I'm with you Mel on that one I hate people telling me that's it's just not your time! What a load of crap - I have three cousins all who have children that they didn't want, all were teenagers and single when they had them and then there is my brother and I, my brother on fertility medication and me who doesn't seem to have found a sticky one yet! Stuff those people - I have taken to the abrupt and quite rude approach, probably not one I would reccomend, but it sure helps me!

I also have a friend who has been trying for nearly two years, that keeps telling me, well at least you can get pregnant! The other night after my second miss I blew up in her face and told her that I would rather have not been pregnant at all than to have lost two babies!

Some people are just insensitve and only think of themselves because they have no empathy so they think what they are saying is the right thing, I say tell them how you feel and then at least you won't have constant reminders. I recently got married in June and since then got asked a million questions, we told everyone there was to tell about the first miss and bang everyone avoids the conversation. Thank god because I really don't want to talk about it now that I have had the second.

I'm a big believer in getting everything out in the open, after all people can only treat you the way they think you are feeling if you are up front and honest (not rude like me) then they hopefully will back off. It's that good old saying of you never know what you've got until you miss it, if they were in our shoes I bet they would be breaking every two seconds and not dealing with it as bravely and as well as what we are! Enjoy tonight, have fun, make the most of life. Because as my good old Mum always tells me good things come to those who wait, you don't want to know what I say back though !

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