Lilias - your post is just about word for word what I was going to post! I don't know how a human can have enough strength in themselves to be able to say hello & goodbye to a much-wanted, forever-cherished, unconditionally loved child. I just don't know how they can pick themselves up again. I just don't. I'm in awe of the bravery of these women. I really, truly am.
My heart literally aches for the beautiful Mumma's how have walked the terrifying road of losing a precious Angel.
Words are so insignificant but they are truly meant.
xx
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