Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #4

[plc1805]

AJC - I like ur dream - woohoo Jodsan - without pressure, let's just cross all our fingers and toes for you very very quietly

[Vanaithi]

Hello again ladies!

just letting anyone who cares know that i have just purchased preseed & sperm test! ive couriered it so hopefully it will arrive tomorrow which will still give us a chance to conceive if i o today! hooray! getting excited...

jodsan: good luck there! im going to go to the ladies room straight after lunch & check my groin area for soreness... will update on that...

:goodluck2:

[~ Mylitta ~]

Jen - Yes, definitely the nicest possible type of squish!! I could probably ask my DH's "doctor" (I'm holding out on calling him a real doctor until he can proe he didn't buy his license on the internet...) to order the hcg bt for me, but after all the trouble last time I might just be patient. So tempted jsut to do a hpt though and I'm only 9dpo! Obsessed much? Lol
I want summer break!!!

smilanatu - I'm glad your weekend was good! What did you get up to?

SaraJane - My ob told me to wait for 2 cycles, lol. I hope he doesn't get cranky if it turns out I'm pregnant. I'll get tell him that DH and I were getting into bed and slipped and "it" just fell in!!!
How good will it be when they come out with an "instant pregnancy test" that psychically knows that you have conceived and that it will be a sticky bubba?!

pcl - I read somewhere that many of the chinese gender charts are slightly out due to some change in the calender system or something. Apparently there are versions of the charts that compensate for the change, so maybe check what type of chart you are using. I'm pretty sure I googled that info once... Not sure if it works anyway, but a lot of people swear by it.
In fact, once I finish posting I might go have another look for it and see what I would be having if it turns out I'm preggers. We're taking supplements to encourage a girl, so fingers crossed all the charts agree!

Vanaithi - I sometimes check my saliva at work on the microscope, and when it works I'm amazed at how pretty it looks. I read that you shouldn't eat anything for a few hours before you do the test though because it changes the salt levels or something. I never really used the saliva test to work out when I was ovulating though, I just did it a couple of times when I knew I was ovulating to see what it looks like
I'm so glad that your DH called to see if you were ok. At least he was thinking about you and felt bad. Congrats on bd'ing, lol!
Apparently with an inverted uterus it can also change the position of your cervix too. I've heard that doctors can sometimes have trouble finding it in there too. I don't think I have that problem though because I can always feel it. It just always feels pretty similar to me

AJC - 9 sleeps!!! How very exciting!!!

Jodsan -

[~ Mylitta ~]

plc - I found the info! Apparently the reason the chinese charts you find on the net are inaccurate is because you have to use your "lunar age", not just your normal age but the sites don't tell you that, or how to work it out.

I found a site that has a link to a page that you put in your birthday and the babies conception date, and then it works out your lunar age and predicts the gender. Google "thelaboroflove" and the the link is in the middle in the pregnancy section and is called "Chinese Gender Prediction Chart". Am I allowed to write that here? I hope so, don't want to get smacked...

I did it for me to see what the gender would be if we've been lucky enough to conceive, and apparently "It's a girl! (Chinese Age 30 at Lunar month 4)". Should I be upset that my lunar age makes me older?! Lol!!!

[Vanaithi]

krystielove: the saliva thing also say that you shouldnt test if you've been pregnant in the past 3 months, so i guess thats why the results dont work for me! but yeah it does look cool! amazing that saliva can look so pretty! just curious, what supplements are you taking to have a girl? and what if you want a boy? i want a boy while my dh wants a girl! also on the chinese lunar calendar, it puts you a year older because it counts your age from the time you're in the belly too! just if you were wondering why...

[Vanaithi]

where there's hope: one word: MEN! especially the scientific, specialist ones who think they're smarter than everyone! he doesnt know what he's talking about there. just do what you think is right! i hate it when you go in to ask for help & they make you feel belittled. maybe you should see a female fs??? bit more sympathetic i'd think...

[Where there's hope]

Vanaithi - oops. Just noticed you had been asking about Preseed. I have written a few comments to Jenushka and Jen in my last long-winded post if you are interested...

Yep. you got it. I have lost two babies and his website says one of his interests is miscarriage. Just like my OB's website. Yet neither has shown any real sympathy or tenderness. Or given me any understanding as to why it has happened. Guess they see it all the time in their job.

[Vanaithi]

where there's hope: yeah hopefully the preseed comes tomorrow so dh & i can try it out tomorrow night!

it's like nurses i guess... they go through so much with their type of work... so it desensitises them...but still... it would make life much better for all of us if they realise that although they've dealt with many similar cases, each individual is different, so a little sympathy won't hurt. especially MEN! they just don't have feelings sometimes...

anyways, im off for today! have a great night!

