TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 08 #2

[Jodsan]

Well I am glad to get on here and here some good news, congratulations Katiegirl

My GF is not good, only a matter of hours unfortunately. My parents are at the hospital now with him, just waiting for the phone call, arggh.

Oh Angel, your different of course, they must be talking about stupid middle age men bosses. Not all the fabulous ladies in their mid to late thirties who are now taking over the world! Hey, does everyone love Cashmere Mafia or what? Although they are perhaps a little too perfect, its lovely to see the world as it should be! Good luck with your diet!

Tempus - sorry about AF. It could be a missed MC, the night before my MC my hcg was only 7 (I knew it was going down) -so that wouldn't have shown up wit just a POAS. Just take care of yourself.

Tina K - still got my fingers crossed for you.

Pbstar - I just realised I'm soooo rude, I didn't even congratulate you about your weight loss before getting into my rant about not being too hard on youself and my exercise regime. Sometimes I'm just too dumb! Well done and keep up the good work, YOU go girl!

Canary - did you really go for a run at 5.30am!?! Go get em!

[AJC]

Kategirl - Congratulations - so happy for you!!!

Jodsan - :hugs:

Tina -

Berecca - I know how you feel with the 'one track mind' around O time. It's difficult to keep it exciting when you know you kind of have to 'tonight' because you want to conceive.

Tempus - hope AF settles down, goes away and stays away (well for 9 months -ish- anyway)!!!

Nickster - look forward to hear about your growing tummy. Take care and keep us informed in here.

Wow - this thread has gone from a cake shop to a gym - geez. I had a bit of nougat honey log tonight then felt guilty

Not sure if I have O'd yet or not. Temp says no but body says yes, I am starting to wonder if my bbt therm. has had it's day? How long do they usually last? I've used this one since May last year (almost everyday). ??? Oh well, time will tell.

Take Care all - for everyone!!!

[pbstar]

hi girls

feeling slightly guilty this morning as i broke my no alcohol ban on myself last night, had a couple of yummy pina coladas with DH but now i feel really bad...keep thinking what if i am pregnant and i've done some kind of damage...

my rationale at the time was that i have to stop letting TTC rule my life but now i just feel bad...i think deep down i believe that i did cause my miscarriage by having a big binge drink a few days before i found out i was pregnant and i swore myself off alchohol because it might happen again...

anyway i probably am not preg so shouldn't worry...

hey jodsan, thanks for the encouragement hun, i never thought you were rude though! sorry to hear what you are going through on the family front, sending you a big i hope for your GF's sake it is pain free and peaceful...

tempus- if there is a 12 step program for POAS addicts i think i have conquered the first step- admitting i have a problem!good to hear it wasn't an early loss for you and wishing you all the best with your stress reduction...

hi to everyone else and big hugs.

[Canary]

Jodie, :hugs: So sorry to hear about your GF. I lost my wonderful GF almost a year ago and I did not know that it was possible to cry so much. I hope that you and your family have all of the care and support you need right now. one bit in your post did make me laugh, I didn't go running at 5.30am! I am in the UK, it was 6.30pm. There is no way I'd get up at that time of day, never mind go running then!

Katie- Yay! I just knew someone had to get a BFP this week. Many congratulations, have a H&H 9 months. (don't be a stranger)

Pbstar, No, no, no. With all of my heart, I do not belive that you were in any way to blame for your m/c and you must never believe that. Just think of all the alcoholic mothers who spend a whole 9 months completely pickled and give birth to a live infant, and then compare that to your one night. And, dont feel bad about the Pina Coladas. During the 'great coffee debate' , someone (?Angel) said that by depriving yourself of something that you want, you are making yourself more stressed. A couple of drinks once in a while (when not preggers) might actually do some good! There. Lecture over, appologies for being a bit stern.

AngelB- I didnt know you could get 10 packs of HPTs? It sounds as though you have an in-built contraceptive device, going off DH at the wrong time each month!

Nickster, Ha! I really dont like that nasty lady you work with, I'm glad your boss stuck up for you. It's nice to hear that you are feeling sick (IYKWIM)


Tina, Sorry for BFN. :hugs: Like you, I'm also waiting for AF now. Waiting for her is much less exciting that wating to POAS.
Hope everyone is OK,
C

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your lovely messages and positive vibes. I am going to hang around here for a while, as I intend to have a few friends come over to the PAML thread with me! I am hoping to see the GP today - DH says he is not believing until fully confirmed - and yet he keeps smiling at me and this morning he woke up and started rubbing my belly.

Pbstar - please don't be hard on yourself for having those ****tails. I think it is really important to allow yourself some time out from TTC thoughts sometimes. When I had a huge night back in Jan for DH's birthday, I felt normal for the first time in a long time. We had started to TTC and I had considered not having any drinks, but in the end i did and I am glad as it allowed me to just be completely irresponsible. I think we all try so hard to be responsible all the time, that a little bit of irresponsibility is not a bad thing. You need to be kinder to yourself. And you DID NOT cause your mc!

Tina - I think you should test again in a day or so. I tested Tues afternoon and got a negative. I think my urine was too weak as I had been drinking a lot of water etc. If AF is still not on the way then you are still in with a chance.

