TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009
If you have found yourself in this forum you no doubt have had a painful journey. TTC after recurrent miscarriage/stillbirth or Late Loss takes special courage and support. The aim of this forum is to provide a place where women who have endured loss can share their stories, friendships, treatments and triumphs!
My greatest wish is that you all leave this forum with nice big fat positives in the shortest possible time!!!
I hope so much that this month is YOUR month.
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Samcougar, that is such a good surprise. Sounds like great timing too... you would have needed a pick me up. He must be a brilliant secret keeper. Good luck for this cycle. Looks like it's almost time for you to test?
Butterfly forever, sounds like you are trying everything! If it all gets too much you could just start with one. I started with temperature and mucous charting which helped heaps. I have a maybe baby too but I got pregnant the next cycle after I bought it and I couldn't really say it was because of that. More the charting I think. It seemed good though. Hope something works!! I've conceived twice on a good rating from fertility friend!
Chez, yay for DH wanting to wind his career back! That can only mean more support for you and enjoyment of life together. I love your DH's aunt's idea about the room. I hope she's right too
Sorry you've been feeling down. I feel sad looking back at photos before Luca died too. Even my wedding photos which were taken 5 years ago. I think it's remembering the hope and faith we had that we'd live happily ever after. You just would never think that you could have a baby die.
Blessed at last, that sounds very promising about the OPK result and BD timing. I read Taite and Seth's story on their website the other day. I couldn't stop crying. And their photo is so beautiful.
AFM, bit anxious a lot of the time. It's just in the background waiting to pounce on me. 12 week scan next week. And only 5 weeks til I submit my masters Can't wait til I've finished and can relax about that at least!
thanks for that mummabec, hope I will conceive soon, but probably be here for a long haul. Glad the pregnancy is going well, good luck with the scan, and the masters, keep us posted.
ButterflyForever- Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry about your loss. I hope your stay here is a short one
Chez- I'm sorry you got a BFN, but on the up side it sounds like your cycle is returning to normal. I hope you and your furbabies had a relaxing day on the couch and i hope your feeling better.
Blessed- I really hope you caught that little eggie I've had trouble gettling a positive with an OPK as well, I think i may need to use one everyday!
Beata- I'm glad things are going well. November 5 will (hopefully) come around quickly.
Bec- Thanks, I don't think he's such a good secret keeper, i think it may be that i'm a bit daft! lol, 12 weeks !! that's gone so quick! I hope everythink goes well with the scan
AFM 3 days till testing and i don't feel like i'm pg, but im really praying that we caught this one, I don't understand why it's taking so long to fall again, we never had any trouble with Riley. oh well time will tell!
lots and lots of to us all and lots of to our preggy mummas!!
Bec - best of luck with your scan next week. Wow, 12 weeks already! And well done on your Masters. It must be a great feeling to know you will have that out of the way to concentrate on your bub.
BF - hope you're doing ok and getting the support you need. How did your psych appointment go? I hope you have found someone you can talk to and feel comfortable with. I wouldn't say I am back to normal, but the psych did help me to return to normal life if that makes any sense.
Samcougar - not long now til testing. I hope you get your BFP this cycle
Beata -thanks for dropping by and giving us your support. Hope you're doing well.
to everyone else!
AFM, we did have a kind of relaxing day on Sunday watching some movies, none of which were very uplifting And I had to keep getting up to do the washing/drying. AF still hasn't arrived. Yesterday and today I find I am very bloated in the afternoon, and I am so very tired. I would like to think that the POAS I did last week was faulty so I might try again tomorrow morning if AF doesn't arrive. I really hope that I don't have another cycle that goes past 100 days. That would do my head in!
Anyway, take care all and sending lots of to everyone - we need another BFP in here!
Well AF arrived this morning Good news is though the OPK must be accurate as I got it 15days after getting a +ve OPK result.. At least I know I must be ovualting.. Better luck next month hey.. I will start testing again day 9 same as I did last cycle.. I fly to Sydney today to see my Mum and brothers Yay.. On the bright side at least I can have a couple of wines with Mum
Butterfly forever - I totally get where you are coming from.. It took me a bit to come to terms with whether I should TTC again.. I wanted a baby, but I didn't want any baby you know, I wanted Taite and Seth.. I was worried if I did fall pregnant if I would feel different towards the baby.. I knew I would love it, but didn't want to have in my mind it was the 2nd best baby, we only had you cos Taite and Seth died, kind of thoughts.. I don't know if that makes sense to you or not, but thats how I felt.. I feel I am over that though now.. All takes time..
Chez - for this cycle
And hello to everyone else.. I am hopeless with personals, I have trouble remembering what everyone has said!! lots of for everyone.. I am going to get ready, I have TAFE for 2hrs today before I have to leave for airport..
Beata70 - thanks, but time is running out for me, wrong side of 38 now, so not too long of waiting left.
Aries - hope you get some answers.
Chez67 - hope this is happening for you right now hope you caught the elusive eggie.
