So many....

[crumpet]

6 babies are born sleeping everday in australia. everyday 6 sets of parents join our shi**ty club.
Ahurani's news has torn me to pieces. Why does the universe wait until the very end to take our babies from us? the finish line in site but we never get our prize. its so unfair.

Thinking of u everyday MD xxx

6 everyday?? thats heartbreaking

[LionsandBears]

Sadly, the statistics haven't changed much in the last decade. I'm the sort of person who looks at the statistics to try and understand why I was one of them.

Between 1999 and 2008, there was about 2500 perinatal deaths every year. That includes over 1600 babies born sleeping and over 800 neonatal deaths (babies who die in the first 28 days). In that time, there has been a slight decrease in the rate per 1000 births, which you'd hope for.

Being a statistic is no comfort. In fact, it makes me very wary of other statistics that are thrown around. Dont tell me the risk of X is ONLY 1 in 7000 or whatever. My baby was the 1 in 20,000.

Everytime I read about another angel, my heart breaks that their parents and families are now in a world of pain and grief.
There is no normal after a baby dies. That's it - you're living on a parellel world and you can never go back to who you were before. That may sound melodramatic to people who haven't lived through it, but for those of us who live it every day, that's just part of what we deal with.

[M D]

I have not been through what you all have and can't imagine and won't begin to imagine what it is like. I have however always steared away from posting in these threads as I have nothing to offer. It is easy for someone who has not been through it to say a number of things - all which I am sure are meaniless to those who have just suffered an enoromous loss. After reading the thread this morning I looked at the statistics also (I'm a numbers girl) and was horrified to also read as Tashybabe said that the numbers have not decreased. I have a SIL who carried to term and delivered a beautiful still born bub, with no real explanation as to why.

I couldn't read Tashybabes post and not comment. I truely hope those like myself who have not been through what you ladies have been through can atleast have the compassion to allow you to grieve in your own way for however long that may be.

I for one don't ever think any comments made by those who have been through such great loss are 'melodramatic'.

[skybie]

Kts, for me the messages of sympathy did mean alot. no matter who they were from. and no nothing is melodramtic Tash, and you're totally right, it is like living in a parrallel, everything on the outside looks just like it used to, but at the same time it's totally different

[Rainbow_Mumma]

Kts, for me the messages of sympathy did mean alot. no matter who they were from. and no nothing is melodramtic Tash, and you're totally right, it is like living in a parrallel, everything on the outside looks just like it used to, but at the same time it's totally different

thats the perfect quote, pretty much sums up how i still feel. Eventually you learn to filter through the positive/encouraging comments and the negative ones because according to FIL i should be over Anthonys passing now and our other miscarriages shouldn't effect me and he wonders why i have no respect for him