[~ Mylitta ~]

Vanaithi - I WAS wondering why lunar ages were more! Thank you!
I've been taking magnesium and calcium supplements to try to encourage a girl. If you are after a boy you can take sodium and potassium. It's called "sex selection by ionic equilibrium" and while I can't find a study that proves it in humans, I found a great study in a scientific journal that studied it in rats, and I figure that everything is tested on rats before people so it's probably a pretty good study. I have the study bookmarked, so if you want the link you can pm me. I also found a webpage about a study that is apparently published in a journal (I just can't find the exact journal article), about a study of 7810 pregnant patients that used the ionic method of sex selection, and they found it 97% effective for conceiving a boy, and 95% effective for a girl.

It all has to do with the polarity of the pellucid membrane around your egg. A male and female sperm have different polarities. Your diet (or supplements ) can change the polarity of the membrane so that it attracts or repels only the male or female sperm. I have that link if you want it too

DH and I are trying to attract the girly spermies because he already has two boys Hopefully it works, but if we get a boy I'll love him just as much!

[Where there's hope]

Hi all you lovely supportive ladies. I am sorry I have not been around the last few days ? we have been changing over internet/phone suppliers and things have been on hold.

Jodsan ? we do sound similar. Thanks for the tips about Estrogen dominance. I did speak to my FS about it (my vent about the appointment is below), and he seemed to brush my questions off. But ? I do reckon that?s it. Can I ask, is it giving you spotting outside of your normal period? I have spotted very lightly today on Day 8, 3 days after finishing my AF. Fortunately, I am already doing most of the things on your list. DH and I are vegetarians. I have recently switched to Organic free range eggs because I eat an egg a day and have read the others are packed with the hormones you were speaking of. I don?t drink coffee either, and have managed to get down to one black tea a day (with 1 or 2 green or white teas a day). I fail in the exercise area. I am fairly trim, but know I could use some more cardio. When are your exams? You must be busy studying with a 2 year old! Good to read about lunar cycles ? I have printed mine off. Seems to be past the forecasted ?O? this month, so maybe DH and I will do some extened BD?ing

Jenushka ? in my last pregnancy I conceived on the third cycle. It was the only month I used PreSeed. My DH is certain the PreSeed helped, especially as we have read CM is less hospitable (not just less in volume ) as we get older. I will never know if it helped or hindered the pregnancy. You will see in my ?vent? below what my FS had to say about it? And a belated congrats on the +OPK

Jen ? I noticed you were asking Jenushka about applying PreSeed? I just want you to know that that stuff is FUN!. There is too much in the applicator, so we are not going to use it all this time. But (TMI) it does not all just need to be inserted. DH also likes it applied on to you know where. Great forplay. How embarrassing. I just know he is really looking forward to our getting back in the saddle this month.

SaraJane ? congrats on the house. Looks like a lot of positive energy is coming your way

Issy ? Agree with you on the whole OPK?s. Test line for me gets darker and darker, but never quite matches the control. Can?t find a brand I like either! BTW ? I love those PJ-wearing lazy rainy days!

Acria ? Sorry about AF. I had everything crossed for you. Even though we were not supposed to try last month, we did succumb one night near ?O? and I was positive I had symptoms. I know you must be feeling very disappointed

BettyBoop ? sorry about your chart. I know what you mean about seeing other babies. Some days I go out and it seems to be raining gorgeous newborns. It is like they are all out on one big playdate. It is hard. But you have your AF ? you are a FERTILE woman

Mollycat ? enjoy your new haircut. After my recent MC one of the first things I did was go shorter and really light blonde. I had pretty bad regrowth prior because I don?t colour my hair in the first trimester. I hope it has made you feel sweet.

Megsmum ? congratulations on your decision. and good luck with your new way forward.

Krystielove ? good luck with the OB appointment on Friday.

AFM ? Saw my FS yesterday. Day 7 of first TTC cycle (after having two periods). Armed with an A4 page of questions inspired by reading from our Flowerchild, I got no answers. I still do not understand how my chromosomally normal baby with a perfect heartbeat got taken from us before 10 weeks. ?There must be something wrong with my machinery,? I insisted. So he has offered to perform a barrage of tests which were all the ones I was hoping for (including the Factor V Leiden one Flowerchild has spoken of). He suspects they will come back fine. Maybe I am overeacting, but I don't want to go through another MC. I would like to go into the next pregnancy knowing everything is in good working order. I will also be having an ultrasound next month related to some cramping I am having throughout my cycle. But the FS did say a few things which got my goat up. For one, I was accused of doing too much reading. It is not the first time I have been told this. Secondly, I asked him what he thought of PreSeed (which I believe helped us with our last conception). The FS said it is very expensive and I might as well be using Olive Oil! None the less ? I have two boxes waiting in my ensuite and fully intend to enjoy them. Thirdly, I had a question for him about my high BBT?s. I had printed off some lovely pages of charts. He handed them back to me and said he thought BBT-ing was a waste of time! AGGGGGH! I will not bore you all with the full conversation, but I did feel a little deflated. I had been looking forward to the appointment and having a good conversation about what we have been through and what the best way forward is, but mostly got non-commital monosyllabic one-word answers. OK ? have fully vented now!

This is a very long entry. Hope I have not bored you all!