Blessed - sorry about af, hate that time nearing, but I prefer to see that than a bfn, hope this next month is it for you. I know exactly what you mean, my daughter was so perfect, and it was so cruel that she died through no fault but bad luck and medicine. I just want her, not a new baby, but now the way I am looking at it is, if I do manage to have another little miracle, it will be special, it wouldn't be here, if it wasn't for the events in the past, it will be very much loved.
afm - cd25/14dpo on a 26 day cycle, so either af to arrive or poas on Saturday, but my chart isn't looking great and got no symptoms of either af or preg, so not very optimistic.
OMG!!! I might be off the TTC bandwagon for another 18 or so months..
Reason is this: I have just been advised that from the Aged Care course I am doing we can get direct entry to doing Endorsed Enrolled Nursing, which would mean I wouldn't have to apply through QTAC and sit STAT tests etc..
Which is great news, but the condition is I would have to start next semester.. I don't have long to think about it and it is such a big decision.. The course is like $6000 so it means if I got pregnant or if I didn't like it, it would be a lot of money to waste.. So if I choose to go for it Baby plans definitely have to be put on hold..
I have no clue what the right thing is to do.. Maybe thats why AF came this month?? I am seeing a psychic on Sunday, I am not heavily into them, but it would be interesting to see what she says.. Decision time.. I just don't want to make the wrong one.. Another 18months of full time study and I would have to work as well.. I don't think I can expect DP to support me for another 18months.. (I would feel different if we had kids) Anyway, I am rambling and I have mixed feelings.. I think I have to go for it though.. If I don't I may never get into nursing.. This is scary!!! If you got through all this reading you are great!! I tried to paragraph it to make it easier to read
Blessedatlast - what an exciting time for you with a great opportunity to do nursing, which I am assuming you have been interested in for a while? Try not to let TTC take over your life. You have to try look at things outside of TTC, otherwise you will likely go mad. Good luck with whatever decision you have made.
ButterflyForever - I hope AF hasn't arrived for you. Have you worked up the courage to POAS yet? Sending you lots of And don't stress about age. I have friends who have had babies into their early 40s. One tried IVF several times and fell pg naturally at 44.
AFM, had another very busy week with travel as well. I was so tired I went to bed at 8pm on Friday night and didn't wake up until 11am Saturday morning. Wow - I was tired! Spent the day on the couch watching DVDs and generally being a couch potato. So today I have washing and ironing to do, and a job app as well :-(
Another week until AF arrives or I POAS again. I saw a friend last weekend who is not really a psychic but is sensitive to other people IYKWIM. Anyway, she says that I should feel honoured that Ryan came into our lives and left so quickly, and that some spirits do not have a long 'contract' of life and that we were chosen because we were strong enough to deal with the loss of him leaving. She believes that we will be pg again within 6 months because I still need time to heal, and that that pg will be our baby that we hold in our arms. I really hope she is right.
i am not TTC just yet, but i am trying to find out some things and i figure this would be the best place to ask..
I lost my baby girl 2 weeks ago at 18 weeks and my Dr has not even seen me or spoke to me since.. i want to know when it is physicaly healthy to TTC.. i dont even know when it would be alright to...well do "it" lol
I was just thinking it had been very quiet in here lately... but, the thread has just gotten away from me
Still stalking you girlies - even though most of you are new since I was around i still love the high of seeing someones BFP- but I hope you don't mind still
Chez, the discription your friend gave to you gave me goosebumps. I hope she is right, too.
Aries, a plan is the first step towards some action! So it's FANTASTIC you have a plan now. I don't know much/anything about the FS stuff but I hope that everything sails through smoothly and all your tests come back looking good & your treatment can start soon.
Mummyof4 Usually you should be right to DTD about 2 weeks after the birth of your little angel, and most Dr's tell you to wait til after your cycle returns to normal or after your first AF before you start to actively TTC - but rumour has it that that's only for dating purposes. I think the general rule of thumb, and I have seen lots of other people say this, is that your body won't allow itself to fall pregnant again until it's ready - and I'm sure alot of the girls will agree and I know my body did this to me too which can send you batty, but it does have a mind and plans of it's own- unfortunately.
to Sam, Blessed & Butterfly and of course Mummabec & Beata
TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009
I've had trouble gettling a positive with an OPK as well, I think i may need to use one everyday!
to us all and lots of 
to our preggy mummas!!
to everyone else!
And I had to keep getting up to do the washing/drying. AF still hasn't arrived. Yesterday and today I find I am very bloated in the afternoon, and I am so very tired. I would like to think that the POAS I did last week was faulty so I might try again tomorrow morning if AF doesn't arrive. I really hope 
Good news is though the OPK must be accurate as I got it 15days after getting a +ve OPK result.. At least I know I must be ovualting.. Better luck next month hey.. I will start testing again day 9 same as I did last cycle.. I fly to Sydney today to see my Mum and brothers Yay.. On the bright side at least I can have a couple of wines with Mum 
for this cycle 
hope you caught the elusive eggie.
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