is it possible that the parents are not aware what went out on the invites?? i certainly wouldn't have shown my parents my invitation to my party, but at the same time, we wouldn't have been allowed to drink at 16 anyway (although we did)...

i was never really officially allowed to drink when i was under age (but you would shudder to hear the other things i got up to in my room, much worse than alcohol)... anyways, while my parents wouldn't allow it, other parents would, the difference being, the parents who allowed it to happen, although not necessarily thrilled about it, had a lot more control over their kids and insight as to what was going on, whereas my parents had no clue (well they did, but had no way to broach the subject as i denied it)... while allowing kids to drink underage is obviously not ideal, there are significant benefits to being open to it, as it is in a controlled environment with an adult around who can monitor and make sure things stay safe... the alternative alot of the time is kids drinking in dodgy places like parks with who knows what lurking, and also approaching complete strangers to buy them alcohol..... i know what i would rather.