Hey guys, have you checked out THIS page about sleep training / controlled crying? It's written by the Australian Association for Infant Mental Health and provides fact on what we know about the effects of crying in infants. Even a small amount can be distressing for them. We are so attentive to their needs during the day, to me, it's the same at night - it must be confusing to them to have their needs attended to during the day, but at night when it's lonlier and scarier, there is less attentiveness. It is not recommended to do controlled crying under 6 months, and if it's breaking your heart, that's because you are fighting your body's natural instincts to respond. If you were curled up on the sofa all nice and cosy with your partner, would you then feel good if he kept avoiding eye contact and speech and taking you to your bedroom and walking out? I am not attacking anyone here but just trying to paint the picture - imagine if you were in the place of your month's old baby who does not yet have the power of language.
Read Pinky McKay's books, '100 Ways to Calm the Crying' (which goes into detail about crying as well as tips for soothing babies and 'Parenting by Heart.' Her new sleep book is out in July, 'Sleeping Like a Baby.'
According to a recent study, around 50% of mothers tried controlled crying, only something like 7% found it effective in the short term. Many mothers have told me they do it as they don't know what else to do, or need to feel in control of the situation with some sort of structure - but if you read about your options and back yourselves with information, then you will feel just as in control as to how you can respond.
Trust your heart, trust your baby. When she cries, she needs you.
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/baby-crying-game
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/babies-and-sleep
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/cuddle-me-mum
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/velcro-baby
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/c...art-of-bonding




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