Thank you to all who gave advice.

I couldn't talk to him last night as I was too wild, to top everything else off MIL turned up to see Wyatt for the first time. I opened the door at seen in was her, asked her want she wanted, then told her DH can deal with you cos I dont. And shut door in her face. This woman jst drive me mad. Doesn't see our 2 children we already have expect on birthday (maybe) and on Christmas (DH drags us along to her house). So of course I am not going to be impressed when she turns up after telling her she was not welcome. Worse yet DH didnt back me up, and let her in. So I went about feeding kids at 7pm (I know late) told DS to come away. And when she referred to herself as grandma, I quickly corrected her and said "Vicki not grandma". She left soon after, but you could cut the air with a knife. So I left it, 'cos I know I would say some hurtful and spitful things.

Wyatt was good last night, only he's normal times but then woke up at 6am. Wonderful...

We talked this morning, and told him how I was feeling. And what my problems were. He also told me he know's he been hard of late and apologetic about his behaviour, he did state he is trying to please everyone at once. We also agree on things which we are going to start and do like, have no TV 2 night a week and instead sit down and play board games with kids. Then we can watch TV after then have gone to bed. Also he will go dirt bike riding once a month (min) with mates. Will have 2 nights dinning out during a month as well. And one family day a month to go places, like animal park or the mazes.

So things a bit better, but we will see. He will need to take a stand against his mother to really impress me. The family you come is not as important as the one you will have. Thanks for all trying to help or be my shoulder.
Cheers
Sarah