[Baby Angels]

Hey girl... your not out yet.... Until AF arrives your still a possible......... so now its a 2 and a bit week wait... thats all good.... until she raises her ugly head.... look at nickster... she thought she was out and now she has a huge fat tummy growin and at any stage now she will start the pukin.....LOL ... ohhh why isnt there a smiley for ms....LOL

Well today my alarm went off at 5.30.... ohhhhh I so wanted to push snooze. DH was lying there peacefully....... probably when I love him the most at the moment ("o" is on its way).... anyway up I got and off to the gym.... 10 mins treadmill... 10 mins step thing... 5 mins rowing... OMG I was sweatin it up something cronic by the time I was finished... Ohh I also did "body balance" last night and walked out half way through... what a waist of time that was... I swear the instructer must have been as high as a kite... maybe if he shared some of the people in there could have been a bit more into it. But as for food... I just cant do it. I ve cut out all the junk.... I m eating everything I m meant to be eating but I just cant get it up to the 2000 calaries a day I m meant to have. Healthy stuff just dont have the calories

Well I m off....... time to wake DH and get ready for work.

Take care... and Canary... I want POAS every day off you until you get the BFP or AF arrives.... one of the other ok!......LOL

[tempus moriendi]

I had an FSH and estrogen today and the results came back normal. But I still think my progesterone is off. I'll find out next week when I get another bloodwork.

Angel Babies: well OBVIOUSLY not YOU. I meant those *other* dumb bosses!!!
so please don't cry...sending apology vibes and a big bunch of cyber flower.

Jodsan: keeping your GF in my prayers. keep us posted.

AJC: i've used the same Becton ****enson BBT since 2003, both to TTA and TTC...

pbstar: i hate to see you eating yourself up with guilt. Just remember all those party girls out in Hollywood drinking and stuff and still have healthy babies. Not that I recommend it, but you know what I'm driving at.

[ll80]

big congrats Katiegirl, wishing you all the very best!!

Well I'm home finally and getting stuck into studying, ick!! Alas no time for excerise today with study and a 3 yr old to keep entertained. Such a sad state of affairs lol I am so really very heartbroken as I am sure you can all tell

Well i got what I thought was AF yesterday at the 27 day mark, but it turned out to only be some light spotting as today I have nothing. That never happens to me so I am not sure what my body is doing, very frustrating. See what happens over the next few days I guess, I am usually 28 days like clockwork, I wouldn't be pg as DP and I have been using condoms while I await the results of my blood tests to make sure we have the thumbs up. Unless a couple got away but I doubt it. Heart attack city if they did lol.

Could also just be my hormones re adjusting as this would only be the second AF since m/c.

All very frustrating!!

Howdy to everyone, Good Luck to all this month!!

....Laura

[Magda]

Hi ladies,

I have not been on for a couple of days and you girls have been very busy here, it has taken me a while to read everything.

Katiegirl: CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am so happy for you.
NicksterUK: Believe me I can imagine what you and Katiegirl and Starrysky: are going through, I know that I will be feeling the same way WHEN I get a BFP. I am already thinking about the fact that everyday I will be wondering if everything is ok with the baby. And I just realized yesterday that on top of dealing with the emotions of just having a m/c I am 41 years old so I will be worrying about other things that can go wrong because of my age. What I am trying to say is girls try to relax and enjoy your pgs. I can feel that everything is going to be fine with all of you and your little ones. But please stay with us we all love hearing from you guys you give us hope.

PBStar, Angel Babies and Jodsan, I too have been putting on weight, I am eating everything in sight. Now you have to understand I am not a big eater, but then again I used to smoke a pack a day and quit in October. I weighed myself and I was shocked to see that I have to lose 20 pounds.

PBStar, Thanks for the CalorieKing.com I am going to check it out, and congratulations on losing weight. And no you did not cause the m/c because of a few drinks, I totally agree with Canary on that.

Angel Babies and Jodsan, you girls inspired be to get to some excersizing.

Jodsan sorry to hear about your GF.

Tempus, I am sorry AF came, I know March will be our month.

Tina_k, I know you got a BFN but AF has not come yet so it is not over.

I got my AF on monday, I was really hoping to have a November baby but when I found out about the mc in Dec and I was planning TTC again I figured it would happen in March so hopefully I predit correctly. Anyways I can't remember who said that they did not want a Dec baby, it really isn't so bad my son was born on Dec 25th and he still gets 2 gifts, I just had his birtday party 3 weeks ago. So hopefully I will have another December baby.

Hello to anyone I have missed.

[nicksterUK]

Katiegirl and Brockstar- YAY!!!! I am thrilled for you- welcome to the 'every twinge is a panic' neurotic 9 month gang! I had a lump in my throat when I read your posts xx for you both, and me too!

My mother rang to say my sister had a baby girl early this morning- Labour lasted 45 mins so she only just made it to the hospital! I am so relieved that I have BFP now cos I know today would be hard for me otherwisw, IYKWIM?

Anyway, I am quiet serene (spaced out more like) and chilled today and decided to take the morning off work to see GP and try to settle my nerves/anxieties a bit. DH says to be assertive (which I normally am, so he can't understand why Ive not stamped my feet a bit more- neither can I). Maybe I just know that no matter how many tests are done, or scans etc if something's going to happen there is nothing I can do about it. Still, I'll see what GP says and take it from there.

Throwing TONNES of over you all- get lucky soon! ;-) xxx