Agree with everyone else so far. YOUR wedding, YOUR decision as to who attends what. If your friend doesn't like it, too bad - and seriously, what's all this nonsense about her DD being disappointed that she's not going to be flowergirl? If you'd asked her to be flowergirl and then taken the invitation back, sure, I might be a bit offended, but if you never offered to begin with (or, I assume, it was a tentative 'depending on x, y and z', and it ends up being that she can't be FG), that's HER problem to deal with for putting ideas in her daughter's head to begin with!
Don't let it get to you, honey. If you back down for their sake and hold your wedding ceremony somewhere you don't absolutely love, you'll regret it. And I'm sure they will regret their pettiness if they refuse to attend your reception for the sake of making a point. Do things your way, hun - it's your special day, and we all do it differently. Whatever works for you
it had NEVER been mentioned that his daughter would be flower girl. i was never going to have any other flower girl other than DD but when i saw how good my friends DD was with my DD i thought i would be great if she could help my DD be flower girl, as she will only just be 2 and this other girl is 5.
I just replied and said 'at the end of the day we invited you to share our day, if you think its stupid or wierd thats a shame, but we want you there cause we love you and your family' what i wanted to say was 'well eff you then, stay at home with you misserable wife, see if i care'' but i held back!!
Its a shame that hes being so off about it. he actually said, 'i dont care is if its just family, at the end of the day you should have got a bigger church'
grrrrrrrrrr
I'd tell that person to go jump! "at the end of the day you should have gotten a bigger church" pffft who the heck does this person think he is? God? Your own personal wedding planner? I wouldn't worry about him or what he's said, he's clearly not nice. Who tries to make someone feel bad about their wedding plans, seriously! Even if he felt a bit hurt over it, the day isn't about him so the proper thing to do is suck it up and be happy for you on your special day. If he was a friend, that is. But it sounds like he's not.
I think it is totally up to you to decide what you want for you wedding. I am still flabberghasted that people think they have the right to tell you that they don't like your choices (even if they feel that way, why do they think they get to tell you?). We went through this at work recently, one girl made a huge deal about not being invited over certain other people to someones wedding - and actually told her to her face that she should be invited before xyz. Just wrong.
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