TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[Jodsan]

Bettyboop, you're fine sweetie, big hug I'm sorry if I came off too harsh, I have just lost my GF and then my GF's partner lost her son to cancer 18 hours later so I probably reacted too sensitively to your remarks. I am in a different situation to you, I am not infertile but have been strongly advised by my nephrologist to not have any more than 2 kids as I only have one kidney left and it's not behaving as well as we'd like. So I am trying the gender swaying thing bc I would really love a daughter and I probably only have one shot. I am so sorry you are having such a struggle, got my fingers crossed for you that things will get better

Trac73 - Big hug for you too hun . Dont lose hope, cancer is a strange thing and miracles do happen

Big group hug for all of us, it sounds like we all need it

Let's bring on some Christmas babies!

[Brockstar]

Just thought I would pop in and say g'day.

Not having a good day, just really nervous (shaking hands, etc) and paranoid. Going to loo a million times a day just to check (TMI, I know). Sad too, because I am trying not to get my hopes up but I just want it all to work out OK. I read all these things about people having sore boobs, morning sickness, etc, etc and I don't have anything again this time. Granted, with DS sore boobs didn't hit until the 6 week mark and m/s didnt' hit until 10 weeks, but I guess if I keep telling myself that things aren't right, then I won't get too disappointed.

So girls, tomorrow is another day - it can only get better, right??

Hugs to you all...

[Katiegirl]

Hi Everyone - sounds like everyone could do with some cheering up.
The TTC journey is so difficult for us all, and then when we do get the BFP all new worries and concerns start. It seems neverending.

Brockstar - I know how you are feeling. I just can't shake the irrational feeling that something will go wrong. I really want to believe all will be good, and just as I am feeling okay I then start to worry all over again. I will get the BT results tomorrow, so even though they should offer some comfort, I now have it in my head that maybe something has happened since the test was taken on Friday. When will i relax? The thing I am most nervous about is once again going to a scan to be told that it is over. So - I get what you are going through. Big hugs - we can support each other.

Trac - I hope you are okay. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

I am starving, must go eat. Have a good night everyone.

[Brockstar]

Hi Katiegirl
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Fingers crossed that the BT has the results that you need.
I haven't had a BT yet, I guess we will just wait until we do another PT this weekend and go from there.... I just hate being in limbo.
I'm off to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

[Baby Angels]

Well well well....... everyone seems to be so down and I have no idea why.

The absolute worst thing we could possibly do, not only for our mental health but also our physcial health, is to focus on the negative in any situation.

I know that might sound blanket but I can absolute guarantee you all something. When you focus on the negative you will find yourself spiraling down in it. When you find yourself spiraling downward move forward one step at a time.... one day at a time.

If you focus in the negative in people or the ugliness of some people it will feel like you are surrounded by them.

Let the crap pass you by...... Focus on the positive in any situation.

No matter what you face or have faced or what you think you might face..... look for the good... search for the good and treasure it when you find it.

I m no different than anyone else out in here..... I ve had the losses you ve had.... I ve had things happen in my life that no one should have to deal with and I have the good days and the bad days... I m just saying... stay positive and step forward..... one day at a time.

Speaking of the positive.... We ve had I think 5 BFP s in the last month or so. We have many of us on 2WW (myself included) Yes we ve had AF show her ugly face BUT..... it means your on your way to a 2WW...... And the biggest positive...... our lives ... we are surrounded by people who love and care about us and regardless of the results of TCC we have those around us now who we love and care about.

So even though I m on my "huge butt" health kick... I m going to risk it by breaking out some cyber cake (no calories)..... mud cake with fresh chocolate icing dripping down the sides..... I think this time I ll serve it up just a tad warm still with a hint of fresh cream

Focus on what is good in your life..... and the tougher it gets the more you hold onto the positive.

and just for extra focus.....

[Canary]

Angel, thank you for your positive post. You can always find the right words to say and I'm going to apply your idea of 'Let the crap pass you by' That is an excellent piece of advice and applies very well to a situation I was in at work today (which I wont bore you with). I see that you are in the 2ww now... I'm actually quite glad that I dont have to go through another one of those just yet. I will really have to find a way of keeping clam through the next one!

So, to continue on Angels positive vibe..It's easter soon everybody! I just love this time of year and it's got nothing to do with chocolate! In England, easter is the time of year that the crap weather goes away and the light lasts for longer in the evenings. The daffodils are out already and it won't be long before the tulips pop through (and they are my fave flower). Added to that is 4 days off work and wahey!!... DH and I are going away for a couple of nights. Those of you who remember that I am on CD 3 will have done the maths and realised what we will be up to....!!

Just a few quick messages,
Katie, Nickster, Brockstar, Stattysky....Thinking of you and your precious cargo.

Jodie, sorry to hear about your kidney. I hope all goes well with it during your next pregnancy.

Betty:hugs: I hope you are OK.

Trac, I hope that your Dads treatment is going OK.

Hi everyone else, I hope that you're all OK. GL to the 2ww ers. Who's next to POAS? Have some

I'm off to see whether I can change my ticker. It still thinks I am on CD37!

[mollycat]

Yum - Angel that cake sounds lovely..... i just went for my first walk in weeks, good thing it's only a cyber cake and has no calories. I'm joining the weight loss kick, I lost 20kg last year (put on one or two) and would love to lose another 20 this year.
Jodie - i hope your kidney behaves itself during your next pg. my sister has polycystic kidneys and managed five perfectly healthy pg's. (yes, my family has large numbers of kids).
to katie, nickster, starrysky and brockstar all the best:
must ring today and see when my car will be ready, was told last week insurance company authorised for it to be fixed, hopefully i can get it back by easter, i really don't like our spare car, although we're lucky to have it at the moment.
must go now and kick my kids out of bed so they can go to school

[treelo]

Hi Everyone,

Well once again i have been very quite, we moved house and well to tell you the truth, i was one of the many who have been down in the dumps. But Angel Babies is right, we need to think of the positives and get happy.
So today im happy, because after being broke for so long with moving, im getting paid today and only half of it is going on bills, the rest is going on some things for me and the boys and DH and the house !! Today i will have more than $5 to my name !!! Also today we start BD, every second day for a week and a half. I have to admit that im sort of not in the frame of mind, and i have been listening to some people that have been telling me that im mad for wanting another one now that Lawson is going into prep next year. But i so dearly want another child and i dont think im mad. I know that DH would be very happy to just have our two boys, but i feel that there is another child out there for us waiting to be born. DH is funny, he says that but then as soon as someone puts a baby in his arms, he goes all mushy and says "i want one"

Well im off to get the boys ready for the day.

hugs to everyone
treelo