TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 08

[jen805]

mollycat, Canary, & smilanatu--I knew I wasn't lucky enough to have remembered everyone! So sorry! Hope you're all doing well. Canary, hope your wrong about AF! Wish I could answer your question on how long it will take to conceive--I'm asking the same question myself! I only had 1 cycle since ttc, so I'm also feeling very impatient & sorry for myself! My DF likes to avoid the subject as well, he just doesn't know what to say. I can understand that, and since I've met everyone here, I'm actually ok with him avoiding the subject! No exploding women here, please, whine ( I don't like that word--you're not whining, you're venting!) as much as you need to--it helps to heal the heart. Take care!

[Magda]

Hi Ladies,

Wow again I am so behind with everything. I am now taking an online course which I should have started a few weeks ago so now I am trying to crame to catch up. I have also been alittle moody because of being pg and wanting everything to be ok. I am 5 wks now and I go to the dr tomorrow so I will be able to talk to him about when I will be able to go for a sonogram, I just need to hear my baby's strong heartbeat. Sometimes I think that I don't have any symptoms and then I will have some. So it is taking so much to keep calm and try not to stress out about my pg. I hope you guys understand.

JMG and 1180: CONGRATULATIONS on your I am so happy for you guys.

Natty: I am so happy to hear that your hcg levels are good. And I have taken the attitude that you had on Saturday. Thanks for that.

Trac73: I should have thought of that and taken a picture of my digital "Pregnant" result, it went away in 24hrs. The 2nd test i took said Pregnant before I put it down too. GL on your blood test I am sure everything is fine. Heck i know everything is fine with all of us.!!!!!!!!!

Jen805: Thank you for asking about me. I am wishing you GL for this month. Jen you should really try to take your temp every morning, because I think you have a better picture of what is going on. That or you can bd every 2 or 3 days for 2 1/2 week stretch a few days after af leaves.

Canary: Did you say that you started spotting and think af is going to arrive? Well that does not mean that af will arrive. Just take it easy and relax. And you are not whinning dear, it is ok. You know I had the same question after my mc how long it would take to conceive. When I m/c I knew that I would become pg in March just because I believe that I am only fertily every other month and january was a good month but that was mc month and feb would be a bad month. This really is what I believed but in talking to my dr they assured me that I can o every month with only my 1 tube, so i thought ok it will happen in feb and it didn't so I started to get alittle worried and very stressed. I almost thought I hadn't made it in March, I have to say I was shocked. But what I guess I am trying to say is everyone is different and you have to believe that it will happen and relax, take care of yourself (take your prenatal vitamins, folic acid is very important) and just have fun dtd. I know it will happen for you very soon.

Mary: I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I am sorry that you had to go through that so late into it. I am sure you have come to find that the ladies here are here for you to support you. I know my words can't take away your pain, but I hope that you can find comfort in knowing that although your baby will always be with you in mind and spirit, it will get better and there will be a bfp in your future.

Bettyboop, how are you feeling?

To all of the lovely ladies here that I have missed, wishing you all gl in dtd and the ones in tww and the one waiting one more week to ttc. Gl to all of you and lots of healthy and happy to come.

[Trac73]

Hello to Everyone

I want to congratulate JMG on her BFP, as well as 1180 Congrats i hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy

Hello to everyone - i hope that you are all doing well, with lots of Bding, Twwing and taking care of yourselves.

AFM - I received my results today and they are a positive BFP. My doctor told me that it was more likley that we are a month pregnant rather than two. So unfortunately i will need to go through the dreaded 6 week mark which for the past two m/c has been. But on the other hand i am feeling rather positive about this one as i am already having nauesea, headaches, backache, twinging down there and extrememly tired. As for the twins we will not know until ultrasound, which i don't think it will be i just think it is my DH dream. I don't need to go back to the doctor for another 4 weeks which will be an agnoising time but i know i cna do it and all will be great. Well off now for my first parent teacher interview at my DD daycare centre .......I know she is 3 can you believe they have parent teacher interviews, where is this world going.

Take Care and Sending lots of

[plc1805]

Trac - honey that is so great about the convincing BFP - keep positive and u will get thru this we'll make sure of it!!

Magda - oh sweet i can't imagine how hard it would be if i were in ur shoes. my m/cs were a while ago now and with more time now to build up to my next pg () I'm sure when i get there il be struggling too to keep calm - i pray you keep strong...

Hope everyone is well!! Canary (and any other lovely heading towards the end of TWW) - sending you super dooper vibes!!

[Natty]

Hi Ladies

Well I guess I will join Brockstar in moving on as well. Not that I feel that I am ready but I want to do the right thing by all the beautiful ladies posting here who are TTC.

I just wanted to say thank you all for being such wonderful women - for providing me with inspiration, insight and courage and for making me realise that all my wierd and wonderful feelings are normal!

I hope to see all of you posting on the 1st trimester pregnancy discussion board very very soon announcing your . And for those of you who have a BFP already, I look forward to continuing our cyber friendship on the other boards.

