I agree he is rude and selfish and to drag his dd into just to make you feel bad! It's a pet hate of mine when people do that, trying to make you say he can come too is not on. I would want to tell him where to go too! Weddings bring out the worst in people and that is what turns the bride into bridezilla when family or friends give you a hard time over what you want to do. I love the idea, you get the best of both worlds. If your friend is like that then he's probably better off staying at home. Have a beautiful wedding day!