Babies Born February 2008 #4

[Sueby]

Hi Everyone,
I too wrote a huge post yesterday and BB ate it!
So yes I had a good night out -- lots of champagne and goss and dancing, I certainly do not recover as well as I used to he he. Now I remember why it was a year ago I last did it.

Bun -- so glad to hear your DD is sleeping it makes it so much easier.
Ashlea -- sorry to hear Mums group didn't work out. We are all here for you if you get lonely. ( Ballarat isn't too far from Lara you know)
Jacki -- I agree with Ashlea - bub will let you know when he is interested. He will be following your every mouthful when you eat and opening his mouth as well. It is usually around the 6 month mark when they start doing this though( but some bubs are hungry and need food slightly earlier) just play it by ear whatever works for you.
Bummer on DS not taking EBM you might have to do a Mum's and bubs screening.
Prama -- HOORAY ON THE PASSPORT!!!!!!!
Danda - hope your feeding troubles have improved.
Jenjams -- great to hear your blocked duct has gone.

Hello to everyone else

I am going in to work today to sign a casual contract until my Maternity leave is finished in January. I will only work a shift a fortnight but it helps with those nasty bills and lets me have a bit of Adult contact even if I am looking after sick people.
I will only work on the weekends as well as DH is in Melbourne with work and its too much to ask my Mum to look after 3 children!!

Have a good day everyone

Sue

[prama]

ash - sorry about your MG.. sux when they make you feel lonely and all. There are about 9 of us, youngest is 22. i dunno if everyone will meet up now that it's finished. they are all nice. we have own meeting next week so that will be nice.

sue - woo hoo! on a great night out.. i think ive forgotten what champagne tastes like.. suddenly im really thirsty.
it will be nice to go back just part time.. some adult company, some feeling of your life and also time to spend with the kids compared to full time.

BB has been eating lots of posts, it's been happening to me too.

i was going to say something else but have forgotten...

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Thanks Sue It's not too far but P/T isn't particularly friendly
I do have to get there one day though.

There were seven of us and I was the youngest. I wouldn't have minded if the HN hadn't of been so outwardly opinionated about young mothers. Every week sher would make a point of saying how successful her sons were (not much older than me) and how they had degrees, high flying careers and how she didn't want to be a grandmother yet. For someone that's there to help facilitate relationships between new mums she didn't do so healthily. I should have gone back when they had the day on their own but I didn't have the patience nor energy to try after five weeks of constant condescension from the HN.

That said i do understand that this lifestlye is a choice that I made and if not having people around is part of that, i can deal... I was just infuriated that she seemed to find it necessary to shoot me down in every possible way. Nothing I said in group conversation ever seemed to be a valid contribution according to her.

Aargh, i could go on and on... Sorry, rant over.

[Esme]

Ash - People like that shouldn't have a job like that! Did you get on with any of the mothers at all? Maybe it is worth finding out about their next meeting and give it a go... You could always have an excuse ready about a certain appointment or something if you don't like being there . I nearly didn't end up going to my mothersgroup because I didn't know most of them, but I am so happy I did end up going and now I am so looking forward to tomorrow! Otherwise just keep posting here. I love bellybelly too because we live out of town, so I don't go into town every day and end up a bit lonely at times (there is only so much baby talk and games you can do without going gaga...)

Prama - thanks for putting me onto your flying tips thread! I will certainly keep an eye on it. Congrats on getting his passport; such a relief!

Hi to everyone else! Sorry have to go; tea time!!

[prama]

ash - what a cow!!!! the MG isnt about her! im so sorry it turned out like that. what kind of message does it send to young mothers, regardless of age.
maybe if you just went the group gets founded on its own w/o the HN. some of the girls might feel the same way as you. but of cos, if you dont want to, it doesnt matter.

esme - thanks it is a relief! agree, really need adult conversation

[danda]

Ash, not having people around is not what you chose when you decided to have a family!!! I understand that there'd be fewer young 20-something mum's around these days but that doesn't mean you can't have other mum friends!! You should try going back now that they probably don't have a facilitator anymore. My mother's group has only just finished the facilitated sessions today and now we are on our own...i reckon it's going to get so much better when we can sit around and chat freely and I am really looking forward to having some local mum friends. I think it's really important....probably more so for you as maybe you don't have lots of friends with babies. I have lots of friends with babies but cos they live all over the place it's a bit harder to hang out often. Give it another go...especially if you are feeling a bit isolated.

[danda]

p.s. Ash - you should report that health nurse!! that is seriously unprofessional behaviour!
and in case no one has said it to you lately...Good on you for being such a fabulous mum and doing such a great job!

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Aww thanks danda!

As for reporting her ive been thinking about it i just never get around to it.

[Sueby]

Ash -- I don't know why these interfering cows are allowed in these positions. What a nerve. I really would report her -- she has probably done it to many others. Some of these women just can't move with the times. It is so obvious you adore Alexander and your DP so why does she have the right to judge you.
Anyway if you ever get over to Ballarat let me know we could do coffee!!!!!

