TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone and a big hello to the newbies - welcome and like everyone else I hope your stay here is a short one. In the meantime, you will find this to be a place of wonderful women who have helped me personally through some very dark days.

Angel babies - please ask your chinese med practioner about the herbs and what it is called. I could then ask my naturopath about taking them. I am keen to take anything that has 'anti-mc' in the description. I also take a heap of herbs and tablets each day - it is amazing how it just becomes part of the morning and evening routine. At least we know that we have been taking care of ourselves pre-conception. Well done on the weight loss. I was hoping to lose some weight before the BFP but guess that will get put on hold - such a shame

As for when to BD in the lead up to O - well I went every day. I thought about the every 2nd day thing, and decided to just try every day - and well it seemed to work. Or like my mother told me - 'Kate you need to be like newlyweds'! I never thought I would have that conversation with my mother.

I hope everyone is doing okay. I will send you all a as we can never have enough of those. Also, for those in Melbourne - Frances Perry hospital run a Subsequent Pregnancy Support Group. It is for people who are considering TTCing after a loss, and for those that are pregnant. It looks like it offers both group and one on one sessions. It is run by a midwife at Frances Perry. So if that is where you will deliver next time, then it might be worth looking into. I called today and they are going to send me more info. It is on their website under 'Educational Seminars' or something like that.

[Mel A]

Went to see my OB yesterday after my M/C In Feb.
He gave me 1 pescrption for Primulot (to be used if AF doesn't turn up in next 45 days)
1 pescription, with 5 repeats for clomid (7 cycles worth) I'm on 100mg.
and 7, day 21 blood test referals.

He then said I could book in to see him in 7 months. Or I could be all optimistic and not book because I'd have to book in eairler when I get a BFP. (well he didn't say BFP but you get the drift)

So I'm crossing fingers for AF to turn up in the next 2-3 weeks, then we can start all over again.

cheers all

[Trac73]

Hey Everyone

Tempus - Thanks for your prays for my dad. I am really looking forward to seeing him today. He has now had one weeks worth of treatment so we have 6 weeks to go. I too am hoping to start BDing tonight. I really am aiming to BD every other day in hope for a BFP for when my dad finishes his treatment how nice would that be?

Danielsgirl - My mum bought me a pendant when i ahd my first m/c back in 2001. I carry it everywhere with me and have revisited in with both my recent m/c. I find it special and a reminder of my precious babies. As time goes by i have found that i have not needed to look at it as much but when i need my babies near me i look at it and kiss it many times.

Brockstar - Congrats i am hoping this is the new kick off we need for more BFP here.

Katiegirl - I agree you never think you would talk to your mother about BD but when things like this happen it seems to become a topic of conversation. My mothers advice to me was to BD everyday because surely then you cannot miss.....but who has the energy to BD everyday after working and chasing after a 3 year old... i surely don't

Well off to pick up my beautiful daughter from Daycare so we can make a cake for Poppy and Granma.

Take Care Hello to all the girls i have missed
Trac

[STARRYSKY]

hi everyone!!
welcome to the newbies, hope your stay is short and sweet.
sorry I havent been around but I am just soooooooo tired, working and coping with the ALL DAY sickness is just not good, anyway, had the day off today, just couldnt face going in today.
I still havent booked in for my ultrasound, I know this will sound silly, but I am just too scared, I dont think I can cope with it, as I found out that my last pregnancy was over at my first us.
Some of you girls may remember beaksie, she now has a BFP to add to our list!!

heres some more good luck all.
xxx
p.s.
apparantley I am 7 wks and 6 days, according to the doc.

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone, just been popping in for quick ones until after "O" day.

Just wanted to say congratulations Brockstar!!!!!!! Sending you heaps of

Got my GF's funeral tomorrow, looking forward to an end to this loooooong week, then next week I'll be in the 2WW, yippee. Really looking forward to the journey this time (can someone please remind me of that when I am thinking about POAS at 7DPO!).

Oh, I haven't said congrats to Angel yet, well done with the .8kg, that's great! They always say slow and steady is the best way. My mum did weight watchers and they recommended only .5kg per week, it took her a year but she lost 25kgs and has kept it off for about 2 years now (apparently bc she did it the right way).

