I have not been through what you all have and can't imagine and won't begin to imagine what it is like. I have however always steared away from posting in these threads as I have nothing to offer. It is easy for someone who has not been through it to say a number of things - all which I am sure are meaniless to those who have just suffered an enoromous loss. After reading the thread this morning I looked at the statistics also (I'm a numbers girl) and was horrified to also read as Tashybabe said that the numbers have not decreased. I have a SIL who carried to term and delivered a beautiful still born bub, with no real explanation as to why.

I couldn't read Tashybabes post and not comment. I truely hope those like myself who have not been through what you ladies have been through can atleast have the compassion to allow you to grieve in your own way for however long that may be.

I for one don't ever think any comments made by those who have been through such great loss are 'melodramatic'.