I feel isolated at times because it is just so much easier to stay at home with the 3 of them but we have kinder and playgroup so I do get out even though its not really that relaxing. IYKWIM
Anyway hang in there Ash you are doing a great job and we are all here for you

Sue

[prama]

ash - hope ur feeling better. yeah try if you can report her. im so sick of ppl who ruin it for mums with bubs.
love alex's bum!

sue - i find it easier sometimes to just stay at home, tho it gets me down. i want to do all the things, tummy time, play etc. and then if i go out i worry i havent done enough. but i hve to keep reminding myself, it also does poopy good being out and about and seeing different things. just lugging everything becomes a hassle sometimes. but i do enjoy being out and about.
it must be hard with 3 little ones.

poopy's no where near turning. he did a upper body shoulder turn last week but that was it. oh well, he will do it when he wants to.

[danda]

Oh my....our thread was off the first page of baby buddies....thought I'd better post to get us back up there!!!
I had an exciting/freaky morning....I was sleeping and the dog was asleep at the foot of the bed. She barks when she hears noises and i generally tell her to shut up. She barked, i said "shut up" but then i was awake and I heard the noise she was barking at....it was a guy trying to break into the house next door by jimmy-ing the back sliding door!! I could just see the top of his head and the door being forced open. I called the cops and then after i got off the phone I saw the guy out the front window....he was just standing there looking like he was waiting for something. I then realised it was probably the person who lives there trying to break into his own house but i wasn't certain so I just hid in my bedroom! Then i heard yelling and someone jumping my side gate....talk about SH*T myself...i could totally hear the blood pumping through my heart and i was trying to figure out how i could get down to Zoe's room before I made a run for it!!! Then i could hear calmer voices and a police radio out the front. The cops knocked on my door and it turns out it WAS the guy who lives next door trying to get it to his own house (he's a locksmith by the way!!!!?????) and it was the cops who had jumped my fence.....they must have got the wrong address!!! HA HA!!!
I hope adrenalin doesn't affect babies milk cos she would have got a whole load of it in that feed!!!!
PHEW!!!
I want to know why a locksmith has to try to jimmy a door...you'd think he'd be an expert at getting in wouldn't you!!! I am planning to go over there later and apologise, so I will have to ask him that one!
Hope you are all well.

[*MinKy*]

Oooh Danda...how frightening!!! I would have shat myself hearing someone break in!! Why was he trying to get in anyways??

Ash, sorry to hear about that nasty HN at your mothersgroup! People like that **** me!

[Jacki]

Opinions needed.
A friend of mine has invited us around for dinner next weekend.
She has 15 month old twins. Also going will be another 15 month old and a 6 week old.
The older ones all play well and will be playing from 5.00 - 7.00 to tire them out and put to bed. The 6 week old will sleep anytime anywhere. As the older bubs will be going to bed around 7.00 we have been invited around for a 7.00 dinner.

My dilemma is I am not too sure whether I want to go. 7.00/7.30 is DS's bedtime. This means feeding, bathing him etc and then getting in car, trying to get him to sleep in a portacot (which I hav never tried before) with all the new smells, sounds etc, waking him (if he actually goes to sleep) to come home in car then waking him again to put into bed. DS will be 17 weeks old
Do you think this is a bit too much to ask or am I thinking it will be harder than it actually will.

[Esme]

Jacki - I have the same reservations about going out at night and we are invited to a birthday party from 4 pm and bubby's bed time is 5 pm. Not looking forward to it.... For us it's not too bad, because it is two weeks before we go overseas and that will stuff up our routine anyway. Does Luke sleep alright in the pram? Maybe it is easier to get him to sleep in there then the portacot (also less hassle to set up/pack up)? Hopefully all the excitement will tire (sp?) him out so much that he will sleep through...Sorry, not too much advise here, just wanting to let you know that I have the same dilemma and wonder whether anyone has any experience with this.

[The[cookie]Doctor]

I find Alex will go to bed whenever i "want" him too.

Most nights he goes down at 8ish but other times he goes down at 10-12 because df works late and otherwise doesn't get to see him. Whatver happens he goes down fine the next night anyway.

I say - go to the party. Yes, they are little and you don't want to stuff his routine, but he is a baby, and still so little, HE is going to change it enough times for you. IYKWIM.

[Jacki]

Ash - its not so much the getting him to sleep its the sleep then waking him to get in the car, sleep in the car, waking him to get out of car and then to bed. If we do go may be a quick feed will get him settled and back to sleep

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Ahh ok, sorry i misunderstood.
Yeah that's understandable. The unsettling is hard on them.
Ahh if only it was safe to just wear bubs in the hug a bub in the car. lol

[Sueby]

Hi everyone,

Jacki -- it is hard when youget invited out for Dinner. If you really want to go just accept that it will probably take bubs a while to get to sleep and that he will be disrupted when you wake him to go home and will probably just have another feed to settle.
We do tend to make life all about them and sometimes they do need to fit in to what we are doing! ( as hard and unrelaxing as it can be)
Good Luck

Danda -- that's funny but scary. Let us know how he took the apology!!

Have agood day everyone

Sue