For me - the engagement is goingt o be long and I understand where you are coming from Ben but we don't have a choice unless we have a cheap backyard wedding which neither of us want!! (although for some people they would like that we don't want one like that).

The symbolism of the ring for me is the same as that of the wedding ring and less about being a 'fiance' - the ring sits on the finger for which the vein runs to your heart. It is a symbol of eternal love - because a ring is round it never ends.

I also don't believe in needing a ring that cost thougsands of dollars (funny enough i was discussing this earlier with my best friend and was disgusted to find his gf wanted a ring no less then $10K). I don't like solitaire rings either which makes for a cheaper ring - It is what the ring says more then the price or the label 'fiance'

And if you want to add in - I want people to know I am not here for the taking any more and neither is he then yeah maybe that does have a little bit to do with it too.

But I havent taken any offence - everyone is entitled to their opinion and thats exactly what I wanted to hear - opinions.

Im not feeling too confident now about the ring I bought though - from the other posts