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Bath, isn't it strange how the whole first AF thing can leave such an impression. I got mine while at school, half way through year 7 - I think I was 13? I told mum when I got home and she was pretty non-event about it, but she quietly told one of the mothers of the kids she looked after (mum did family day care). Well, didn't that turn out to be the best thing, because instead of it being some thing which was brushed under the carpet, Joy (the kids mother) gave me a big hug and told me how wonderful it was, I was now a woman, it was special and so on. It actually became a very nice thing to happen. I was still embarrased, but Joy's reaction completely normalised it for me. I think if I have girls I will handle it that way.
Nickers, Tenacious D sounds like it was a hoot! I might have missed it but where did you leave Nixon? I wish I could leave Flynn with mum for the night - not game yet!
Nickel I gave Flynn baby yoghurt and he was ok. I think he was just "playing me" the other day IYKWIM!! And I am another blog reader too
Mel, LOL about being sent girls to test you as a mother!! I think that is why my SIL (DH's sister) is glad she is having a boy - she has a rotten time with her mum.
IK, I soooo sympathise with the high temp thing - Flynn has been hot and out of sorts for about 3 days now. It is awful to see your otherwise cheery lad in such a state, isn't it?
Sim, try your local library - I used the net there before I got broadband....
Well our little boy has been really pushing both me and DH lately. Nickel, kind of like you said - issues that have been going on for some time - are coming up and Flynn is becoming the nexus. I remember my SIL (DH's brother's wife) saying kids get into the gritty little cracks of your relationship and prise them open. I think with DH and us they have always been open (thank's to DH's insistence on communication - he is SOOO Venus to my Mars!!), so since Flynn was born it is not like it has got any harder, just more important IYKWIM? Still, I have faith that DH will stick by my craziness - I just need to have faith that I can be the person I should be
Better go - friends over for lunch then others over for dinner - phew!
Last edited by Roryrory; January 20th, 2007 at 07:42 AM.
Oh, no, Rory - did you bag Angelina? NOOOOOOOOOO! I LOVE Angelina...I'm afraid this might have to be the end between you and I...
Oscar got hot again this morning and threw up a feed, but we've cooled him down and he's trying to be normal again. The house smells like damp baby-chucky-uppy-wipey cloths! Oooh, and mix in the smell from the baby paracetamol that has come up occasionally, too... Between the fan, cool damp cloth and vaporiser bottle, we're doing ok. Yep, Rory, it is upsetting, and DP just can't grasp how much it affects me - he says I need to stop being anxious because he's picking up on it...ummm, reality check, a mummy will always be wired to worrying when our babies are off kilter!! Geez, he could cut me some slack!
Also, DP was wearing him in the Ergo this morning - really calmed him down (ha! you could read that to mean it calmed DP OR Oscar...but I think it was both). Not sure what caused the blow up between us last night, but we had one, too. He goes all quiet after raising his voice, so I get to throw in one liners from the other side of the house and let him mull on them (they are real questions, asked from a heartspace, not headspace, and I never get spiteful or petty with them - his quietness is a unique opportunity to get these questions into his head so I'm careful how I use my POWAH, hearty evil laughter). One consternation last night was me asking why he can't get up and wear Oscar for a while to calm him down to give me a break. So, it was heartening to see him doing it this morning when I came out of the shower. It's unusual for things to escalate like that, so it was upsetting on top of everything!
I made my slice and it's crumblier than the last one, but I think it's a winner all the same. AND it's now in my new/2nd hand Tupperware Slice N Store
Can you girls please remember that your posts are viewed by all.. And it doesn't come across very well when you make comments about the content or posters of other threads...
Nah, it wasn't that bad, Rory. I don't think you went the full hack. Oh, and we're back on - you DIDN'T bag Angelina, we may retain our friendship LOL!
This weather is LOVELY!
You're not invisible, I read the post, Cailin I was trying to figure out what you meant, as when I read Rory's posts in both threads, I didn't think she was commenting on any other posters as much as she was commenting on her own post, really!
