Bel, its not that we want to demean csec's as a birth result, its just that csec's are MUCH harder to recover from, so we wish kate the best outcome I personally have done both, and believe me honey vag births are much easier to recover from, and honestly vag births in a way are not as peaceful as csec, but also not as empowering, I am sorry if we are making you feel as if we are denigrating yourself and Coby's birth experience, we all know you do what you have to when you have to . Kate has to walk up 1 flight of stairs carrying kelsey, and post csec this is not going to be possible, nor just carrying Kelsey around the house KWIM?? That is why we are all trying to encourage Kate in her aim to have the birth experience she desires, so she may have an easier post birth time.
Give yourself a break, you are a great mum, and I personally am sorry if I have made you feel as if you "didnt do it right" just coz you had to have a csec, not my intention at all sorry honey if I upset you.