TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 07 #2

[Dawneee]

Hi Everyone! My trip away was awesome.....just what I needed! We went white water rafting it was Brilliant! then the next day we went out to The Barrier Reef and went Parasailing it was Fantastic! Green Island is beautiful! On the way up DH and I had a discussion about TTC again DH felt it was best to wait a cycle and try again after AF.....I was okay with it too but something was niggling at me I had signs Of Ovulation the day before and that day too....espescially the increased libido hahaha! and wasn't sure if I should say anything just in case? but I haven't been wrong about my signs yet? and I have always Fallen pg......so when we were high above the reef parasailing I turned to him and said "you know your plan about waiting a cycle?" .......I think it's a bit late for that? he was fine and said oh well if it happens it happens so we'll see now....I've decided not to obsess and count the days I really am of the frame of mind to just wait and see and am busying myself with other stuff for now anyways hahaha!
So how is everyone doing? I have tried to catch up on some posts but not all as I haven't got too much time.
Good luck to everyone at whatever stage you are all at.....
Dawneee

[Beaksie]

Morning everyone!
Dawnee- Im glad you had such a great time on your trip. Sounds fantastic, and probably exactly what you needed. Who knows, this may be your month, because you were so relaxed. Hope so. Its so nice to get that change of scenery, it really makes everything feel fresher.
Satya - Hows things? Hope you're doing OK. Hope it's not the start of menopause for you. Arent you too young? Sometimes a good indicator is your mother's experience, maybe its worth asking her. Have you decided about the lap?
Big hellos to everyone else. Starrysky- how are you??
Ive got a question about ewcm. I know its fertile, but does it mean you have, are about to, or will ovulate? Whens the best time to bd.On, before or after? I know I sound obsessed but it's doing my head in, cause i obviously want to get the timing spot on if I can. I know you should just bd regardless (which we have been), but to be honest, its getting to the stage where I have NO libido, cause it feels so bloody mechanical, knowing you have to do it at certain times. Does anyone else feel like this?

[Dawneee]

Hi Beaksie: Thanks it was a great trip and I would be very surprised if I haven't conceived again but we'll just wait and see now.....that's not the part that worries me now it's carrying full term ,Good question about ewcm I have always wondered the same thing....I find that my Libido increases so much when I ovulate and then I get the ewcm too just to confirm that my DH hasn't turned into a sex God to me hahaha! it's all explained by hormones I know what you mean about becoming mechanical we felt like that when TTC the first time.....2nd time I didn't realise I ovulating till we had already started Bding....and the same this time.

[Jayney]

It seems to me the ewcm is the best timing I think it helps those little swimmers.

And yes sometimes it feels like it is a job taking care of business rather than fun and love etc.

[kiwigirl]

I'm tired of this. I'm even over bothering testing, I feel like each successive cycle after the m/c I get less (fake) symptoms, less hope, less energy to pick myself up and start again. Meh. Can feel AF is definitely going to turn up tomorrow.

Sorry... just feel so over it.

[nellsbells]

Hang in there kiwigirl, the whole thing sucks doesn't it? Just imagine holding your baby for the first time, thats what keeps me going.:hugs:
Thinking of you

[satya]

Beaksie - I'm 41 and although my mum went through it far older than that her sister started in her late 20's and had to have treatment to have my cousin. I'm probably just over reacting. Because of the weird bleeding I've had this cycle I will probably still have the lap but only if it can be at a convenient time for work... otherwise I might have to put it on hold for now. You need to BD before you ovulate so if you see EWCM then you'd better get busy.

Kiwigirl - the last time I was pg I so thought AF was coming so you never know. I'd had a number of symptoms but in the last couple of days I had less and then got that feeling that she was coming but she didn't. I so hope that's whats happening to you.

I was starting to feel completely hopeless about the chance of ever TTCing again but then I read of a 46 yo woman having a m/c. Maybe there will still be time for me to find a new man and give it another go.

[littlescottishboy]

Hi girls,

Will pop in and do personals later in the week...sad post tonight ... AF is here. I was pretty confident she wasn't coming this time as i have had some major preg symptoms, but i guess they have just turned out to be PMS symptoms instead! We have now been TTC for a year and we have had our most recent m/c during this time - so things are getting a little hard now. Thinking of looking into IVF stuff. Anyone know anything about it? Any advice appreciated. Sorry for no personals but just feeling so down about it all.

[butterfly_warrior]

Hi... I've been lurking and looking for a bit as I guess I'm now TTC after my recent miscarriage. Was a little hesitant to introduce myself as we're going through IVF, which isn't exactly your normal method of TTC!

