SammyP i totally see what you are saying. As much as i feel jealous when someone close to me gets pregnant, i cant not feel happy for them. I think one of the biggest lessons this forum gives us is that we dont always know what people have been through to get pregnant. Not everyone talks about it and even some people lie about it. And i know i will be so hurt if my friends and family distance themselves from me when i have good news to share.
And i also understand that some people only care about themselves and have no tact at all. So sometimes it is hard to be around these people.
I have a few friends that have suffered losses or been TTC for over 2 years and i know when its them i will be overjoyed and supportive and i hope that when its me they will be the same.
A girlfriend of mine who lost twins recently told me many of her friends and even family had avoided telling her they were pregnant cos they didnt want to upset her and it hurt her even more hearing it second hand.
And i also thinks it is an important lesson for us all when we do get pregnant to be aware of the feelings of other people around us that will possibly feel upset and jealous the way we do now.