Thank you all and wishing every one of you lots and lots of luck in TTC.

[nicksterUK]

Hi all- so glad to see so many new BFPs- issuing tonnes of sticky vibes adn baby dust for everyone (me included).
Has been a very stressful week so far- started bleeding suddenly on Monday lunchtime (heavy, bright red etc). Called DH and went straight to emergency dept and spent the rest of the day there. After numerous urine check/pulse/bp etc and 'chats' about the negative implications/hopeful implications (why can't they just get to the point 'is it dead or alive?') they looked for heartbeat. 2 people failed to find it and wanted to send me home to 'complete the m/c' but this fabulous nurse from gynae came down from the 6th floor and said she would do an ultrasound. It's normally only open between 10-12 so she and her Ward Sister opened it up especially.They clearly recognised that 'confirmation either way' was what was needed and hey presto- there was Junior, complete with heartbeat and waving. He (or she) was low down, but measuring 11 weeks 2days (11+ 4 today) and even did a somersault when they did the sonogram (obviously didn't like it). Think DH and I cried even more when seeing bubs than we did when we thought the worst. Anyway, there is one bub (not two but I don't mind) and he seems to be hanging in there...so far... The bleeding has slowed right down, but is still really red. Just hanging on to the fact that I'm not clotting, not got cramps and no backache. Am on bed rest (well sofa rest) for now so just waiting with baited breath... for the next 6 months maybe!!
Told you that I couldn't leave you yet- see, I still need you
Am keeping everything crossed- and will let you know how we go xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[JMG]

Thanks to AJC, jodsan, jen805, smilanatum plc1805, canary, magda, and mollycat for your congratulatory wishes.

plc1805 - Good on you for the good result at your follow up appointment for your heart monitoring. Here's hoping you keep getting those good results.

Canary - Here's hoping that AF stays away for you and you are on your way for a BFP.

Magda - I understand how you feel about the no symptons, it is not very reassuring, but I bet in a week or two you'll be wishing those symptoms would slow down. They must just be building up to something big!!

Trac73 - for having you BFP confirmed. Good luck for your journey.

Natty - Goodbye from this thread. Here's hoping we can meet again in the paml thread soon.

NicksterUK - Great news on your u/s. I bet your grateful for that nurse for coming down and giving you some peace of mind. the bleeding stops for you.

AFM I am sitting by and being patient until my doctors appointment next Monday to confirm the BFP. After everything is confirmed, I can move onto the paml thread and hopefully sit back and enjoy this prenancy.

[plc1805]

Oh nickster honey - what a HUGE scare!!! Come on baby nicki - don't scare ur mum and dad like that!!!!!!! He or she obviously thinks you are in need of some r'n'r and pulled a prank so that you are now forced to rest . Sweet look after urself and make sure that DH is fussing over u!!! You are in my prayers!!

Natty - it is so good that u r moving on but i am sad to see you go as a valued member in here. Looking forward to seeing you again in PAML thread one day!

[smilanatu]

bettyboop... I am simply thrilled for you!!! I hope all stays well for you and you get a BFP soon.

AFM: today is O day according to mymonthlycycles.com we have been BDing since Monday and will continue just in case...besides nothing wrong with BDing I have my fingers crossed we get it this cycle as my birthday was Saturday and this would be a wonderful belated gift!!!

[smilanatu]

Nickster...I'm keeping you in my thoughts! Take care of YOU!!!

[seenabeena]

Congratulations to all the ladies with BFP's ~ what a month

I am on CD45 and no sign of a period, a BFN 2 days ago and totally confused I just wish I would get my period or a bfp just so I know. This waiting SUCKS! Will wait another week before poas.

[jen805]

Good morning, ladies! Love to wake up every morning to all your posts! Does anyone know the time difference from CA to Australia?

AJC--Thanks for the tww reflection--that's definitely a much more optimistic way of looking at the anxiety of the tww! So sorry about this Fri. being a difficult day for you--we're all here for you!

bettyboop--Never thought I'd say this, but YEAH AF!!! You're on your way!

JMG--GL at your appt. on Monday!

nickster--OMG, what a terrible scare! So glad to hear they were able to see bub on the u/s (smiling at the thought of him/her doing somersaults!)! Also glad that they've put you on couch rest! You need it, so take advantage of it!

Natty--So happy for you that you're moving on! We'll miss you, but I plan on being right along with you sometime very soon! Good luck, and God bless!

Trac--Sending you tons of positive pg vibes!! You're in my prayers!

Magda--lol, don't let my DF hear you telling me about bd'ing every couple days! I think he enjoys the ttc part of this journey the most! It's his belief that we should be trying twice a day, everyday! lol....men...
I figure that if it doesn't happen for me this mo. then I will try taking my temps. I wouldn't be me if I didn't try to do it the hard way first! It's a bad habit that I have--doing things the hard way. So glad to hear things are going well with you! Keep taking it easy, you're on your way to a healthy, happy pg!

AFM, supposed to O today (according to my chart at FF). Keeping everything crossed! Hope you all have a wonderful day!