Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May 08 #4

[Where there's hope]

Vanaithi - oops. Just noticed you had been asking about Preseed. I have written a few comments to Jenushka and Jen in my last long-winded post if you are interested...

Yep. you got it. I have lost two babies and his website says one of his interests is miscarriage. Just like my OB's website. Yet neither has shown any real sympathy or tenderness. Or given me any understanding as to why it has happened. Guess they see it all the time in their job.

[Vanaithi]

where there's hope: yeah hopefully the preseed comes tomorrow so dh & i can try it out tomorrow night!

it's like nurses i guess... they go through so much with their type of work... so it desensitises them...but still... it would make life much better for all of us if they realise that although they've dealt with many similar cases, each individual is different, so a little sympathy won't hurt. especially MEN! they just don't have feelings sometimes...

anyways, im off for today! have a great night!

[~ Mylitta ~]

Vanaithi - I WAS wondering why lunar ages were more! Thank you!
I've been taking magnesium and calcium supplements to try to encourage a girl. If you are after a boy you can take sodium and potassium. It's called "sex selection by ionic equilibrium" and while I can't find a study that proves it in humans, I found a great study in a scientific journal that studied it in rats, and I figure that everything is tested on rats before people so it's probably a pretty good study. I have the study bookmarked, so if you want the link you can pm me. I also found a webpage about a study that is apparently published in a journal (I just can't find the exact journal article), about a study of 7810 pregnant patients that used the ionic method of sex selection, and they found it 97% effective for conceiving a boy, and 95% effective for a girl.

It all has to do with the polarity of the pellucid membrane around your egg. A male and female sperm have different polarities. Your diet (or supplements ) can change the polarity of the membrane so that it attracts or repels only the male or female sperm. I have that link if you want it too

DH and I are trying to attract the girly spermies because he already has two boys Hopefully it works, but if we get a boy I'll love him just as much!

[nicjay]

Hi ladies,

I didn't stay away for long! LOL

WTH - I know how you feel, my ob was exactly the same. At the time I was quite shattered and felt like I had been brushed off, but now that I can think about it with a bit less emotion, I can see (sort of) why they are like that. It is pretty easy for them to just say it is bad luck and more than likely won't happen again - they base this on statistics. But I really do think that if having extra tests done make you feel more reassured about your next pg, what is the harm in doing them? It's no skin off their nose surely. If you want the extra tests done, stick to your guns! When we started to see our FS about my irregular cycles, one of the first things he did was extra recurrent m/c testing. I could have kissed him LOL when he said "The last thing you want is another miscarriage". Anyway he says the same about BBT as your FS - he thinks it is a waste of time too. I don't really agree but after 18 months of TTC I am pretty much over temping LOL so it was all I needed to hear to stop!! And with the tracking I am having done now there's not much point in temping anyway. Good luck!

Vanaithi - Good luck with the Preseed, hope it does the trick for you.

AJC - Really happy to hear you got some good HCG results All the best for your next scan! LOL at your dream.

SaraJane - Good luck, the waiting sucks doesn't it? After all our time TTC this second baby, I just feel like all I have done is wish away 2 week chunks of my life

Sorry for no more personals, but DD is going feral in the background here. She has had to stay home from preschool today because she has conjunctivitis - yuck! And its her birthday today too - poor love.

I just wanted to say thanks for all the well wishes, and I will definitely still be around I'm actually feeling pretty positive about my decision today too - I spoke to the FS today and he is really confident too, said that hopefully we will have a BFP within 3 cycles. And he thinks that 25mg of Clomid should do (half the dose I took last time), so hopefully the side effects shouldn't be as bad as last time. Anyway, I start taking it on CD4 (Thursday) so we'll see how we go. At least it is the long weekend this weekend too, so DH will be around for 3 days to help me cope with it if need be. I start with the cycle tracking next Wednesday, so here's hoping for some good BT results, and ovulation and IUI happening towards the end of next week! Will keep you posted how we go

