I don't have long as I promised to pick DH up from work, but I have to send a message to Jo.

Thank you for allowing us to stand alongside you as you grieve for Madison. It is truly an honour that you feel this is a safe and supportive place and somewhere full of people who will listen and understand. Take your time with work, don't allow it to stress you. You need to put yourself first and at times you will even need to make selfish choices (ie. like with your stepmum). Do whatever you need in order to find some peace and the opportunity to slowly heal. It is only natural that you think about how many weeks you will be. I still work out how old Nathaniel would be and it still breaks my heart. And it is true about our shared pain in here. I rang DH the day you posted about Madison, and I was crying on the phone because it just hurt so much to see you going through this again. I talk about all of you to my DH and others, and share your good times and the bad.

Time for a grouphug I think