TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 08

[seenabeena]

Congratulations to all the ladies with BFP's ~ what a month

I am on CD45 and no sign of a period, a BFN 2 days ago and totally confused I just wish I would get my period or a bfp just so I know. This waiting SUCKS! Will wait another week before poas.

[maybe baby]

Sadly but still hopeful would like to join everyone here - I have just been told I have suffered a missed miscarriage (10.4 weeks). No signs, nothing. Am still in shock. Have a D&C tomorrow.

Can't believe this has happened

Sasha

[Baby Angels]

Soooo sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing that will take the pain away but hopefully by being here and allowing yourself to greive then hopefully it will help....even if its only in a small way.

There is one thing I will say.... and every lady in here has heard it from me before.... take care of you.... and just do it all ONE DAY AT A TIME. Dont expect to much from yourself, dont allow others to expect from you.... just you do for you....

I havent posted the poem off the web site for a while and I think with all the recent additions to our little group I will

A Pair of Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don?t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.


You will get stronger... you will be able to see without the haze above you.... Just do it at your own pace.... ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HUGE HUGS

[jen805]

maybe baby--I wish I had the magic words that would take away all your pain! Just know that you didn't do anything wrong--I think that's the hardest, yet the most important thing for all of us to comprehend. You'll find yourself consumed will all kinds of emotions right now--sadness, anger, confusion--it's all completely normal and is part of the healing process. Allow yourself to cry and vent, and don't expect too much out of yourself right now. Take the time you need to grieve. I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel--we'll all help you get there. You're in my thoughts and prayers!

[smilanatu]

maybebaby...the ladies here a wonderful support! I am sorry for your loss but you couldn't have found a better place to share.

AJC & plc1805...thanks for your well wishes

mollycat...goodluck to you and happy early birthday...maybe we''ll both have great memories of this years birthday!

jen805...looks like we are BDing partners......goodluck to you gurlie!

[Canary]

Hello Everyone,

I just wanted to say a big thank you to Mollycat, Jen, Magda, plc1805, JMG and AJC (I hope I havent missed anyone). What a wonderful place this is! I was feeling really low, and just 'yuk', then I logged in yesterday and read all of your posts and came away feeling 10 times better. AF arrived in full today and I feel a bit more optomistic, cos now I am on CD1 and not CD33, waiting for AF!
I am GUTTED that I am going away for 3 nights this month- and they are 3 of my most fertile days (CD13 to 15, I usually ovulate on CD19, but cover all bases in case I O on CDs14-19). OK, I need a plan. I'm off to a conference on CD13, I'll have to BD in the morning before I go, and can BD on CD15 when I get back! Isn't it funny how days are no longer mon, tue, weds, but CD1,2,3 etc...?!

AJC- I am totally with you on the 'glimmer of hope during 2WW' concept. I posted something similar a few days ago, although I did say that I quite LIKED being in the 2ww for that reason, and I think that made me sound a little mad! I'll be thinking of you tomorrow (11th), hun, I hope it goes OK

Nickster- Oh, I read your post with my heart in my mouth, but am so glad that junior is OK. I can imagine the things that must have been going through your head at the time. Hope that it is plain sailing from now on. Keep us updated.

Betty- Horray!!! What great news!!! Now you are CD ? 2- ready to ttc really soon!!

Barbara- Hi! We havent heard from you in a while. Are you doing OK?

SeenaBeena- I so agree. Waiting is sh*t.

MaybeBaby So sorry to hear of your recent loss. This website is wonderful, I am sure that you will find plenty of supportive ladies here. Hope the op goes OK. Keep us posted on how you are doing.

Just a quick question before I go. How many days before O are we 'supposed' to be fertile for? I think that I read that it was about 3 or 4.
Thanks everyone, byee!!

[seenabeena]

Sasha I am so so sorry to hear of you recent loss. Like the other girls have said make sure you take some time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Thinking of you

[nicksterUK]

especially for Tina!! and BettyB (Bring it on 'O'!!! xxx) and all who are gonna get 'fertile-jiggy' this month, and for Emmy-Lou (do it do it do it! Got everything crossed xx) and those TWW as well- so that's all of you covered in layers of babydust, all sparkling and looking GOOD!!

all!!
As Katiegirl and I, and the other BFP's, all appreciate that it's difficult or annoying sometimes that we still mooch around here for a bit longer maybe, but we SSssooooooooooooo want you lot in the pg boat with us. I'm willing it and always have everything crossed for you ladies. And you know that I still need you a bit, but know you don't think I'm being selfish or inconsiderate- thank you thank you thank you xxxx

Anyhow, my bleeding has stopped, finally, and we still had a heartbeat yesterday so I am having a tentative sigh of relief today... see how we go from here :-)

Angel- hey buddy, miss ya heaps and hope you don't stay out of the loop too long xxx thinkin' of ya

[Emmy-Lou]

So sorry for your loss...take care and were all here for you!!

Angel Babies..that poem just sums everything up so well...

Hello to everyone..
Well as for me AF is four days late and I'm frustrated..I have no preg symptoms at all..so presume my cycles are still out...
last night was a bit hard - I was out at dinner and a lady was there that is due the same time I would have been..I found myself wishing it was me with a belly...and could'nt help but look at her from time to time...
Anyway enough whining from me..
Have a lovely weekend ladies...I'm going to by a HPT tomorrow if AF hasn't arrived..just to give me some peace of mind..I'll update when I know more.
Thanks for listening.
xoxoxox

[tempus moriendi]

Hi all! Tried to post two days ago, but there was something going on with the computer or something. Then last night couldn't go on at all. Now I have to get ready for work (lousy work...). Just wanted to say I'm thinking about you all and will have to catch up on all the recent posts and new people!