Take care everyone!!!

[Brockstar]

Jodsan, will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Danielsgirl, I bought a charm from lafemmebelle.com or something like that. It's a small gold heart with 2 tiny footprints on 1 side and LOVE on the other. Just in the process of buying a long enough chain so I can slip it over my head. It's 14c gold plated, so I want to preserve it the best I can.

Angel, good work on the weight loss! Everyone has said it: slow is best. My OH and I did Sureslim a few years back, and whilst we lost lots of weight, because the loss was so rapid, it all came back on when we stopped.

Starrysky, I don't blame you for being a little apprehensive about booking your u/s. Revisiting something that was so emotionally painful last time is a huge thing. I am sure that you will have a very clear moment when all your stars are aligned and you will make that call. One small step at a time. Remind me of this when it's my turn, will you?

Trac73 - how was your visit with your dad today? I hope that he is feeling as well as can be expected.

Mel A - here's hoping for :AF: for you soon...

to all the other lovely, supporting ladies in the thread. It's only a short visit tonight, have one very sick little boy on my hands. I think it's gonna be a loooonnnngggg night

Have appt to see my OB tomorrow. I only wanted to chat to him on the phone for 1 minute this afternoon, but his receptionist insisted that I book an appt to see him instead (mainly due to m/c). I feel a bit of a goose because I know he's just gonna tell me to come back in 2 weeks and then hopefully we'll see something. Who knows? He may do a surprise u/s - you never know what we'll find! That is of course, if I am 5 weeks.

[seenabeena]

Hi all
Just wanted to say hello as I join you girls on this TTC journey. This is our first cycle TTC since loosing our baby in January. I'm still afraid of how I will feel when I do fall pg again, but I'm sure the joy and happiness will over ride the fear.

We are not charting yet just keeping and eye on cycle day's and cm. Up to day CD14 and have watery cm so it's Game On for hubby and me

Baby dust to all

[plc1805]

Seenabeena - welcome :hugs: but so very sorry for ur loss. I think we can all relate to that fear of falling pg after the loss of our angels - wishing you heaps of courage for ur TTC journey
Jodsan - my thoughts are with u on this sad day :hugs:
trac - my thoughts are always with u and ur dad - take care hun
Hi and hugs to everyone else -

[Trac73]

Hello Everyone

Brockstar - Dad is doing well this week. Dr's have told him that the first few weeks he might not notice many changes. It was great to see him and see that he is doing well he just looked a bit tired but tha is expected.

Starrsky - Wow 7 weeks and 6 days that is fantastic:confetti. Well actually you will be 8 weeks today by the time you get to read this You go for your U/S when you feel ready. No it is not silly to be scared i remember after my first m/c and preg going for that u/s was terrifying and when i heard the heartbeat of my daughter i cried ans was so relieved, but i totally understand where you are coming from. Goodluck with your u/s when you decide to go.

Jodsan - i will be thinking about you today, my thoughts are with you :hugs:

Seenabeena - Welcome and i hope your time here is short

plc1805 - Thankyou for your thoughts in relation to my dad

I would like to say thankyou to all the ladies in here for there support and thoughts through my journey of not only TTCing but also with my dad currently in treatment.

Well no BD last night as planned as both of us were extremely tired and there was just no way it was going to happen. I am crossing fingers for tonight as i really don't want to miss out on any opportunities as in really would like to have a BFP this month i am feeling really positive about this month but we just need to BD or otherwise it won't happen

Take and fingers: for more BFP

[tempus moriendi]

Went to FS today for hysteroscopy (didn't hurt, just felt peculiar) and ultrasound and guess what--four follicles! Frankly, words fail me. Then they want to see me again on Sunday for another ultrasound and I have to take some injection called Ovudril to make the follicles release the eggs (I'm not sure why he doesn't trust my body to do it on its own, I shoulda asked). So we'll see!

DTD=doing the deed (sorry, a carry-over from the NFP website I go to sometimes)

Brockstar: congratulations! I'll be keeping you in my prayers

ll80: sorry about af

Mel A: so sorry for your loss, and I wish you all the best of luck with the fertility meds. I'll keep fingers crossed for you!

Trac73: fingers extra crossed!!!

