BTW, Sue... I think it's really wonderful. It's a lovely surprise that you were able to get pregnant on your own. I know that we would all love any baby that was given to us, but it's always nice to have these little bonus bits.
Oh Tildy, we are all feeling the stress with you. Just try and hang in there. Everything we can possibly cross is crossed and I think everything you are feeling is completely normal. Is there any way you can voice your concerns at work. Imagine if all these people were putting this much pressure or negative energy on your baby. You would stand up to them in an instant to protect him/her I am sure. When they are giving you extra work etc, maybe ask yourself what you need to do at that time for bubs and not yourself. I know that is a lot easier said than done and I am the queen of taking on much more than I can handle but give it a try. I have been using the same technique even though I'm not PG and have been asking 'is this going to help me create the perfect environment for my bub to grow in'. If the answer is no then I have found myself regularly making decisions different to what I would have normally. Even my friends have commented. Mind you I wouldn't say I always make a better decision, but even if it is sometimes, it surely has to be of some benefit.
To be honest, the amount of stress you are under is unlikely to affect bubs health but at least in your own mind you'll have less to worry about and can focus on coping with the PG stress which is more than enough for anyone in your situation to have to deal with without all the extra crap.
Maybe next time you feel on the verge of tears at work just let it go. Eventually everyone will just think of you as the crazy hormonal PG woman and will be too scared to approach you to do extra work!!
BTW glad to hear your spotting has stopped. Lets hope it is gone for good and you can try and relax about it a little. If not, we're always happy to hear someone venting... it makes the rest of us feel like all our irrational thoughts are normal after all!!
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I don't know why but my emails weren't telling me there were new posts!! So Lan I am still here, and only on day 11 so not ready for testing yet!! But I feel quite calm about September so lets hope that is a good sign.
I too have been wanting to do a new garden for ages, but when Cooper died it become almost urgent, it was as if I needed to do it for him. I was home only days when I was found digging up our veggie patch and told promptly to 'get inside and rest!', there is something very therapeutic about digging in the earth. I am very happy today to say that I have finally got that new garden set out and am in the process of digging out all the old lawn, it is almost as though I have been possessed as I just don't want to leave it!! Luckily I have my MIL & FIL here at the moment to help out with DS. So Mrs Robbo I totally understand the garden thing, and by the way Ethan seems like such an wise old soul, he Charlie is truly blessed to have a big brother like him.
Dellydoo - Welcome to our little corner of the world, I wish I didn't have to say that, but you will find wonderful support here.
Lan - Good on you for looking after yourself, moving can be such a stressful thing, we talk about it constantly, but until we have our next baby safely home I think we will stay here as I feel safer being close to our hospital and wonderful GP.
Katie - I hope you are looking after yourself those last 8 weeks are going to fly by!
Sue - Very brave putting your ticker up, I am so proud!! Jumping the gun and all! I hope that one little spot has gone away and never comes back, I really wish there was a magical way we could check in on our babies and see what was going on in there.
Jo - You keep amazing me with your love and concern for others, just know we all love you back!
Tildy - I wish you could just tell them all to go to hell! You don't need anymore stress, try and do whatever you can to help ease it, easier said then done I know.
Cindee - How are you going?
Have to fly my back is killing me sitting here, too much digging! Sorry if I've missed anyone.
Helen, when you say that you're going to dig up a lawn, do you mean a really big patch of grass. What are you doing??? Rest up, you're potentially brewing a baby in there!
Tildy, I've felt that way at work too and I've discovered that the only person with your true interest at heart is yourself. Last time I thought I was just being a hypochondriac and should just get on with the job but next time I'm going to stand up for myself and tell people if my workload is too much or I don't want to travel etc. Don't let work compromise your peace of mind! You shouldn't be away from DH around the 17wk mark, you'll be a nervous wreck, no matter how zen you've been!
Better start working since it's 9.30am. I hate Monday mornings.
Hope everyone had a fantastic weekend. There is a buzz around Adelaide at the moment, with the royal show happening. Perfect weather on Saturday, but for fathers day it rained.....
Well havent had anymore bleeding (which is fantastic). This morning felt a bit of nausea and started to dry reach...... Had a whole heap of blood tests on Saturday to check all my levels like iron and of course my thyroid function. Hopefully all ok and will get the results this afternoon.
Jo - what you say is so true. It doesnt matter what I have to go through to achieve a miracle, as I will love it, the same as a natural conception. It just would be nice. I agree also that sometimes having to go the tough road makes you so much more appreciate the miracle of life.
Tildy - Please please don't let your work stress you out like that. It is so important at the moment for you to focus on yourself and little bubs. I am so glad your bleeding has stopped. When do you next go and see your Ob???
Katie - how are you feeling??? you must be getting very excited as it is under 8 weeks to go.... yippee Are you able to post some scans??? would love to see them...
Cindee - hope all is well with you???
Helen - take it easy babe..... but I think it is wonderful that you have a beautiful veggie & garden happening.... what veggies did you plant?? My DH and I are trying to work out what veggies to plant at the moment and what will survive!!! he he he
Lan - Yes we survived fathers day - we even celebrated it as our little boy Ollie (dog) gave his daddy a fathers day present of a couple of t-shirts.
Hi all. I wish it was under 8 weeks more like under 9! Not much of a difference but I am starting to get impatient. I feel like I have been pregnant since last July. It sounds like I am complaining but more a case of Mondayitis I think.
Tildy - work is always so hard especially for all of us - we have to work, deal with our ongoing grief and then be pregnant again and worried. I can honestly say that since I have found out I was pregnant again, I have worked at less than 50% capacity. I feel bad about it, but my mind has just been elsewhere, namely on this baby. I pulled out of a conference back in April (I think) as it was in Alice Springs and I couldn't bare the idea of being so far away if something happened - plus I had not announced the pregnancy and it would have been hard to hide it. I came up with a good excuse and no one questioned me, but when I did announce the preg they all said they had been suspicious when I cancelled! Take care of yourself first and foremost - work can always wait. Yes I feel bad that I am leaving this job knowing I have not done my best work of late, but in the scheme of things..it is pretty minor.
Sue - very happy to hear that your bleeding has stopped and that you are feeling nauseous! Excellent news. Funny how we all take delight in hearing one of us is vomiting or dry reaching!
I love the idea you all have of the veggie patch. I think it will be very therapeutic for you.
Also, I saw an article in the Herald Sun (I think Friday's paper) about miscarriage and stillbirth. It was titled 'The Loneliest Grief' or something like that. I have always said that loss of a child during pregnancy is the loneliest grief as very few people can relate. It was interesting to note that it said 1 in 4 women suffer a mc and 1 in 20 a stillbirth (I guess this covers late loss as well) - that number is so high but it is still not something people talk about. It made me happy to see that this grief and loss was getting some coverage. It was talking about Bonnie Babes organising a National Baby Day for 17 Oct.
Lan - you made me laugh, but there is no baby cooking just yet, give me another week! I have been saying to DH this garden has to be ready before I am pregnant again, hence the feeling of urgency. I need this little corner of sanctuary to immerse myself in once the hard work is done I will rest up I promise!
Sue - We haven't got a huge patch of veggies but we have - Silverbeet, cabbage, cauliflower, strawberries(crappy), beetroot, capsicum, spring onions, pineapple (scattered throughout all the garden, will take years!), rocket and loads of various herbs. I just love having gardens around me though it just makes such a difference.
Father's Day was a fairly quiet day at home for all of us, was nice just to potter.
It's a lovely surprise that you were able to get pregnant on your own. I know that we would all love any baby that was given to us, but it's always nice to have these little bonus bits.
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