Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #2

[Acria]

Issy sweetheart, I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It's not easy, I know..and it must be difficult sometimes to keep a cheerful demeanour about TTC. You're such a strong, wonderful woman though. You're certainly not the only one to feel like it's not going to happen for you, I think a lot of us who have suffered losses have felt that way. It's compeltely normal to sometimes be a little taken by the negative thoughts that lurk in the back of your mind.

Also, don't beat yourself up over treating yourself to some chocolate and wine. A little bit certainly isn't going to hurt, and if it makes you feel a bit better, well then it's done some good So enjoy that wine and chocolate, let the face mask do it's thing, and treat yourself really well. As I said you're a strong, resliant, loving, warm, caring and beautiful person! You have every right to feel what you're feeling, and to take good care of yourself (including special treats!). It is going to happen for you, and when it does, you're going to make an absolutely fantastic mother!

Sending you all my warm, comforting, soothing thoughts. Sweet dreams.

Lisa xx

[jen805]

issy--Oh, issy, you sound so down! It must have been so hard to come across the photos and u/s! Life throws us many curve balls, and while normally you're positive and looking for that silver lining, you have to expect that there will be days where the glass is just half empty! It's ok to have a bad day sometimes, and it's ok to let those sad feelings come out--better to get them out than to keep them bottled up inside. I know you must feel so disappointed--and the longing is the worst part. I've realized that I just want to be pregnant--I mean, of course, I want the beautiful baby at the end--but I've felt robbed of just feeling all the pregnant feelings! The moving and kicking that I never even got to feel... I want THAT! So, issy, please don't feel alone during this time, and don't feel like you always have to be positive about things! We're all here for you, hun, in good times and bad, just as you are!

The face mask sounds great--I haven't done a face mask for probably 15 years! The chocolate and the wine sounds great as well--spoil yourself, girl, you deserve it! Just don't wake up hung over!



Acria--Your words for issy were so sweet! Just another example of why I love this thread--the support that we give each other is so genuine, it comes right from the heart! Thanks for being so supportive and understanding, and knowing just what to say!

Hope you caught that egg! I'm not exactly sure if I O yet... last month I noticed EWCM for the first time ever (well, I'm sure it's always been there, I just never paid any attention to that stuff before!) so I knew I was O. That hasn't happened yet this month, so just going to continue on with the fest until it comes. Was late starting AF, so maybe just a little off with O, as well. Guess I'll just wait and see...


mollycat--Oh no! is going on with your cycle? I'm so sorry, hun, you must feel really discouraged Has the bleeding lessened at all, or is it still getting worse? Probably a good idea to call the doc... Sending you huge cyberhug! Hope things look a little better when you wake up!


plc & Angel babies-- Hope you both had a great birthday! plc, only 1 more day until your u/s right? I'm so excited for you to see your little bean!


mmteacher, AJC, and Canary, plc, & rainbowgirl--Hope you're all doing great, feeling lots of preggie symptoms, and soon you'll be


Hi's and hugs for everyone else. Thinking of you all always!

[ElleJay]

Hi ladies - I will admit to testing when I got home from work today and
Guessing I'm a little too early and should wait until at least Tuesday! My bbs are so very sore and massive too! Very tired, my sense of smell is high (and it never usually is) and I'm getting pulling feelings on both sides of my tummy.. I really hope this is it, but I'm suddenly not feeling like it is. I guess if we're not after this cycle, we're going to have a break for a month (and I'll be having a break for a month) from TTC and being on here if this cycle isn't the one.

Acria - I just can't believe you're still trying to you hun! I didn't think I'd seen you around for a while. I'm doing well, though now feeling very pessamistic about these cramps and thinking the worst. Hope the Subway was enjoyable! I hope you and DH managed to BD enough for you to catch the egg!

issy - Amen sister! I'm feeling the way you are now. I'm yet to actually have a full term pregnancy, but I've still got the old doctors notes and my sig to remind me of how much I actually miss it. And I know I haven't been TTC for three years (I've been TTC for 10 months) but I felt so positive about this cycle and now, I'm having a huge downer... Hope you can spare some of the chocolate for me! It's getting so bad for me too, because I'm now having very irregular cycles and it's hard for me to pinpoint things. Whenever I'm late for AF from the last cycle, I test and whenever I see the negative, I just sigh, throw it away and think it'll never happen to me. Lots of love to you my sweetness

Jen - How are you doing my sweet? Hope your well and looking after yourself.

to anyone I've missed

Anyways, DF probably wants me to go to bed with him, so I'll stay around for a little while, but will be heading off to bed in the next hour or so.