But, I saw your question, littlescottishboy, and thought I would pop in - ask away and I'll help out as much as I can. It's a fairly complicated process if you get stuck on the finer details, so I won't jump in there and scare you. But anything you want to know - just ask.

BW

[satya]

Welcome to the thread BW. I was just about to head towards IVF but split with my DF before we got there. Even though I'm not currently TTCing (bit hard when you haven't got a man, but have an exboyfriend in hot persuit) I haven't managed to leave BB yet. This particular thread was my saviour through my last two m/c's and I just can't go just yet.

[treelo]

Welcome BW, so glad you popped your head in, i hope you stay with us (but only for a short time iykwim).
Satya - hugs sweety, we dont want you to go anyway !!!
littlescottishboy - sorry AF came hun, i have been really confident that we caught the egg this time too, but i bet AF will come for me too. i am thinking of you hun.
Kiwigirl - oh sweety dont give up, but i do know how you feel. Its so hard to keep feeling positive with each new cycle. we are all here for you hun.

Well today i have been feeling really off, i went to BigW at lunchtime today and nearly passed out. I just felt really hot and shaky. I really hope im not coming down with anything, i dont want to be too sick to BD next cycle. Will probably do a test on monday morning, its my bday on Wednesday and thats the day AF (witch) is due, wouldnt it be a nice present to get a BFP on my bday !!! like that will ever happen.

Well im going to get an early night i think...ill talk to you lovely ladies over the weekend.

hugs
treelo

[zionsmom]

Kiwigirl~ Please don't be discouraged! I feel excatly the same as you and it hurts and is so frustrating but we have to remember that our time will come, for sure. Those couple cycles ttc I was so excited to test and now I don't want to unless its necessary. Gosh I NEVER knew it would be so hard. I am here for ya I feel like we have been through this whole process together so why can't we BFP's Together!!! Geez too much to ask????

[treelo]

Diane and Kiwigirl - i wish there was something i could say to make it easier but i know that the only thing would be for both of you to get that BFP so instead ill just send you lots of hugs. Hang in there, your time is coming, it might be just around the corner !!!

hugs
treelo

[butterfly_warrior]

Thank you for the very warm welcome. And a very big thank you to you, treelo. It's kind of comforting to stumble across familiar faces again - even though it's sad circumstances that have caused it to happen for both of us.

BW

[ElleJay]

treelo - Happy early birthday - I know that I'm going to be wayyyy too busy to hop on much over the whole of next week so I thought I'd say it now :P

BW - Welcome to the thread - here's hoping your stay is rather short

[Beaksie]

Hi everyone, thought Id drop in for a catch up...

Kiwigirl- Sorry you're feeling down. We all know where you're coming from when you say you're over it. I get so tired of struggling with conception, only to then lose the baby (again and again). Thankfully I have DD, and I know you'll get there too!! I find I get so jealous of the girls who get preg and actually ENJOY it. That loss of innocence isnt something you can get back.

Satya- Glad you're feeling a bit more positive. You've had such a crappy couple of months, but it's all going to get better.By the way, we dont want you to go either

LSB- Sorry about AF You're like me. My pre menstrual symptons are identical to preg ones. It's enough to do your head in!

BW - Welcome. I hope your stay in this thread is short and sweet

Treelo - Here's hoping for a birthday Bfp for you. How sweet would that be?

Zionsmum - Hi. It's not too much to ask. We will get there!!

Lizjessie - How are you?

As for me, Im not sure where I am. Im on about cd17, but cant tell if or when I O'd. Hopefully I got it right, though there was no ewcm like last month, sa hard to tell. I usually have an exact 28 dayer, so hopefully we've hit the mark. If not...well there's always next month! Hi to everyone I've missed. Hope you're having a great weekend. Go the CATS!!

[kaib]

Satya - apologies for the belated response; thanks for sharing your experience with using vitex for PMS; I have the same mood swings as what you've described. I will discuss with naturopath on Thurs - my guess is that the naturopath will probably prescribe something same/similar anyway! Thanks again.

[treelo]

Afternoon all, just thought i would pop in and catch up on some posts.

LJ - thank you for early birthday wish. I have decided its either going to be a really great day or a pretty depressing day !! Lest hope for the BFP.
BW - I know what you mean about familiar faces, it can make it just that little bit easier. So where are you with the IVF at the moment?? I know a little about it but not too much. From what i have learnt through Smithy's journal its the pill, then the spray, then the injections then egg pick up, then fertilisation and then finally transfer. Is that right??? We are with you all the way hun.
Beaksie - My fingers are crossed that you caught the egg sweety

to everyone i have missed.

We have had a nice day a my mums, the boys had a lovely swim and now im home ready to get stuck into some ironing.
Hope your all having a great weekend.

hugs
treelo