Jaimi,
So sorry for your loss. And yes your baby was a real baby - its funny about our mothers sometimes isn't it, my mother actually said to me when i m/c the 1st time - oh well it was nothing wasn't even a baby - i couldn't believe it - i mean she was nice to me but did not count my baby as real, so i kind of had to be really strong on the phone when i spoke to her and alot of people gave me the same answer - i was floored to tell you the truth. But loosing a child not matter how long you have them is hard, you do need to greive and do not let ANYONE tell you otherwise. Cry and cry if thats what you want we are all thinking of you and you did nothing to cause this - unfortunately nature does this not us .