i really don't have a problem with dp going to strippers, in fact he went to some last saturday night. as long as he he absolutely open and honest about what's he's doing then i have no problem with 'boys being boys'. having said this, i did absolutely crack it one night when i was about 7 months pregnant and he rang me blind drunk cos he couldn't get a taxi and needed to be picked up at 1am after he'd been at a work party. anyway in the car on the way home he proceeded to tell me the story of how they'd hired a stripper to come to their work and she'd stuck a chupa chup...well, i think you can guess where....and then he'd pulled the chupa chup stick out with his teeth. i was not overly impressed with this and believe me he copped it for a few days afterwards, but i suppose at least he is completely honest with me and feels like he can tell me these sorts of things....and i know there is no way he would ever cheat or anything like that....anyway, the moral of the story is...i'm happy for my dp to do these sorts of things as long as nothing is done behind my back. if i ever found out something from someone else i would be livid, and he knows that's where we stand.