Hi Ellie & All
I have been lurking here for awhile reading about all of your up's & down's, however, Ellie your question really struck a chord with me.
My hubby & I married believing we would not have children due to heart problems & my not being able to carry a child through (ie, fertility issues hadn't even crossed our minds), after 3 years of being told this by my cardiologist, we were then told to go for it & all would be well. After trying naturally for 8 months (again, me non-existent cycle), we contacted a FS and have been through numerous OI cycles & have just been through our first IVF cycle. None of which were successful with only one OI cycle reaching transfer stage, again unsuccessful.
I know this is nothing compared to where you are at, however back in January when we first saw the FS, hubby & I set a time frame to try AC. This was 12 months (ie deadline Xmas 07). While this probably seems selfish & all very timed, we needed to do this so that we were comfortable that we had set a time frame and could proceed with our lives after this, whether successful or not.
This first IVF cycle has been extremely hard for me (emotionally more than physically) and at the moment we are on a forced break till November (I finally feel a bit like myself again!), however even now I am unsure if I will go through with another cycle.

Rols - I am so sorry that your & DW's first cycle wasn't successful. I do hope it works next time round.

To everyone else - hello, I hope to catch up more soon.

Sorry for the long story, I hope this helps Ellie.
Peta