Lynn: I just don't know what to say to make you feel better, I don't know if my words are good enough. I am not going to pretend what you feel like having the stress of TTC, but what I can say is that I think that grieving your struggle TTC is a natural reaction. It won't make you feel much better knowing it is natural, but it is hon.
You have had enough to deal with it, and by the sounds of it, every day is consumed with tests, medications, scans and hopes/fears. I think everything Deb said about why your FS is going straight to the injections makes a lot of sense, she knows much more about this than me that's for sure. Perhaps next time you see him you can ask him those questions just to confirm Deb's thoughts on the issues.
I am so sorry that you have been crying so much that you get a headache, is there anything I can do to help? If you want me to pop over after work tomorrow for a cuppa and a chat I can. Or if you want to have some Lynn Vent time on the weekend I am all yours. Even if you need to talk during work hours, you have my number so don't worry about calling me at work, nothing is more important to me then helping you get through this. Big warm :hugs: babe, hang in there sweetie.
Mel: About the OPK test and not telling DH, I think Deb is yet again right. It may be that our boys feel a bit of pressure when they know it is now or never. I know my DH hated OPKs and didn't want to know what I was up to. In his own words he said 'I am not your turkey baister' which I realised was his way of saying give me a break honey. That is him though, I am still not convinced he even knows what OPK's do (lol). I don't think that it is wrong to keep the testing to yourself, but I don't know your DH, if you think it is going to cause dramas with him, then I say honesty is the best policy. It is a hard one honey, but you will do what is right for you.
Tommysmum: You tell Bailey that if she doesn't come back I am going to come over there and kidnap her (lol) We miss her too much already Hope you get a better nights sleep tonight babe. Trust me, wild dreams during pregnancy are common. I have some of the most far out dreams, for example I got a tattoo on my back last night which was a to scale picture of a lion's head. Go figure, I don't have, nor do I want a tattoo, and the Lion thing, I don't get it.
Chelle: I am glad you are feeling a bit better today. How did the fence painting go? Did you get plenty of help? I hope so, make sure you and bub take it easy babe.
Klee: How are you doing babe? I hope today has been an ok day. You and your angel baby are always in my thoughts and my heart.
Big hugs to everyone else. I had a bit of a better day at work today. I am still worried that I can't feel movements yet. Thanks Deb for your advice about movements, I know it is the truth but to expect the worst is just my default mode at the moment. Get to see Lil Spring on Friday so that is good. I think we have decided on a name for Spring. We are thinking Oliver for a boy and Olivia for a girl, they both mean 'a symbol of peace" and go with the middle names (Michael or Mary due to family associations) we have picked and our last name. The initials will be OMG though, which is cute.
Glad you had a better day today. Nice choice on the names, Olivia is my favourite girls name ever. If we both have girls and ever happen to meet up we will have to pick a nickname for one - mine can be Olly, I think that is so cute Oliver is a nice name too, and that is a nice meaning - I have researched Olivia when we chose it though and it gave me the meaning of olive tree.
Deb, Chelle, Tommysmum & Spring -Thanks re advice on OPKs. I think I will do it in secret cause I agree, it must add more pressure to them when you are basically saying OK perfooooorm... NOW! If I dont get pregnant he wont know anyway, and if I do there is no way he would get upset with me if I told him because he wants a baby as much as I do. Plus how could he get upset when I say I didnt tell you because I didnt want you to feel under pressure and I did what I thought was best for both of us. He is a pretty reasonable person, and also he doesnt ever stay mad at me very long.
I didnt see the post about lullaby conceptions until it was too late to order today though so I will just have to live with paying supermarket costs this month. The only bummer is I think you only get like 7 tests and if I test a 2-3 times a day over a few days I wont have enough. Maybe I should just test a couple of times on Saturday, then a couple of times on Sunday and again on Monday is I dont get a positive before. Seeing as Sunday is CD14 it may be wasting the tests to do one any earlier than Saturday - do you think?
Lynn -
Mel
Last edited by Mel1977; April 11th, 2007 at 08:59 PM.
LMAO - man I am dumb sometimes - it only just dawned on me "symbol of peace"... der, that would explain the saying "to extend the olive branch" Im really not dumb, just seem it sometimes LOL
When you go to the supermarket to get the tests, see if they have instructions on the back about how many you should use in one day. You would presume that they would put enough in a pack for one month's worth of testing but I could be wrong.
From your previous cycles you seem to O almost like clockwork so I think if you are due to O on Monday, testing on Sat, and Sun is a good idea.
When I searched Oliver/Olivia, it comes up with An Olive tree or branch. A symbol of peace. so you are right. I love Olly as a nickname for either an Oliver or an Olivia, it is just soo cute.
Olive Oil is still a cute nickname though, not that I would call a kid that but I used to love Popeye... Olivia is such a pretty name and the only Olivia's I have met have been really nice people and also quite pretty The only Oliver I know is my BILs nephew who seems to be like this child einstein, he is so smart! I putting my money on you growing an Oliver though so nicknames wont be necessary
Mel: you will get that magical BFP soon and you can name that child whatever you want, although I would expect some sideways glances for Olive Oil (lol)
Hey and don't presume too much, I think Olly is a great nickname for Oliver and Olivia but lets not get into semantics otherwise I am going to trip up and give away if there is a pink or a blue flavour in there (he he)
Anyway babe, time to do the dishes and crash for the night.
Take care and we will have to catch up and have a chat soon. Sometime this weekend would be great if you are free.
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