[Leyza]

Hi Ladies
I am not sure I really belong here at the moment, but I just love reading your posts and am impressed at how supportive you are all of one another and attentive. I m/c our twins on the 5th May at 11 weeks, and am currently waiting for AF to return, but also have to wait until 20th August before we can start TTC again. This is because I had to have a Rubella booster and it is recommended that we wait three months before trying again. So I am a bit down about it, as we wanted to try as soon as possible, but that's now in August. Which just seems like ages away. So I hope I can get to know you all better and support you all in the TTC quest.
Sending you heaps of .

[issy02]

Hello lovely ladies,

Jenushka hope the tww is not driving you crazy and im sending you loads of gl hope you caught that eggie...and lol about being exhausted after o time, I hear you girlfriend !

Bettyboop so sorry to hear you had a hard day last week...its very hard when we get to the edd of our angels, my angel from my first m/c would have been due the day my sister had her baby, it was hard but I fell in love with my nephew and all the sadness melted away when I held him. I hope you're feeling a little better, take of yourself. Also, good luck with the blood test, I hope it brings some good news

Jen - no probs with asking about temping, there are loads of women in here who know all you need to know about temping and we are all happy to shed light on the matter! LOL about your pj marathon, I love it! Nothing better than being a shlumpadinka (in Oprahs words) every now and then!

Mollycat the reno's sound exciting, my house is in desperate need of it, it's a 100 year old blue stone villa and is beautiful, but needs a lot of tlc IYKWIM. I have timber floors and they are lovely, but they also need a good sanding and polishing! I hope to renovate in the next few years, its just a matter of cash though isn't it? By the way hope you caught that eggie...

Pbstar - so glad to hear you are feeling a lot better. I know its easier to give advice than take it, as they say, easier said than done! I give out advice all the time, but rarely listen to myself We will get there hun, our turn is just around the corner, I just know it!

Megsmum - sorry to hear about af arriving, nasty witch! GL with the clomid, I hope it brings you your bfp. Good on you for being so strong, it is a hard decision but feel confident that you have made the right one. I wish you loads of goodluck and babydust

Jodsan - gl with bding and catching little miss eggie

Krystielove - that sounds like a beautiful trip away and couldn't have come at a better time by the sounds of it (with the tww and all) im very jealous, would love a short trip with DH, work has been so crazy, a break would be perfect! Praying that those lovely high temps stay high for you

Vanaithi - sorry your'e feeling down at the moment, hope you and DH managed to get some bding in, and try to relax and be kind to yourself

Sarajane - im definatley going to look into acupuncture, will try and start it next cycle if we have no success this month. that the temp dip was implantation for you hun

Plc - you are most very welcome, im glad your'e sticking around to chat to us, its so nice to hear of such great news, it gives us all hope! Hope you are doing well, resting lots and enjoying your pg.

Tina k - I have my fingers crossed for you, hope you get a nice surprise at the end of the month!

Leyza - Hello and welcome. Very sorry to hear of your losses, I wish none of us had to experience this, but you have certainly come to the right place for support and understanding. This group of women are amazing and I couldnt imagine going through this ttc journey without them. GL, and I hope your journey is a short one.


AFM - I am feeling ok, maybe beginning to fool myself into thinking that this is how I felt when I was pg last time, but im just to skeptical to entertain those thoughts too much. Will see how we go, but I don?t feel negative which is nice for a change.


Ok ladies, that's all I have time for today, but I will continue the personals to everyone else tomorrow - so to those not mentioned yet...a huge hello and hugs

Issy

[plc1805]

Leyza - my heart goes out to you for your losses. I pray you find all the support you need in here to help you thru ur grief.

megsmum - glad ur back - we missed ya

krystie love - thanks for the info - I'll check it out after this.....

