Mel, thats a hard one. I have written three post to you now, but they all sounded corny. Getting a POPK and not doing it can be very tortureous!! I know I have been down the road of doing them and not telling.. and then DH saying Im too tired lets just do it 2morw, but ME knowing havn just got the POPK that it would be maybe too late!!! I would get so worked up I couldnt stand being around myself.Just made things worse. Sometimes its better to both go with the flow, or both be involved IYKWIM.
Take care, you will know what is best for you...