WARNING: This is a long vent about my MIL so if you really don't feel like reading it, I totally understand. Just needed to get it off my chest.
Well I am going to have another vent because I am just really upset at the moment. When DH got home last night we were both tired and angry about the tenant, but I really wanted to talk about his mother, in retrospect, the worst possible timing.
DH has stood firm on this one, usually he really doesn't care either way but he said despite how much his mother annoys us, she is his mother and if we are telling my parents, then it is only fair to tell his. Well for starters this is not about what is FAIR!!!!! What is FAIR is that I would have Harrison with me. Anyway, I said some things about his mum that I probably shouldn't have although he did agree with me. But he said, one in all in. I just go so upset, if possible I now resent his mother more.
Anyway, three things annoy me the most 1. as soon as she knows I am pregnant you watch, she will kick into over drive with the best MIL in the world routine. Not to mention that she hasn't spoken to me since before Christmas and she was so disrespectful of our wishes at the funeral!!!!!!!!!! 2. I know that she will not respect our wishes yet again and tell other family memebers that I am pregnant. 3. I can put money on the fact that she will come up with some stupid, insulting or upsetting comment that will upset DH.
DH is so serious about this being her last chance to respect our wishes that he said he would disown her if she told people before I am ready. He said he will make it abundantly clear to her that it is not her place to tell. The thing is, I know in my heart that she will blab, I am 99% sure, so why is DH just setting himself up for disappointment? So anyway I ended up in a huge mess of tears and DH ended up with a headache, yet another thing his stupid mother has ruined.
I know I am going on and on but this is my only real outlett so sorry for being selfish. Anyway, I have been thinking and I know that I have to respect the fact that she is his mother so this is the compromise I have come up with. He can tell her that I am pregnant, I don't even want to be in the same room when he does, but at the same time he can tell her not to bother trying to contact me now because I am very dissapointed and upset at her absolute lack of support during the time since her Grandson passed away. I know in some ways I am getting him to do my dirty work, but I just can't even bring myself to talk to her and I know that if I do, it will make me say something that may cause more damage.
Don't get me wrong, I know how much you girls would love to have this problem, and I dont want you to think that I am forgetting just how hard the TTC journey is, it is just that I need some advice. I just feel so angry, upset and peeved off.
Spring - I'm sorry that you have this decision to make and that it is causing probs between you and DH. It is supposed to be the happiest time but it is also hard given what has happened to you guys. When it comes to MIL it is a tough decision especially because what your MIL has done to you over the past few months. I agree that none of this is fair. I hope that you and DH can work out what to do and I hope by now you have told your family the great news. How did it go? I bet they are just so happy for you.
Well I have had my fair share of MIL issues too. I was really upset the other night and she happened to call right in the middle of it. DH was out at soccer and I was just having a really good cry with my puppies. She came over which I thought would be good seeing as though my mum is not here right now. I can't believe how different she is to my mum and how differently she responds. Anyway I won't get into too much but she just doesn't say the right things. She told me that there are other people suffering in the world WTF!!!!!!!!! I bet they aren't worried about me right now. I just don't find her supportive and it feels like she has no idea of what I am going through. I know you can't imagine it but she just doesn't get it!!! Anyway I had a phone call from a shrink yesterday. My MIL took it upon herself to discuss ME and Cooper with a shrink and asked them to call me - I couldn't believe it! She said to me I think we need to have a talk. NO WE DON'T!!!! I just told the lady (politely) that I didn't walk to talk to her because I have already spoken with a counsellor and I don't feel like I can get anymore out of it and that I find it helps talking with people who KNOW what I am feeling and KNOW what I am going through. I told my MIL this so I can't believe that she went and got a shrink for me! She must think I am a complete nutcase and need help or something. Anyway that is enough of me whinging about my MIL......
Onto the other news - I had my BT this morning and they called with my results and said that it doens't look like there is much going on at the moment so I will go back on Wednesday to have another BT to see what is going on then - hopefully a bit more than what is happening now. I also went to acupuncture this morning. I thought hey it can't hurt so why not. Hopefully this can also help bring O a bit sooner.
Hope everyone is having a good weekend - its a bit quiet in here so you must be.
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so I will go back on Wednesday to have another BT to see what is going on then - hopefully a bit more than what is happening now. I also went to acupuncture this morning. I thought hey it can't hurt so why not. Hopefully this can also help bring O a bit sooner.
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