TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[tempus moriendi]

AF came with such a vengeance today! Been changing double pads every hour and a half since morning, and the clots were so big I had the awful suspicion it was a very early MC and not AF at all. So I POAS and got a BFN (to my profound relief). According to the internet, very heavy periods with big clots can be caused by severe stress which we definitely had this past month. So I'm redoubling my stress reduction techniques.

Katiegirl: Yayyy!!! Congratulations and I'll be praying for you.

Trac73: your temp should rise 24 hours after O and stay there until AF (14dpo) or preg. When did your temp first go up?

berecca623: awww, that story was so sweet!

nicksterUK: wouldn't it be better if you were just financially independent and not have to worry about some dumb boss?

tina_k: sorry...sending cyberhug

pbstar: I wonder if there's a 12-step program for POAS addicts like you...LOL

[Baby Angels]

nicksterUK: wouldn't it be better if you were just financially independent and not have to worry about some dumb boss?

Hey tempest.... not every boss is dumb..... there are some good ones.... I have many staff...... we are nt all that bad.

Ok... running off to cry now.... sniff... sniff...

[Jodsan]

Well I am glad to get on here and here some good news, congratulations Katiegirl

My GF is not good, only a matter of hours unfortunately. My parents are at the hospital now with him, just waiting for the phone call, arggh.

Oh Angel, your different of course, they must be talking about stupid middle age men bosses. Not all the fabulous ladies in their mid to late thirties who are now taking over the world! Hey, does everyone love Cashmere Mafia or what? Although they are perhaps a little too perfect, its lovely to see the world as it should be! Good luck with your diet!

Tempus - sorry about AF. It could be a missed MC, the night before my MC my hcg was only 7 (I knew it was going down) -so that wouldn't have shown up wit just a POAS. Just take care of yourself.

Tina K - still got my fingers crossed for you.

Pbstar - I just realised I'm soooo rude, I didn't even congratulate you about your weight loss before getting into my rant about not being too hard on youself and my exercise regime. Sometimes I'm just too dumb! Well done and keep up the good work, YOU go girl!

Canary - did you really go for a run at 5.30am!?! Go get em!

[AJC]

Kategirl - Congratulations - so happy for you!!!

Jodsan - :hugs:

Tina -

Berecca - I know how you feel with the 'one track mind' around O time. It's difficult to keep it exciting when you know you kind of have to 'tonight' because you want to conceive.

Tempus - hope AF settles down, goes away and stays away (well for 9 months -ish- anyway)!!!

Nickster - look forward to hear about your growing tummy. Take care and keep us informed in here.

Wow - this thread has gone from a cake shop to a gym - geez. I had a bit of nougat honey log tonight then felt guilty

Not sure if I have O'd yet or not. Temp says no but body says yes, I am starting to wonder if my bbt therm. has had it's day? How long do they usually last? I've used this one since May last year (almost everyday). ??? Oh well, time will tell.

Take Care all - for everyone!!!

[pbstar]

hi girls

feeling slightly guilty this morning as i broke my no alcohol ban on myself last night, had a couple of yummy pina coladas with DH but now i feel really bad...keep thinking what if i am pregnant and i've done some kind of damage...

my rationale at the time was that i have to stop letting TTC rule my life but now i just feel bad...i think deep down i believe that i did cause my miscarriage by having a big binge drink a few days before i found out i was pregnant and i swore myself off alchohol because it might happen again...

anyway i probably am not preg so shouldn't worry...

hey jodsan, thanks for the encouragement hun, i never thought you were rude though! sorry to hear what you are going through on the family front, sending you a big i hope for your GF's sake it is pain free and peaceful...

tempus- if there is a 12 step program for POAS addicts i think i have conquered the first step- admitting i have a problem!good to hear it wasn't an early loss for you and wishing you all the best with your stress reduction...

hi to everyone else and big hugs.

[Canary]

Jodie, :hugs: So sorry to hear about your GF. I lost my wonderful GF almost a year ago and I did not know that it was possible to cry so much. I hope that you and your family have all of the care and support you need right now. one bit in your post did make me laugh, I didn't go running at 5.30am! I am in the UK, it was 6.30pm. There is no way I'd get up at that time of day, never mind go running then!

Katie- Yay! I just knew someone had to get a BFP this week. Many congratulations, have a H&H 9 months. (don't be a stranger)

Pbstar, No, no, no. With all of my heart, I do not belive that you were in any way to blame for your m/c and you must never believe that. Just think of all the alcoholic mothers who spend a whole 9 months completely pickled and give birth to a live infant, and then compare that to your one night. And, dont feel bad about the Pina Coladas. During the 'great coffee debate' , someone (?Angel) said that by depriving yourself of something that you want, you are making yourself more stressed. A couple of drinks once in a while (when not preggers) might actually do some good! There. Lecture over, appologies for being a bit stern.

AngelB- I didnt know you could get 10 packs of HPTs? It sounds as though you have an in-built contraceptive device, going off DH at the wrong time each month!

Nickster, Ha! I really dont like that nasty lady you work with, I'm glad your boss stuck up for you. It's nice to hear that you are feeling sick (IYKWIM)


Tina, Sorry for BFN. :hugs: Like you, I'm also waiting for AF now. Waiting for her is much less exciting that wating to POAS.
Hope everyone is OK,
C

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your lovely messages and positive vibes. I am going to hang around here for a while, as I intend to have a few friends come over to the PAML thread with me! I am hoping to see the GP today - DH says he is not believing until fully confirmed - and yet he keeps smiling at me and this morning he woke up and started rubbing my belly.

Pbstar - please don't be hard on yourself for having those ****tails. I think it is really important to allow yourself some time out from TTC thoughts sometimes. When I had a huge night back in Jan for DH's birthday, I felt normal for the first time in a long time. We had started to TTC and I had considered not having any drinks, but in the end i did and I am glad as it allowed me to just be completely irresponsible. I think we all try so hard to be responsible all the time, that a little bit of irresponsibility is not a bad thing. You need to be kinder to yourself. And you DID NOT cause your mc!

Tina - I think you should test again in a day or so. I tested Tues afternoon and got a negative. I think my urine was too weak as I had been drinking a lot of water etc. If AF is still not on the way then you are still in with a chance.

[Baby Angels]

Hey girl... your not out yet.... Until AF arrives your still a possible......... so now its a 2 and a bit week wait... thats all good.... until she raises her ugly head.... look at nickster... she thought she was out and now she has a huge fat tummy growin and at any stage now she will start the pukin.....LOL ... ohhh why isnt there a smiley for ms....LOL

Well today my alarm went off at 5.30.... ohhhhh I so wanted to push snooze. DH was lying there peacefully....... probably when I love him the most at the moment ("o" is on its way).... anyway up I got and off to the gym.... 10 mins treadmill... 10 mins step thing... 5 mins rowing... OMG I was sweatin it up something cronic by the time I was finished... Ohh I also did "body balance" last night and walked out half way through... what a waist of time that was... I swear the instructer must have been as high as a kite... maybe if he shared some of the people in there could have been a bit more into it. But as for food... I just cant do it. I ve cut out all the junk.... I m eating everything I m meant to be eating but I just cant get it up to the 2000 calaries a day I m meant to have. Healthy stuff just dont have the calories

Well I m off....... time to wake DH and get ready for work.

Take care... and Canary... I want POAS every day off you until you get the BFP or AF arrives.... one of the other ok!......LOL