Cece that sux about your sister. I thought the idea of havnig children was to be with them after all they are your child, not a pet or a toy. Why have a child if you want nothing to do with it and wow. not even changing a diaper. I know everybody is different but I guess it is not til others walk in our shoes that they feel the real impact of life and its blessings.

Katti, lol about the internet help but honestly if you do need help PM me and I'll give you his ph number.. he has talked people thru the set up even as far as New Zealand lol. We have friends on the Mainland ( about 5 in perth WA) that he has helped too via ph. No charge too lol.

Aunty M it sounds like such a lovely place where you live.

Naomi your sister too needs a reality check. Family who cannot comprehend the grief .. well.. speechless. I guess I am 'lucky' in that my side of the family still comprehend and understand. For me it was my best friend ( who happesn to be a male and married - well he was my best friend back then but since then I have also made many new friends so he has slipped back a bit on the list).. he was going to be Annabelles god-father along with his wife as god-mother. They had both been with us many times while I was pg yet he still couldn't understand the grief so I sent him an excellent book my grief counsellor gave me. I asked for another copy which she kindly gave to me.
It is only a small book but the words in it really make sense and I think to because the author understands grief so wel she has made it easy to read and understand.
I'll have to find the name of it.. I haven't read it now in a couple of years so it is high up on the top shelf in the walk in wardrobe with the clothes Annabelle wore in the hospital and her receving blanket. They aren't washed and never will be. I may be considered odd but I don't care.
I have a small book and it also has a lock of her hair and ink prints of her hands and feet and her notices from the paper. I kept aside a couple of pink new clothes that had been brought for her.

What do any of you have kept as momentos that you will never part with?

hugs
Jude