Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage Feb/March 08

[Anthonysmom]

Katie - We need some little green men in here.
I am soooooo happy for you!!! Hopefully you will start a trend.

SImba - Sometimes I feel that men are a whole different species. I questioned DH about his feelings recently. He said he is atill sad, but he just shows it differently than me. Good luck.

Jo - Its not over until the fat lady (aka AF) sings. Hopefully Katie is opening the door for all of us.

TM - Good luck with the clomid challenge.

Well as for me, things are the same. Renos are almost done (I hope). I O in one week. For some reason I thought it was sooner. I really need this to be the month. But I am trying not to be too stressed. not good for conception. My diet is going well. Low carb on my OBs orders. I have lost 14 pounds of pre-pregnancy weight. Still got a lot to go though. Once again Yeah Katie!!

Barbara

[~StarBright~]

Yay Katie Girl!!! Good Stuff!!

When and if you want to come into the Pregnancy After loss thread you are welcome!! I was a bit hesitant until i got a bit further on as i didnt want to jinx myself... so i sort of hung out in both threads for a while. Its getting a bit quiet in there coz so many of the ladies have had their bubs!! So its up to you, buts its there if you want to check it out!

These things ('s) have a way of cathching on in these threads... i hope the good news continues for everyone else really soon!!

Barb... Well done on the weight loss!!!! Thats fantastic!!! Keep up the good work!!!

Simba.. Hi, i am not sure if we have ever "met" but reading your post i wanted to say, my DH found it much easier to cope then i did after loosing our baby girl at 35 weeks, he put alot of focus on helping me get better, and he seemed to find a place where he was able to move on and be "normal" and i was very much stuck.. i never actually took the dive to go to counsilling, i kept putting it off, though he kept "suggesting" it would be good for me, it just never happened. I'm sure its going to be needed one day though. And while DH kept saying he was "fine" i think he was just putting on such a brave face for me, if rubbed off on him in a way. He has had a few break down moments where he admits he never really had the chance to grieve coz he was soo busy making sure i was ok, and i made sure once i felt better that i let him let go a bit- though it was MANY months before i felt ok enough to do that. Maybe your dh is having the same kind of feelings, he is trying to be strong for you, and once he feels you can cope without him, dont be suprised if suddenly he starts to feel the sadness that you had. Does that make sense???? I hope so!!

Jo... I hope the nasty AF stays away, or comes and gets it over and done with to put your mind at ease. take care
xoxoxo

Bye for now!!
Katti

Good luck everyone!!

[Simba]

hi all,

just a quick post tonight - just wanted to congratulate you Katie on your BFP am so for you!!! would love to hear more about your kinesiologist - thinking maybe someone like that could be good to help me with my anxiety.

still no AF for me - starting to get a little hopeful- might test tomorrow morning. anyway off to bed - had a busy day - took my class to Collingwood Childrens Farm for an excursion - they had so much fun but am totaly exhausted from chasing after them all day!!

[Katiegirl]

Hi Everyone. Thank you so much for your lovely messages. It means a lot to me to know that you are all supporting me. I am looking forward to offering the same support back to you.

Simba - my kinesiologist and naturopath both work at Fertile Ground in East Melbourne. It is a natural therapy centre that specialises in women's health and fertility. I have found the kinesiology very interesting and useful - it is so hard to explain though as it is based on flower essences, energy, emotional blockages and chinese medicine! I really enjoy it though and I do believe it is helping me. The person I have is Amanda and she is wonderful, very caring and has been a great help.

[Mel1977]

Hope you girls dont mind me popping in... just wanted to say a big congrats to Katiegirl What wonderful news, if it helps your peace of mind at all I asked Mark for regular bloods to be done for HCG and progesterone levels early on and he was more than happy for that to be done until we could monitor with ultrasound. And I didnt end up seeing him until just after my NT scan (my fault, work got in the way ) so he was happy to correspond by mail. Again, best of luck for a very H&H pregnancy. Sending lots of to your bubba.

