Thanks Girls..

Mel - normally I am that upfront, but I don't know why its different this time..

Muppity - I wish I could get her to shop aorund, but she a bit of a bridzilla with it all. This is what she wants, and this is how it is going to happen. The only say my brother has had is who the groomsmen are, and when asked, he doesn't have a clue what is happening..

Nae - I was expecting to be paying around $300 or so for the day, and having a similar thing where I paid what each couldn't afford to make my day what 'I' wanted, suppose I am a little shocked by it all..

And to top it off, she also sent another message on FB saying that she is trying to keep costs down and has already had to pay $60 for our jewellery. Good thing she wasn't here while I calmed down..

But I have decided that I am going to call my brother and ask him if there is anything else I can do on the day instead (thanks for the idea Nae), like usher or do a reading, or even MCing as they still haven't sorted that.. But I will just tell him that I cannot afford $400 + for an outfit that I will probably never wear again. I don't go out that much and as it is 'black tie', not the kind of thing I would probably have the occasion to wear again. It will then give them the opportunity of offering to pay 1/2 or taking the out of not having me in the wedding party. I think it would be better now, than when she is expecting me to cough up money that I can't afford.