I agree with everyone else. It's your wedding so you get to do what you want. And the reception is not just a party, it's a celebration. If this person isn't happy to share in the celebration then he isn't much of a friend.
thanks so much everyone for your comments. he hasnt been a very good friend over the past year or so to DP anyay . and generally stuff is all about him most the time anyway. Hannah: thats exactly what i said . its not a party it a celebration.
i think Hes just bent out of shape cause this one couple is invited and he isnt. very childish really. if he carries on after the last message i sent then DP is going to send him a message just saying "we recieved your RSVP, its a shame you cant make it to our special day, see you soon" and that will be that. dont really want him there now anyway, i think he will just be judging the day and *****ing to people about it. thanks again all !!!!!!
OMG I can't believe someone would be so rude! The nerve! It's your wedding and none of their business if you want a small ceremony. They should be happy they were invited at all. Your reply was VERY diplomatic, good on you for not stooping to his level. I hope your wedding day is wonderful.
Wow - that is just SO rude! I would never give any unsolicited advice or opinions on how anyone should go about their wedding because that is what it is - THEIR wedding, NOT mine! I have been to a number of weddings where I have not been to the church but have been to the reception and the other way, where I have been to the church and not the reception. I think the ceremony is the most personal aspect of your wedding and you need to do whatever you feel suits you both best - FWIW I think your wedding sounds lovely.
WOW! I cant believe he has the nerve to tell you YOUR wedding is going to be "weird" at the end of the day its between you and your DH who you want to be in the church. He has no right to expect anything. You have asked him to come celebrate the uniting as 1 not just a anyday hooohaa party!
If he doesnt like that then tuff luck tell him his not wanted.
Please dont even consider changing the venue.
I think your wedding sounds lovely- dont let this "friend" bring it down!
i think what you are going ot do sounds perfect. if this so and so doesnt like it then tell him to jump. it is your day do wat you want. weddings always turn into wat everyone else wants so just stand your ground so you have your perfect day.
I agree that is really rude and selfish on his behalf. Just to make you feel better re your wedding plans. My BIL & SIL did exactly what you are planning. They married on the family property in the woolshed, the only people who witnessed the ceremony was immediate family and a couple of their very very close friends. We then went to a hall and again just these people had a meal and they had some speeches. Then at 8.00pm the rest of the guests arrived, they had finger food, a band, did the bridal waltz then and also had some more speeches and cutting of the cake.
It worked for them, it was what they wanted, they didn't want to stand up in from of 100 people and say their vows, and I think people resepcted their choice. The rest of the guests still got to see them in their wedding clothes and help them celebrate.
Good Luck I hope the rest of your plans run smoothly
I think your response was pretty perfect actually, and very gracious.
How incredibly rude of him!!! I wouldnt want him there either after that response, it really is none of his business how you and your DP choose where to marry!
I am astounded that someone (being a 'friend') would be calling your proposed wedding day 'weird'. That just seems so selfish and rude. I figure she is upset at not being able to see you get married....?
I hope she comes to respect you and your DF's plans really soon - it'd be a shame to upset the apple cart on one of the most important days in your life - which is, all about love.
OMG, how totally rude of your friends! I would never tell someone how to have their own wedding... that is a totally personal thing and it comes down the the couples wants. Surely they can see that they would be going their to celebrate the fact that you & your DH made the commitment of marriage to each other - who cares if they weren't there to witness it!
FWIW, my Aunt & Uncle had only their parents & siblings attend their reception but everyone attended their ceremony. That is what worked for them and everyone understood too.
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