Whilst I feel for the woman having had another bridesmaid pull out, what she is asking is ridiculous - there is no way you should be paying for your own nail/hair/make-up appointments!

And the comments about how you spent your money on a holiday is so far out of line - I would've told her to get stuffed on the spot! lol Just as well you are nicer than me

Good luck!! I hope that your brother can talk some sense into her and you can indeed get to be in the wedding, everything works out for the best

Most important is that our brother and SIL have a smooth day in the end - the lead up is always tragically complicated somewhere! lol