mrzbaby & boble-- I'm so sorry for the loss of your little It's really a traumatic experience, and I spent much of the early days afterwards just kind of walking around in a daze. Feeling, like you said, like my mind was very unclear--with the exception of what I can only describe as a slide show playing on 'repeat' inside my head... and I couldn't stop thinking about the things I could've done differently...and why did this have to happen?... was my bath too hot?... is it because I wanted a girl too badly, and God is punishing me for not being grateful?... it must be because I'm a terrible person... All those sad, depressing, self-berating thoughts just kept playing over and over again, making me feel like I was crazy! So I started doing some research on m/c, and I came across this site... and truly... it make me emotional just to think about it... this place saved me from myself! Being in a place where I couldn't discuss what I was feeling with anybody (at home), and basically having to pretend like it didn't happen for the sake of not upsetting my family any further, it was amazing to be surrounded by women who knew what I was thinking and feeling, and could understand what I was saying before I even finished saying it... or when I couldn't finish saying it, they just knew!

I knew the day of my m/c that I wanted to be pg again right away! My dr. told me to wait 2 months, but there's no way I could bear the thought of feeling the emptiness inside my stomach... to recap for me, I thought I was 13 wks., but when I started spotting and they gave me a u/s, they said my angel had passed at about 8 weeks. While I'm still TTC, there's so many positive stories of girls that have had losses--even very late losses--that have gone on to successfully have happy and healthy pgcy's. I personally had 3 m/c's after my first DS was born, then went on to have DS2 with no complications, to have another m/c afterwards! So you just never know... it's all in God's hands... you just have to have faith that it will happen for you when it's meant to.

You'll know when you're ready to TTC again. Obviously, like NaeNae said, you'll need to heal physically after your surgery. Emotionally... well, for me, I still don't quite think I've healed emotionally, but I cover it very well! I certainly wouldn't have wanted to wait to TTC all this time to heal emotionally.... so it's truly up to you to know when you're ready.

As far as support goes, you've come to the right place! I pray your experience here with us is as much a blessing for you as it's been for me! boble, I'm sending you lots of and some vibes!

Happy Valentine's Day to my U.S. girls--oops, and those U.K. girls, as well! Wishing you all lots of hugs and and maybe even some

Hope all my Aussie mates had a fabulous Valentine's Day!!



meh-- You're in my thoughts and prayers during this terrible time! Stay safe!



Sorry, I have to finish persies later.... thinking of you all!!