Lulu, to you. It's not just girls My oldest DS is 15 and well let's just say that he uses the same tactics re: dishwasher etc. I am CONSTANTLY pulling him up on how he speaks (not necessarily what he says) to me and then being all lovely and nice when he wants money or to go somewhere. Tough battle I know but we have to get to the end one day right?? lol. Soldier on is all I can offer hun oh and of course come and vent when you need to.