WTH - bummer about the stupid FS - I'm not surprised about the reaction to the BBTs - my ob said the same thing but my ob seems to have a better bedside manner than the FS u visited (sigh!). Any faint chance you could seek another FS?

Hello to every other wonderful one of you - thinking about you always!!

me - just hanging around for next ob appt 17 jun and next scan 1 jul.

ETA: krystielove - my result is It's a girl! (Chinese Age 38 at Lunar month 3) - let's see if it's correct!! thanks again!

[smilanatu]

jen...

SaraJane... Full of hope for you!!!

KrystieLove...Weekend was just wonderful...so relaxing...we really didn't do anything "special" just hung out with family and friends eating BBQ LOL

plc...mine is similar to yours...Chinese Age 38 at Lunar month 4...I guess I didn't realize we are the same age! How's that bump coming along?

Okay ladies it's time!!!

[Acria]

Hey ladies.

Sorry I haven't posted in a few days, I've felt really down in the dumps since AF showed her face. She's been strange, so I did a test tonight just in case, but it was BFN, as deep down I knew it would be, oh dear.

I'm looking at fertility friend atm, which I've never bought a VIP for, but it's given me a few days free VIP and based on my signs it shows I may have missed ovulation by 4 days last cycle. Typical. So I've memorised the fertile days and predicted ovulation day for me for this cycle so when the free Vip days run out I'll remember the right days, lol.

I've got my fingers crossed for all those in TWW. Take care girls.

Lisa xx

[jen805]

plc-- The Chinese calendar predicted both my boys, this is the first time ever that I've had a girl prediction! Now I just need to get pregnant! Good luck with your girl!!


Vanaithi--Good luck with the preseed! Just got shipping info on my preseed and thermometer, they went out yesterday, but they're coming through the postal service which could make it take a little longer to get here. AF still lingering, so I still have some time--I'm more anxious right now to begin temping since I won't use the preseed until right before O. Perhaps you can entice DH into some extra with a kinky movie--that always seems to get them in the mood! Go catch that egg, girl!


AJC--Please look for me in your dreams! lol... Hey, what's it now, eight sleeps to go? Where's that fast forward button?


KrystieLove--Magnesium and calcium for a girl, huh? I'll have to give it a try. I looked up the type of food you should avoid if you're trying for a girl, and realized why I have boys! There's no way I can stay away from pizza... and coffee... and even red licorice! Seems as though all the foods I enjoy are the ones I'm supposed to avoid if I want a girl! It figures! Good luck again with your appointment on Friday--screw being patient, you should get the hcg! As you can tell, patience is not my forte!


Where there's hope--Sorry you're feeling so deflated about your FS appt. Sounds like a typical man! I truly think that only women should deal with fertility issues. A man can think he's read all the books and know all the statistics, but he's lacking a uterus--so how can he even pretend to understand to know what's going on inside a woman's body? Especially when each woman is different! One more question on the preseed: if you don't use it all, and there's still some left in the applicator, can it be used again at a later time?


megsmum--Glad to see you're still around! Sorry to hear about DD's conjunctivitis-- and on her b-day even! Hope she still managed to have a great day! Praying the clomid brings you a BFP with no ill side effects!


Leyza-- to our thread! You're always welcome here, and you've definitely come to the right place for unconditional support and understanding! I'm so, so sorry to read of the loss of your twins! Praying for a quick AF for you to begin the healing process from the inside. I know you said you have to wait until Aug. to begin TTC, which gives us plenty of time to get to know each other! We'll help you through this time, I promise!


issy--I sure could use another shlumpadinka day! I've actually heard her use that word on tv--how funny! She's got her own vocabulary--right down to her vajay-jay! You sound like you're back to your optimistic self--glad you're feeling more positive!


Oh, I put the link to my chart in my sig, but obviously there's no temps to look at yet--I'll let you know when I take my first temp! Just being anxious, I guess!

[jen805]

hey where did my ticker go??? Be back soon for more personals...