Plus, my main concern was that she had been bagging Angelina - it pains me when someone does that because I want to BE Angelina LOL Not really, but I DO like her persona
ETA the weather comment was not a weak attempt to gloss over anything, I really am enjoying this humidity, rain and coolness - how nice is it, Vic girls? At least Oscar's temp isn't being exacerbated by high outside temps!
Been in Glen Waverly at Wesley College all morning... poured the whole time!! Typical... but got to meet the new Western Bulldogs Squad, which was great, and Xander got to play footy with a couple of the guys... he was stoked!! Very tired, and will not have the comp from tonight (XH will hopefully get setting up his old one)
Rory - i would use the one at the library, but dont think they kids would sit still for long enough for me to sit down and log in!!
will do personals hopefully later... kids need to go to bed!!
Hi girls - busy day in my household again. Been out this morning with the girls to The Warehouse for party lollies/party prizes etc then off to butcher for sausages etc for tomorrow. Got home we had lunch and read the paper, Chelsea watched her DVD and Marley is asleep. I can't believe we changed the date of the party as today was meant to be 38! Tomorrow will hopefully be OK, only 24 and some rain. I hope the rain is not too bad between 3-6pm so the kids can play outside. My friend is coming over soon to help with sausage rolls, party bags, balloon and birthday cake! DH is in charge of kids when he gets home from work.
Rory - "I just need to have faith that I can be the person I should be" - don't ever doubt yourself or your abilities. I think our personalities change with our children and their moods. It can be very testing when you have a cranky child, a lovely DH trying to do all the right things etc and your mood doesn't match. Happens here all the time as my DH is very laid back and his motto is "don't stress, everything will be fine". I should subscribe to it a little more sometimes. I hope Flynn relaxes soon!
IK - so glad to hear Oscar is sort of on the mend! I think the heat turns people feral LOL!! The weather here is beautiful, quite sultry. No washing will dry today though - might have to put some things in the dryer. DP might be converted into a Ergo wearer too - its good that he decided to put it on without you asking, thats always a bonus! You guys are all taunting me with this slice - will have to make it next week. No time this weekend.
Just a quick hello, I might try to have a nap while Nathan is a sleep was up all hours last night, don't know why.
IK - Poor little Oscar, hope he gets over his bug soon.
Sim - praying things will work out for you
Auntie Flo - got mine middle of yr 7 I felt leaking so excused myself to go to toilet, a friend said is their something on..? I questioned her and she said "don't worry". Went to toilet and stayed in there about 15 minutes with exceptionally heavy bleeding. Had to go back to class in front of everyone and tell the teacher. She took me to office, changed underwear and was sent home via taxi, very dramatic, I was feeling very feint. Apparently one guy was making jokes about it, but another guy in our year stuck up for me and told him what for. Yes, remember every horrible minute.
Hi to all can't remember other personals, just spent a couple of days at mums, very relaxing. Back to school soon, only a week and a bit away, I am so not ready for that daily grind again.
Oh Rory, how are your ants? We have them everywhere and they are driving me nuts. I buy the boxes of huggies and they are even in the unopened plastic bags - all over the nappies!!!!!!
karen your story sounds very similar to mine, what a thoughtful boy though to stick up for you, they all teased the crap out of me, immature idiots!! Rory- my lovely neighbour baby sat nixon last night, she has been offering ever since we got him home and works with young kids too, so she was more then happy to mind him and just a jump, skip and a hop for her when she went home!
Bath your such a great mum, it's good that Verity can come to you and talk so openly. I remember my first AF, I was 11 and we were out doing the food shopping and I need to go to the toilet, I pulled down my knickers and was confronted with all this blood. So ended up getting mum and swore her not to tell my dad and she said ok and wouldn't you know it as soon as I came out he was all oh your not a girl anymore rah rah, and he got all soppy, was not happy that she told him and was very embrassed with the way he acted.