STARRYSKY: best of luck--it's hard to be brave. I'll be praying you have a perfect ultrasound
and thanks for the FYI on Beaksie!

Jodsan: I'm so sorry for your loss of GF. I"ll keep your family in my prayers and I hope you have some good news in your personal life--a BFP

seenabeena: I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you don't have too long to wait for bfp

[danielsgirl1113]

Hi everyone,
I hope everyone had a good day today. As for me, I had a really good day. Nothing really spectacular happened, my hubby and I took the boat out and spent some time on the water. It was nice and the first time I have really been out of the house in a week. It's been a week today since my M/C. But today was a good day.

I just wanted to say HI and that I hope everyone is feeling great and being as happy as possible. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Take care everyone!

[Brockstar]

Hi Ladies
Just a quick update after my OB appt today. Yes, I still feel like a goose for wasting his time today - it was his day off, but had come in to see some clients - I could've easily asked him what I wanted to over the phone, but his receptionist INSISTED that I see him...

Anyway, he did a quick u/s, nothing to be seen, but as it's early days yet, I am neither here nor there about it. My endo lining has thickened considerably, meaning 1 of 2 things: pregnancy or AF... And since I am having pregnancy symptoms (boobs finally a bit tender and all day queasiness), he is leaning towards pregnancy, but is hesitant to confirm anything just yet.

So, we're back off to see him early April for some better results

Sorry no personals, DS is still sick, so we're off to bed early....

[AJC]

My goodness - I've been away for a week and am struggling to catch up on what I've missed. Some good cyber cake which I'm a tad disappointed about.... naughty me splurged on some 'real life' cake on more than one occasion though over the past week

Danielsgirl, Natty & seenabeena - welcome. I hope you all find good support in here and that you get your BFP's real soon.

Angelbabies - reading back through some of the posts from the last week - you always have the words of wisdom!! Thank you!!

DH and I had an ok break - DH was sick for first 2 days so that was a little disappointing but nothing either of us could do about it. The resort was full of pg woman and couples with young bubs and kids. Booked myself into a day spa and two very pg women walked in after me. Felt so deflated!!! Had to try & tell myself that they've been sent there to pass on 'pg vibes' to me. Still feel a tad depressed and wished I had sourced an 'adults only' boutique style resort - only that's no guarantee that there won't be any pg women there. Wasn't quite the recharge that I had hoped. Did some good shopping etc but emotionally I don't feel any better off Temp has been a little weird, have had inconsistent waking times but I am def in tww - somewhere. If af not here in 10 days & temp still up I might test.

Sorry such a depressing post but I needed to vent and no one understands like you guys.

Tomorrow will be a better day

[smilanatu]

Okay, so this is our first "official" try since mc. We did BD all week, my fingers are crossed!

Welcome danielsgirl,Seenabeena and any others I may have read over. As the other ladies have stated I am truly sorry for your losses, but this forum and the wonderful ladies in it will give you hope!

Congrats to all the BFPs!!!

Everyone have a wonderful weekend!

[tina_k]

well girls, ive been away from my computer for a few days, and have sooo much to catch up on!I have had a friend and her beautiful 10 month old bub staying over for a few days..it was so wonderful to play with him,a nd hold him in my arms...so hanging to have my own to hold....

firstly:
Danielsgirl, Natty & seenabeena - welcome. as everyone else has said, so sorry you have to be here, but its a wonderful source of support.

to all the BFP's: girls, my thoughts are with you, wishing you all wonderful healthy pregnancies

to everyone else, im really praying that a few more of us get BFP's tis month, and get some xmas present babies!

thanks to all of you who have offered words of wisdom re BDing when parents are next door! you all brought a smile to my face! Not sure if well be albe to sneak out, definitely no beach around here, but i guess well just have to be really quiet! Im def not missing out on this opportunity...when its "o" time its "o" time!!!!!!!

Have a lovely weekend...

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone, thanks for all your support, aweful day yesterday, first time I have seen my Dad cry Glad its over though.

Geez I'm feeling grumpy and hormonal today, I am due to O tomorrow but it's really coming on strong. I must have some weird hormonal balance, after my really lumpy boobs leading up to AF, I have had the worst stomach/uterus/ovary cramps leading up to O this week. I usually only have slight ovary pain for a couple of hours when I O but it's going to be more difficult to detect this month (I dont do temps). Bit annoying since we were trying the 2 day cut off to TTC a girl. Does anyone else get this full on hormonal lead up? Is it normal?

