Soooo sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing that will take the pain away but hopefully by being here and allowing yourself to greive then hopefully it will help....even if its only in a small way.

There is one thing I will say.... and every lady in here has heard it from me before.... take care of you.... and just do it all ONE DAY AT A TIME. Dont expect to much from yourself, dont allow others to expect from you.... just you do for you....

I havent posted the poem off the web site for a while and I think with all the recent additions to our little group I will

A Pair of Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don?t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.


You will get stronger... you will be able to see without the haze above you.... Just do it at your own pace.... ONE DAY AT A TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HUGE HUGS