Rory I didn't get the password for your pics .
IK hope as the days gone on that Oscar is starting to pick up, I made your slice today and it was lovely, the kids and DH loved it, as well as me.
Mel I hope that Chelsea's party is great tomrrow and that the rain holds off for the 3hrs that it's on.
Not much else going on here today, it's been a stinker again and Wyatt got a bit burnt playing outside so he will be getting covered in aloe vera gel after his bath tonight. I'm going to read about Angelina now.
Poor Wyatt and his sunburn! So glad you made the slice...and liked it! I also ended up posting it here in Recipes - we'd been posting about it so much that I thought it only fair to share it with all of BB
Oscar just fed before...and subsequently ejected it all. So much for the corner! Well, I WILL be more positive - he hasn't had the fever since this morning.
Well, ALL my cloth nappies are just about out of commission. What isn't dirty or peed on is in the laundry basket with no hope of drying because of the humidity we've had for 3 days now! So, it looks like the weather is driving me to disposables for day as well as night (which we usually do) until the moisture leaves the air. That's right, NO dryer - what kind of backwater...?
Karen - how nice to get a break! I'm hanging out for a camping trip - another brigade mummy and I have flagged the idea and we're currently waiting for the others to bite...
AF took its time with me - she pretended to make an appearance when I was 12, then 13, then finally took hold at 14. The pretendy version was small amounts of brown stickiness for a day or two (I thought I must have farted and had follow through, I was mortified!), before the real deal started. And it was never regular! At least it was never heavy, or long either...we'll see what happens when it returns.
Thinking of you, Simone! As for the library, stop being so defeatist! Time it with a toddler reading session held by the library and head off to the computers (book for the same time) while Decca and Xander are being occupied by library staff, with Liesy in the sling Or on a daycare day, you'll only have one toddler to think about...
Gonna get a fruit platter happening here - should go nicely with that sugary slice!
XH fixed up laptop for me, and i still have the modem... XH has told his father to never speak to him again. They were chatting on the phone, and XFIL was going on about something, and XH said "Dad, please stop ranting, im just trying..." well, XFIL said "ranting huh?? What if i told you i was going to go around to Simone's house, bash down her door, put a bullet in her head, and those 3 kids too? Now THATS ranting!" XH was devastated, couldnt believe his dad said that. His dad has apologised but it doesnt take it back. XFIL also told XH that if i didnt give back the computer, he was going to get his GF to press assault charges on me. WTF?? She went for me first!!! Im so right now...
Geez, Sim, I never thought I'd say this, but poor XH! It's kind of coming together how he could have the issues he has! Of course, that's not an excuse, just a reason to do something about it. Well, go XH for putting a stop to it by ceasing communications. Do you think it could work for you two to carry on this unpatented business together? I reckon you should go and patent it under your name and let XH in on it unless his behaviour deteriorates. XFIL's behaviour really does paint a better picture of XH's background - he couldn't have been a very happy kid with a father like that I can also see why he is actually working hard to have the kids think well of him. *****, it's so sad, I actually feel a bit sorry for your XH, especially if he can't bring himself to work on the issues he has inherited (anger management, insecurity etc).
Anyway, Sim, you are such a tough cookie - you're gonna make it past this
ETA: can I stress this enough - I don't feel sorry enough for him to think that you should take him back! He has way too much baggage that he tries to get you to carry on his behalf for that to be a fair situation for you and the kids!
XH dad left his mum when he was 6, his mum went off the rails - there was never enough food on the table, always moving as she never paid the rent etc... And when ever he went o his dads, he was always drunk or "couldnt be bothered."
I honestly think XH does pretty wel considerng his background, and we are going well and friends since the split.
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I can also see why he is actually working hard to have the kids think well of him. *****, it's so sad, I actually feel a bit sorry for your XH, especially if he can't bring himself to work on the issues he has inherited (anger management, insecurity etc).
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