Ahhh Spring - you have to love the male mind. It is their *job* to protect us, to say it is all fine and to put on a tough front.

My DH didn't truly cry and let me see how distressed he was after Caitlyn was born until the night after her funeral. It was then that he sobbed and let it all out. A close male friend of his rang us on Sunday for Caitlyn's EDD anniversary which brought him to tears too.

They are marshmallows with a tough coating. I have no doubt our next scan (which DH can't be at) will leave him in a complete state waiting for the phone call, purely because last pregnancy when I rang him it was to tell him *lentil* didn't have a heartbeat and our baby was dead (not the kind of phone call you want to receive). He has been to all the scans this time so far.

It took a lot of courage for your man to admit how he feels. We have no guarentees in this world and it is hard to hold up the end of positivity all the time. That doesn't mean he thinks it will all go wrong, just that he has doubts at times too ..... which is completely normal.

As for the OB, well I would say stick with them at this stage. They have already suggested monitoring (in hospital if needed) from 36 weeks. See how you are emotionally as this pregnancy progresses. You may be able to discuss the option of an elective c-section at a later stage and if needed you can change your mind (and your doctor) later. It is not something that needs to be completed today, or even this month. You have a baby to grow that needs another 25 weeks of cooking before that decision is required