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone, haven't done personals for a while, I'll do my best not to miss anyone.

Oh maybe baby, I'm so sorry for your loss I dont really know enough about the progesterone tabs thing, but it makes sense. As far as I know the corpus luteum should be producing enough progesterone to sustain the early pregnancy and if it doesn't then there is possibly something wrong with the ovum. Whatever it was that caused it, there was absolutely nothing you could have done differently. You just have some good rest over the next few days and take care of yourself. We are all here when you need us.

Emmylou - I really hope your AF is late bc you are UTD, got my fingers crossed for you

Angelbabies - I'm a little bit teary from that, you have such a beautiful outlook on the world. I really like to believe that everything that hurts us along the way makes us stronger. You know when I first had my mc I found this thread and read everyone's posts (and the link to your site) and just bawled my eyes out. I just couldn't bring myself to post until a couple of months later but just reading it helped me to grieve properly. Thank you for your brillance. I hope you are doing ok.

Canary - you can be fertile as far out as 7 days before O (some sperm can live that long in the right environment). If you use preseed, you should be able to create the right environment for the swimmers for BDing in the days before you go away and if you haven't O'd yet when you get back then your CM should be coming up to EW anyway.

Katiegirl - It sounds like everything is going really well, good luck with the scan next week!

Seenabeena - What a pain your cycle is being a bit evasive. Do you know when you O'd? Hoping that there is a very good reason for no AF

Laura - Sounds like everything is great, I didn't have any ms with mc either so it does sound like a good sign. Take care, thinking of you and hoping to join you vsoon.

Bettyboop - Yay for AF!!!!!! Your doctor did good! Hope your cycle goes right into an ovulatory one this month so you can start TTC. A BFP is just around the corner, I know it.

AJC - I'm with you, the TWW can be quite exciting bc there is always the promise. It's just that it seems to go a little too slowly (I think 10dpo-14dpo is the most exciting part!!). On a different note, so sorry about today. You do something nice for yourself, but some new shoes or something. I'm thinking of you.

JMG - good luck with the doctor on Monday.

Jen - hope you caught the eggy!

Big hello to everyone else!

AFM - Got a massive migraine last night and worse today, I had to take a nurofen, hope it its not too naughty, im 3dpo. Is there anything you can take when pg just in case I am?

[AJC]

Jodsan - I always thought that panadol was ok to take (if you have to).

Emmylou - so annoying when cycle goes out of whack. Have you done a hpt at all yet? You could be pg? I hope you are! Sounds like it must have been hard for you over dinner last night.

Kategirl - funny thing is that I do feel an intense wave of jealousy when I hear of a friend or relative is pg - however each time I have found out that someone in here is pg I genuinely feel the happiest of feelings about it. I do stalk the PAML thread every now and again so I'm sure I'll keep up to date with your pg (and the other girls too).

[tutmae]

Oh my. Oh my.
I just poas (my dr gave me one this week and told me to wait until wednesday but I'm just too darn impatient). I waited a little while and nothing, but I just went in (it's been about 9 mins) and there's a shaddow. It's faint, but it's there. It's 1 day before I was going to test but the doc said to text on wednesday to be certain. Now I play the waiting game. My hopes are raised slightly.... damn! I was kinda liking the lack of getting my hopes up!

Congratulations to all the BFP's!!

Babydust for all!!

[jen805]

tutmae--Dr.'s (especially the male ones) just don't understand that it's impossible for us to be patient and wait! There's no way I could hold on to a HPT for 5 days if there was some chance that it could be a BFP! My prayers are with you that you'll get your BFP! Sending lots of baby dust!

nickster--SO glad to hear bleeding stopped! Take it easy this weekend!

mollycat--Make sure you follow through on pampering yourself! Enjoy your quiet weekend!

tina k--Sorry about AF--hope April is the month for both of us!

Emmy-Lou--4 days late? You should definitely POAS! Not everyone has symptoms so early on. Go for it, girl!

AJC--Isn't it funny how we can be so jealous of the pg people we don't know, yet feel so completely and genuinely thrilled when we hear about the BFP's here?

Jodsan--Hope I caught the eggy, too! Hope your migraine stays away--used to get them when my thyroid was out-of-whack, they're terrible!

Katiegirl--Don't worry, we're genuinely happy for your BFP--we know our time will come! A while we may wish we were in your shoes, it doesn't diminish our happiness for you!

maybe baby--Glad you're getting the support you need here! Hope AF arrives quickly and makes your stay here as short as possible! Hope you're feeling a little better!

Canary--I, too, always feel 10 times better after reading all the supportive threads! Seriously, I get the butterflies every time I check the posts! It's hard to explain.... I would be sooooooo lonely if it weren't for all the caring women that are so supportive and understanding here! Hope AF is quick so you can continue your journey to a BFP!!

smilanatu--hey BD partner--wouldn't it be way cool if we both end up pg together?!!? Keeping everything crossed for us!

Gotta get the kids off to school. Will be back soon!

[jen805]

Well, ladies, I'm off to camping with DF and kids. Will at least make the weekend go by faster, as I've now entered the ttw. AJC, I'm remembering your reflections! I will definitely miss hearing from you all while I'm gone, I'm always waiting in anticipation for the next post! Guess I'll have something to look forward to on Sunday besides unpacking and dirty clothes! Anyways, will be thinking about you all! Sending out lots of sticky vibes and baby dust--(Imagine me with a leaf blower!!!) Hope you all have a great weekend!