[ElleJay]

Hi ladies - I will admit to testing when I got home from work today and
Guessing I'm a little too early and should wait until at least Tuesday! My bbs are so very sore and massive too! Very tired, my sense of smell is high (and it never usually is) and I'm getting pulling feelings on both sides of my tummy.. I really hope this is it, but I'm suddenly not feeling like it is. I guess if we're not after this cycle, we're going to have a break for a month (and I'll be having a break for a month) from TTC and being on here if this cycle isn't the one.

Acria - I just can't believe you're still trying to you hun! I didn't think I'd seen you around for a while. I'm doing well, though now feeling very pessamistic about these cramps and thinking the worst. Hope the Subway was enjoyable! I hope you and DH managed to BD enough for you to catch the egg!

issy - Amen sister! I'm feeling the way you are now. I'm yet to actually have a full term pregnancy, but I've still got the old doctors notes and my sig to remind me of how much I actually miss it. And I know I haven't been TTC for three years (I've been TTC for 10 months) but I felt so positive about this cycle and now, I'm having a huge downer... Hope you can spare some of the chocolate for me! It's getting so bad for me too, because I'm now having very irregular cycles and it's hard for me to pinpoint things. Whenever I'm late for AF from the last cycle, I test and whenever I see the negative, I just sigh, throw it away and think it'll never happen to me. Lots of love to you my sweetness

Jen - How are you doing my sweet? Hope your well and looking after yourself.

to anyone I've missed

Anyways, DF probably wants me to go to bed with him, so I'll stay around for a little while, but will be heading off to bed in the next hour or so.

[jen805]

LJ--So sorry about your BFN! Sounds like it could still be a little early, though, so don't give up hope yet! Would hate to see you take a break when I'm just getting to know you, but I know we all do what we have to do to get through. Don't want to get your hopes up, but your symptoms do sound very promising! Good luck, hun, you're in my

[ElleJay]

Thanks heaps Jen!
My BBs haven't hurt this much since the last time I was pg. And when I'm due for AF, only one of my bbs hurts on the side, and it's both this time.. I'm ing so very hard every night, but I dunno if I feel positive enough. I'll test tomorrow (today) with one of my early ones I get from the post office (make sure I hold onto my pee beforehand!)

[jen805]

LJ--Good luck with the testing! I'll be waiting in anticipation for your results! Got my for you!

[ElleJay]

Thanks Jen! I think I might just PIAC and then go to the post office and collect them (I had ordered them online and wasn't home when they came so I have to collect them from the post office) and hopefully get home to a
It's hard, because I've tested so much and seen sooooo many flashing back at me. I'm looking at some FF charts that are pregnancy charts, and the BFPs range from 8DPO to 13DPO to 18DPO so I guess I shouldn't give up yet.
It was stupid of me to test with a test that says 'Shouldn't be used until after 4 days before AF is due' and even if I did test with it, it needs to be FMU! Silly silly me!
It's nice to be able to talk to someone at this time Jen

[plc1805]

Oh issy hun - I remember that feeling all too well. I was feeling the agony that, while i had a beautiful healthy DS, I wasn't going to be able to give him a brother or sister. He only has one cousin who is a few years older than him and we hardly see him and doubt they'll be close. My DH and i r older parents so he'll lose us earlier than later. I just felt like he was going to be all alone in the world (other than partner etc). It made me so incredibly sad. Thankfully i am pg but there is no guarantee there either and I am very aware i could be looking for those 2 lines again sooner than later. If you need the choc and wine, go and enjoy with no guilt.

LJ - sorry it was a BFN sweet - could be too early tho?

Nickster - hope ur doin ok - great to hear from you!!!

Jen - yep one more sleep - very scared!

Mollyucat - sorry ur feelin so cr*p!!! big hugs hun!

Thanks again everyone for the bday wishes - they are very much appreciated!!!