Smilanatu - I'm so sorry for your loss, fingers crossed for you this month sweetie

AJC - big hug sweetie . Hoping all the pregnant women at the resort did rub off on you and you get a BFP this month.

Brockstar - It's sounding really promising, sending you lots of

Tempus - Good luck hatching the eggies this week!!

Trac - Thinking of you and your dad sweetie. Now you take some time out for you and get busy BDing

Seenabeena - Welcome, but I am so sorry for your loss. I feel the same way as you, mixed emotions, terrified and excited about the prospect of a BFP again. We're all here to offer support and cyberhugs, hope you get a BFP really soon.

Big hello to everyone else, sending you lots of

[plc1805]

Hi ladies!!

Jodsan - so sorry that u had such a crappy day yest - I remember the first time I saw my dad cry - you don't forget it. I have been known to get that full-on hormonal lead-up. More recently I was getting it with avengeance 2-3 days b4 AF - would want to just drink on my own and drown my sorrows. It hasn't happened since I had my lap. But during O time it varies - sometimes more pain, sometimes more nausea, sometimes it feels like AF. Take care of urself hun.

tina -got to hold my friend's 2nd bub today (3 weeks old) and that was a great fix!! It was like I was imagining holding the bub I lost (2nd m/c) in june who would have been born a little earlier in Jan. Nice but sad.... U def need to bd at o time love. Another tip for when ur folks are over - I'm not necessarily recommending it by the way but my sil tells of the charming way my bro puts a cushion over her face (I'm sure she can still breathe) to stop any noise she might make DTD (sorry if TMI) but I laugh cos my sil is always more vocal about stuff like that and my bro is always so mortified - lol!! GL!

AJC - chin up hun!! u need to vent - see below, I'm having a vent myself!

Brockstar - take care of urself hun.

danielsgirl - the boat sounds just like what the doc ordered - how wonderful!!

Hi to smilanatu, tempus, trac, seenabeena, starrysky, katiegirl, mel a, bday buddy and all you other lovely lovely ladies.

as for me, bit down, not one of my more cheery days. a friend of mine had a baby a month ago and came to visit today. I got my fix with lots of hugs. our boys are around the same age and she had her DD 19mths after her first which is the kind of gap I wanted between bubs 1 and 2. you and I know that, huge understatement, timing can be really off about these things (sigh) and they don't come as quickly as we would like. but then my friend said she wants to have the same gap between bubs 2 & 3. Ever since she said that I have felt so down - what she is doing is exactly what I wanted to do - and I just hate my circumstance and my own body in times like these. Tomorrow will be better and I will feel more positive again but today I feel my old sad feelings (a bit like being kicked in the teeth). thanks guys - just have to vent - want to cry tho.

[Katiegirl]

Hi to everyone. I hope you are having lovely weekends.

TM - good to hear about your lap and I hope all goes well this cycle.

PLC - sorry to hear you are a bit down. I always get a bit sad when I hear people talking about their baby plans. I think it might be partly because for all of us, our plans are tinged with sadness and anxiety, and yet other people talk about it like it is so easy. We of course know how this baby business is anything but easy! So big hug and I think you are amazing to be so strong.

Well I have had an up and down day. When I woke this morning and went to the bathroom I noticed a brownish smear on the paper (sorry TMI). I of course got worried. I check an hour later and it was there again but only when I wiped. I then started to get worried and burst into tears with my mother. It just felt so hard, and I didn't feel I could stand more stress. Thankfully it appears to have stopped and I have been to the toilet a million times to check. My sister told me that she always get a brownish mucous in the early stages and then it goes away, so hoping that is all it is. I am anxious and I think I will call my Ob when I get back to Melbourne on Monday. I am glad I am here with my mum as I don't think I would have liked having DH's dad and best friend around at a time like this. I am trying to stay positive and not get too worried.

Sorry for lack of personals - I just had to get that out. I am praying like mad!

Good luck to you all on the 2WW and for those approaching O. I am praying for some more BFPs in here.