Question about mens rings

[melham74]

My DH wont even wear his wedding ring, he hates jewlery

[meow]

My H would have hated an engagement ring. He only wears a wedding ring cause I told him there was no choice

[MummyDuck]

In my circumstance my DP has been wearing a ring on his middle finger (until he lost the ring) so I bought him an engagement ring - I want people to know he is taken

I started to have second thoughts about it..... well not really second thoughts, but started to ask the above questions in my head. I wasn't going to get any answers that way though

[Ben01]

argh!.. "engagement"

hate the word. As a guy i wouldnt want a ring for engagement. Wedding ring will do me fine. i personally think the engagement ring for females is ridiculous as well, but in sticking to tradition i will definitely get one for DP when the time comes.
Dont wish to offend anyone, but the whole idea of calling dp my fiancee is a bit of a turn off. People use it to glamourise their relationships and i think its sad.
I dont see "fiance" as a title- like boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife.
Reason being, you ask so many engaged people when is the wedding "oh we havent set a date yet" or "in two or three years" .. whats the point?..
Ive known so many 18, 19, 20 year olds who get "engaged". 6 months down the track the relationship is over.
My personal belief is people should get engaged when they are ready to be married, no long/indefinite waits. Being engaged is not a committment, its just an excuse to make your relationship sound more exclusive than it really is.

[MummyDuck]

For me - the engagement is goingt o be long and I understand where you are coming from Ben but we don't have a choice unless we have a cheap backyard wedding which neither of us want!! (although for some people they would like that we don't want one like that).

The symbolism of the ring for me is the same as that of the wedding ring and less about being a 'fiance' - the ring sits on the finger for which the vein runs to your heart. It is a symbol of eternal love - because a ring is round it never ends.

I also don't believe in needing a ring that cost thougsands of dollars (funny enough i was discussing this earlier with my best friend and was disgusted to find his gf wanted a ring no less then $10K). I don't like solitaire rings either which makes for a cheaper ring - It is what the ring says more then the price or the label 'fiance'

And if you want to add in - I want people to know I am not here for the taking any more and neither is he then yeah maybe that does have a little bit to do with it too.

But I havent taken any offence - everyone is entitled to their opinion and thats exactly what I wanted to hear - opinions.

Im not feeling too confident now about the ring I bought though - from the other posts

[meow]

If you're going to have a long engagement then the rings could be nice to have now... maybe you could just get them engraved or something special like that for the wedding

Are you proposing today? Good luck!

[MummyDuck]

No no..... I'm not proposing (I just bought a ring today)

Long Story short - I found out that my DP was going to propose on our anniversary. Not from a friend - but from his own mouth..... thats what made me have the original questions about the ring.

But thanks for the luck

[Daydream Believer]

I also don't believe in needing a ring that cost thougsands of dollars

We paid $260 for my engagement ring off ebay (coz it was the exact style I wanted, & I couldnt have cared less if it was silver & glass)as a "new" ring, we then got it independantly valued & resized as it was slightly too big for $60.
When the valuation came back it was valued at a little over $1500 (I was expecting it to be a fake)

I think when it comes to a man having an engagement ring you really need to ask him. I really wanted to get DF one as well even though he proposed to me but, he didnt want one because he doesnt wear jewellry. The only thing he wears is his grandfathers wedding ring, which is on his right ring finger & when we get married it will be moved to his left.

[meow]

It's leap year today- today's the traditional day fro girls to propose... do it today!!!!