Also keeping for Simba, I dont know you yet but will keep an eye out hopefully for some more good news!

Hi to everyone else, take care of yourselves

P.S. Barbara - are you having this month off TTC or are you going to keep going? Hope you are keeping well.

(sorry to crash )

[tempus moriendi]

VERY heavy period this time. But I had an fsh and estrogen today and the results came back normal.

Anybody else ever hear about estrogen dominence--where you have too much estrogen and not enough progesterone? I still think I have progesterone problems, but they're testing it next week, so I'll know for sure.

Katiegirl: congrats and again congrats!!!

jo76: sorry about all that...sending encouragement vibes...

Simba: all I can say is guys are just wired different, less expressive and stuff. don't rule out that he's being strong for you.

Anthonysmom: encouragement vibes to you, too...

[jo76]

Firstly -
Katie! I am sooooooooooo excited! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am really really happy that this has happened for you! Good luck at your GP! Keep us all in the loop as we will be excitedly living through you until one of us gets the prego vibe our way...many cyber congrats hugs to you!
Simba - any news! Still holding out for you! best of luck!!!!!!
TM - looks like you and me are in the same boat with AF...don't know anything about the hormones tho! I hope someone can help you with more info.
Barbara - well done with renos and weight loss! Glad some positves are heading your way!

Yes, AF came my way, BIG TIME! Boy am I paying for all those days overdue! No cramps now but I have the heaviest bleeding again and this morning bled through a tampon and pad in an hour (which is excessive to me, i am wearing both for extra protection). So now because it is'nt even a normal AF as it is so heavy it has got me down and as its my birthday this sunday i was also hoping for some happy news but the other day really destroyed that line of thought. So I have been a bit teary today as i have fallen preg so easily before that i think i have taken it for granted a bit. So i think i have a bit of that as well. I think i have to remember that even though it feels like forever since Jack died it HAS only been 3 months and obviously my body even after all the blood loss still has some cleaning / sorting out to do. (for lack of a better way to put it) So it obviously is'nt meant to be my time yet.
So hope this month may be it as i have realised how much i want and need this to happen for me. Plus start of May is jacks EDD and i think i would like to have something going on before then....
have a good weekend everyone! I was going to the beach sunday but since my AF is so heavy i am a little nervous about that! hmmm...

katie - take care of you and bubs and relax!

xxxx

[Simba]

hi, hope everyone is well. i am feeling really down tonight. went to my GP today - 1st time i have seen her since Lani died so was pretty emotional (both me and her). I wanted her to help me a bit with the anxiety i am feeling each morning. anyway she suggested councelling - which is already something i am on the way to doing and she also suggested taking a low dose of Zoloft (anti anxiety/anti depressant) i know meds wont fix everything but if it helps with the anxiety i think i would be able to get going with each day and get more done at work which in tern will help me feel less anxious. she reasured me that it was completely safe to take when ttc and when pg. so i left feeling like i'd kind of made a little step forward until the chemist gives me info to read about Zoloft and it says i shouldnt take it when ttc or pg!!! so now i dont know what to believe!!! i guess i will wait till i can call my GP and double check with her otherwise it will make the anxiety worse.

did test this morning - still BFN but no AF.

going to family holiday house for weekend so will catch up with you all next week.

take care and thanks for listening (reading!!)

sim
xoxo

[tempus moriendi]

AF slowed down a lot and I feel normal again, but I put myself on iron because I must be anemic right now.

jo76: sending cyberhug because you sound so sad. my edd was 5/2/08, although I tend to commemorate the angelversaries instead because it reflects what really happened in the bub's life, rather than how I wanted it to turn out

Simba: I used to work in the pharmaceutical industry and the drug companies tend to be much more conservative in what they can put in the drug labeling than what docs actually prescribe it for. Did the brochure say absolutely not to be used in preg, or just that they had no information to support it? You might want to check online to see if there are any studies or anecdotal reports about pregnancy and zoloft