Oh Dear Trace, I have no idea what to say!
If it were me I would beg borrow ( not steal ) any money I could so you all could go!
But I would find out for sure if they really cant come out here, then I would try to organise for your DH to go. It is such a drama.
I could only imagine how much Dh's family would want to see the girls!Poor you.
I hope you work it out soon!