Abbey - there is nothing wrong with you. I think for men to perform almost on command would be difficult and a turn off - you are not the turn off. I know that sometimes this is how my dh is (as he was last night). He didn't want to dtd b/c he was over the pressure of performing on demand and we have been just going through the motions for me to fall pg. Even I am having difficulty enjoying sex, b/c in my mind I am doing it ultimately for a baby, whereas I should also be doing it to be close to my dh. I gently reminded him that there is such a short window of opportunity to fall pg, but I left it at that b/c I think neither of us would have been satisfied last night. IYKWIM. So, we have agreed tonight we will be dtd, but I will try to make it not just about dtd. I will try some flirting and mucking around prior to bed time.
I don't think in your heart you want to give up, but maybe just for the moment put it on hold (harder to say than do) and go back to enjoying each others company - it doesn't even have to be having sex. What about making like a date night? - ie: dinner, & a movie & just talking - not even about a baby, just chatting like he is one of your friends. (or whatever is enjoyable for you & dh) This could lead to sex, but it might just take off some pressure for you both - I assume you feel the pressure of dtd to give yourself a chance of falling pg? Maybe dh is also picking up your feelings of just dtd for pg and this is turning him off? Do you have a relationship where you can talk about the feelings of ttc? This is difficult for me & dh as I am highly emotional and tend to hold back then blurt everything out.
I don't know much about pcos, but one thing my gf did was cut back on sugar & I mean she was so strict that she even limited herself to natural sugar (fructose etc...). This seemed to help with her cycles plus she lost a fair bit of weight (she was fairly overweight). Not sure what the meca powder does. Can you consider clomid when you have pcos? I read last night a thread that Nicilic started in Feb 09 (?) She has pcos and has changed her diet and this has reduced her cycles - the last she quoted at 30 days, but I didn't take much notice about O. I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you PM'ed her for more info....
Abbey, you are not alone in this - this is something dh & I are encountering atm but I am trying hard to not make it seem like I only want to be with him for a baby. So hard for the likes of many of us since O is hard to pinpoint; you just want to dtd to not miss the small window of opportunity to fall pg
Hugs babe xx
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