I'm not sure what I would do if DP and I ever got married which we have vowed not to LOL so this is entirely hypothetical.

I think my view would be that it would have to be all or nothing. I would either choose somewhere totally child-friendly maybe like Werribee Mansion and organise for the kids to go around the zoo for an hour to break it up a bit, or hire a huge reception centre and turn a breakout room into a mini creche for people to use as and when they needed to.

Or make it very sophisticated (for me) and just make it adult only.

It would also depend very much on the family situation and who we were inviting. If people were coming long distances and that meant that they would have to organise babysitting for the night, or more to the point, would not see their kids for a night, then I would feel very sad about that and that would influence my decision.

But I wouldn't be at all upset right now if DD wasn't invited to a wedding. Infact, we have been invited to a wedding in a few weeks time and DD isn't invited. That is fine by me because it would be exhausting to take her and I really wouldn't enjoy myself inbetween policing her. Nor has DSD15 been invited - and that's fine too. Really, it's the couple's day and they should be able to have whatever they want.