TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[Inanna]

Glad to see those vibes are working!!!!! Congratulations!!!

Congratulations also to KBowman!!! I was so very happy to see y our ticker... Let's hope the coming weeks bring more to this little corner!

[Baby Angels]

You know what Nickster and Starrysky.... I am still siting here so excited and thrilled for you both. So much so that with Anthony s mom and Myself and others all 2ww i m going to leave some more stickys



I m also going to look around the site to see if there is somewhere that is specific for BFP after M/C. I think during that 40 week...... or as Anthonysmom called it the 40ww... its going to be a very trying time and having the support of each other will help.... and even if I m not BFP myself then I ll still pop in and catch up with you all and see if your keepin my seat warm.



{Post Note....... There is one.... its called "pregnancy after miscarriage"..... Starrysky is already in there warming seats for us all}

[Magda]

hi ladies,

I am sorry I am not doing personals, I hope that everyone is doing well.

Nickster and Starrysky, Congratulations! I am so happy for you guys. May you have a wonderful pregnancy. As for me I am in 2Ww but I really don't think it happened which kinda sucks because I would have loved a november baby because that is my birth month.

Anyways, ladies have a blessed and wonderful evening.

[Inanna]

Angelbabies you will find Pregnancy after miscarriage/loss here

[Baby Angels]

Flowerchild..... Thank You so much for that...... I went hunting for it and found it, was thrilled that it was there



Ohhh PS Nickster and StarrySky.,.... still thrilled for you and still sitting here with a huge smile on my face.

[Simba]

hi all,

i am new to all this so you will have to bear with me. i have found myself here 3 months after the loss of my full term baby girl. a trouble free pregnancy, however a knot in her umbilical cord caused oxygen deprivision and after 2 1/2 weeks she passed away. we are now on the journey of ttc again - at day 23 and almost scared to hope.

sim

[Baby Angels]

Simba.... Firstly let me welcome you to our group of lovely and wonderful ladies. You have unfortunatly come to the right place, what I mean by that is I wish none of us had to be here in the first place. You are however now surrounded by people who truley do understand. You can be completely open to whatever degree you want in here, you are not judged or expected to be anything than who you are and what you are feeling at the time.

I understand, as would everyone in here, how scared you are when you do TTC again. We all hope and prey for a positive test but also all know that when we get it another set of fears will begin.

I m going to copy a poem in here, the other ladies have already seen it but I have a feeling it may help you to feel comfort and feel that you can open up to us and know you are being understood.

A Pair of Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don?t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.


Simba.... you are not alone.

[plc1805]

Welcome Simba hun - so so sorry for your awful loss.
Angel Babies - birthday buddy - you always know the right thing to say.

[Simba]

thank you angel babies.. the poem is so true, the tears were streaming down my face as i read it. i remember as i sat by her NICU bed all i used to say was "its not fair" stuff like this doesn't happen to people like us. but unfortunately it has and it does to many other wonderful couples.

i look forward to meeting all the other wonderful people here soon - i'm off to drink honey and lemon to get rid of my dreadful cold - cant risk taking anything in case i might be pg.

[smilanatu]

Nickster and Starrysky...CONGRATULATIONS!!! Be blessed ladies!

[nicksterUK]

Simba, so very sorry to hear your sad news. What an absolutely devastating time you have had, and right before Christmas. Special hugs :hugs:I hope you find solace and the support you need here. It will be bitter sweet, but the ladies here are truly inspiring. xx

Angel- LOL with the spelling scenario! I so wanted to blurt my news out, but resisted Thanks for the numerous lovely messages of congrats and support, am really touched. Thank you xx

ALSO 'thank you SOooooo much' ladies for your good wishes...it means so much more to me having shared this part of my journey with you. Thank you all

I've been smiling to myself all day at work, bursting to tell someone, but DH and I don't want to let anyone at work know yet. We rang our parents this evening, who are thrilled and emotional, and we have asked them to keep it quiet too. I can't get a doctor's appt until next Thursday, so just keeping everything crossed that all is well so far. I've come down with a stinking snotty (TMI) cold, just in time for the weekend (yay!) but I ain't complaining!!! I feel so blessed!
I'm sorry ladies, I'm here babbling on....I don't mean to be insensitive. I'm definitely going to be lurking and throwing over you all CONSTANTLY okay? I'm terrified that I may end up having a reason to return here, but at the same time I feel ok, quite calm (for now) because I know I could do it if I had to...because of you! I wish we could empty this thread and all transfer over to the 'pg after mc' thread in the next few weeks. Can't wait for the next BFP here!! Yay!

Starrsky Wow, so happy to share this with someone, am so scared, but excited iykwim? x sharing tonnes of with you :-)

Anyway, I know I'm burbling on so I'll pack up for now. I promise I will keep EVERYTHING crossed for you all and will send SUPER vibes sprinkled all over the cakes that I'm going to bake for you, with Barbara and AngelB's special 'fertile' ingedient!
Love and hugs
Nicki

[Simba]

thank you ladies for all your welcome wishes,

Congratulations to Nickster and Starrysky i will have my fingers crossed for you.

i am wondering though if maybe i am in the wrong thread ?? i guess what i mean is that my worries are not so much if i can get pg or if i will mc but more emotionally and physically how i will cope with another pg. i had a c/s with lani and more than likely if i get pg soon i will have to have another c/s as there is a slightly greater risk that the scar may rupture. the chance of knot happening again is no greater for me than it is for anyone else (and its really low - i didnt mean to scare anybody!) but i guess the thought is still there that it could happen.

i hope this doesnt sound like i am being disrespectful - i truely believe that a loss is a loss and it doesnt matter when it happens we have all lost the future and the hopes and dreams for that child.

anyway i am going on a bit now, my love to you all and thank you all again.