Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #4

[~ Mylitta ~]

Jen - Yes, definitely the nicest possible type of squish!! I could probably ask my DH's "doctor" (I'm holding out on calling him a real doctor until he can proe he didn't buy his license on the internet...) to order the hcg bt for me, but after all the trouble last time I might just be patient. So tempted jsut to do a hpt though and I'm only 9dpo! Obsessed much? Lol
I want summer break!!!

smilanatu - I'm glad your weekend was good! What did you get up to?

SaraJane - My ob told me to wait for 2 cycles, lol. I hope he doesn't get cranky if it turns out I'm pregnant. I'll get tell him that DH and I were getting into bed and slipped and "it" just fell in!!!
How good will it be when they come out with an "instant pregnancy test" that psychically knows that you have conceived and that it will be a sticky bubba?!

pcl - I read somewhere that many of the chinese gender charts are slightly out due to some change in the calender system or something. Apparently there are versions of the charts that compensate for the change, so maybe check what type of chart you are using. I'm pretty sure I googled that info once... Not sure if it works anyway, but a lot of people swear by it.
In fact, once I finish posting I might go have another look for it and see what I would be having if it turns out I'm preggers. We're taking supplements to encourage a girl, so fingers crossed all the charts agree!

Vanaithi - I sometimes check my saliva at work on the microscope, and when it works I'm amazed at how pretty it looks. I read that you shouldn't eat anything for a few hours before you do the test though because it changes the salt levels or something. I never really used the saliva test to work out when I was ovulating though, I just did it a couple of times when I knew I was ovulating to see what it looks like
I'm so glad that your DH called to see if you were ok. At least he was thinking about you and felt bad. Congrats on bd'ing, lol!
Apparently with an inverted uterus it can also change the position of your cervix too. I've heard that doctors can sometimes have trouble finding it in there too. I don't think I have that problem though because I can always feel it. It just always feels pretty similar to me

AJC - 9 sleeps!!! How very exciting!!!

Jodsan -

[~ Mylitta ~]

plc - I found the info! Apparently the reason the chinese charts you find on the net are inaccurate is because you have to use your "lunar age", not just your normal age but the sites don't tell you that, or how to work it out.

I found a site that has a link to a page that you put in your birthday and the babies conception date, and then it works out your lunar age and predicts the gender. Google "thelaboroflove" and the the link is in the middle in the pregnancy section and is called "Chinese Gender Prediction Chart". Am I allowed to write that here? I hope so, don't want to get smacked...

I did it for me to see what the gender would be if we've been lucky enough to conceive, and apparently "It's a girl! (Chinese Age 30 at Lunar month 4)". Should I be upset that my lunar age makes me older?! Lol!!!

[Vanaithi]

krystielove: the saliva thing also say that you shouldnt test if you've been pregnant in the past 3 months, so i guess thats why the results dont work for me! but yeah it does look cool! amazing that saliva can look so pretty! just curious, what supplements are you taking to have a girl? and what if you want a boy? i want a boy while my dh wants a girl! also on the chinese lunar calendar, it puts you a year older because it counts your age from the time you're in the belly too! just if you were wondering why...

[Vanaithi]

where there's hope: one word: MEN! especially the scientific, specialist ones who think they're smarter than everyone! he doesnt know what he's talking about there. just do what you think is right! i hate it when you go in to ask for help & they make you feel belittled. maybe you should see a female fs??? bit more sympathetic i'd think...

[Where there's hope]

Vanaithi - oops. Just noticed you had been asking about Preseed. I have written a few comments to Jenushka and Jen in my last long-winded post if you are interested...

Yep. you got it. I have lost two babies and his website says one of his interests is miscarriage. Just like my OB's website. Yet neither has shown any real sympathy or tenderness. Or given me any understanding as to why it has happened. Guess they see it all the time in their job.

[Vanaithi]

where there's hope: yeah hopefully the preseed comes tomorrow so dh & i can try it out tomorrow night!

it's like nurses i guess... they go through so much with their type of work... so it desensitises them...but still... it would make life much better for all of us if they realise that although they've dealt with many similar cases, each individual is different, so a little sympathy won't hurt. especially MEN! they just don't have feelings sometimes...

anyways, im off for today! have a great night!

[~ Mylitta ~]

Vanaithi - I WAS wondering why lunar ages were more! Thank you!
I've been taking magnesium and calcium supplements to try to encourage a girl. If you are after a boy you can take sodium and potassium. It's called "sex selection by ionic equilibrium" and while I can't find a study that proves it in humans, I found a great study in a scientific journal that studied it in rats, and I figure that everything is tested on rats before people so it's probably a pretty good study. I have the study bookmarked, so if you want the link you can pm me. I also found a webpage about a study that is apparently published in a journal (I just can't find the exact journal article), about a study of 7810 pregnant patients that used the ionic method of sex selection, and they found it 97% effective for conceiving a boy, and 95% effective for a girl.

It all has to do with the polarity of the pellucid membrane around your egg. A male and female sperm have different polarities. Your diet (or supplements ) can change the polarity of the membrane so that it attracts or repels only the male or female sperm. I have that link if you want it too

DH and I are trying to attract the girly spermies because he already has two boys Hopefully it works, but if we get a boy I'll love him just as much!

[nicjay]

Hi ladies,

I didn't stay away for long! LOL

WTH - I know how you feel, my ob was exactly the same. At the time I was quite shattered and felt like I had been brushed off, but now that I can think about it with a bit less emotion, I can see (sort of) why they are like that. It is pretty easy for them to just say it is bad luck and more than likely won't happen again - they base this on statistics. But I really do think that if having extra tests done make you feel more reassured about your next pg, what is the harm in doing them? It's no skin off their nose surely. If you want the extra tests done, stick to your guns! When we started to see our FS about my irregular cycles, one of the first things he did was extra recurrent m/c testing. I could have kissed him LOL when he said "The last thing you want is another miscarriage". Anyway he says the same about BBT as your FS - he thinks it is a waste of time too. I don't really agree but after 18 months of TTC I am pretty much over temping LOL so it was all I needed to hear to stop!! And with the tracking I am having done now there's not much point in temping anyway. Good luck!

Vanaithi - Good luck with the Preseed, hope it does the trick for you.

AJC - Really happy to hear you got some good HCG results All the best for your next scan! LOL at your dream.

SaraJane - Good luck, the waiting sucks doesn't it? After all our time TTC this second baby, I just feel like all I have done is wish away 2 week chunks of my life

Sorry for no more personals, but DD is going feral in the background here. She has had to stay home from preschool today because she has conjunctivitis - yuck! And its her birthday today too - poor love.

I just wanted to say thanks for all the well wishes, and I will definitely still be around I'm actually feeling pretty positive about my decision today too - I spoke to the FS today and he is really confident too, said that hopefully we will have a BFP within 3 cycles. And he thinks that 25mg of Clomid should do (half the dose I took last time), so hopefully the side effects shouldn't be as bad as last time. Anyway, I start taking it on CD4 (Thursday) so we'll see how we go. At least it is the long weekend this weekend too, so DH will be around for 3 days to help me cope with it if need be. I start with the cycle tracking next Wednesday, so here's hoping for some good BT results, and ovulation and IUI happening towards the end of next week! Will keep you posted how we go