Enigma - good one, look for a place for 6 months and do your little family a favour I hear you on the hot and cold thing with your mother, but right now you don't need Aneta exposed to that cr@p. It's bad enough at any time, but it can't be healthy to have an infant seeing outbursts as hideous as this coming from someone who at other times is very sweet - very confusing for anyone, let alone a baby who's just getting to know who it can trust for comfort. Maybe try public housing as well? It's hard to get a rental if you are unemployed, unfortunately, but I'm sending positive thoughts to you!
Tulip - ha, the comment about keeping him awake during the day...DP gave me this one! Only yesterday! And here's the thing...we'd been out of the house most of the day with him in my Hug a Bub, so it's not like he could have been in a deep sleep, even though he was 'asleep' in the sling. He was in and out of the car about 4 times etc. So I just gave DP the 'look'. Anyway, last night was not bad. DP said he was going to give Oscar a bath and I asked him to do it by 9.30 (he usually gets round to it at about 10.30!) so that I could feed him and put him down, and myself down. Well! It seemed to do the trick. DP put Oscar into the bassinet (cos it's tilted and we're trying the theory that a tilt will alleviate wind) and I went to bed, DP following about an hour later. Oscar didn't wake till 3.45am, so that was nice, even though my boobs were full as two googs! I know that this unsettledness doesn't last forever, so that keeps me going. It was harder when I had my cold, but it doesn't last long, in the scheme of a child's life.
DP copped on to himself and was nice to me when he came to bed last night...and we DTD. I had been trying to tell him that if he had pulled himself away from the computer and not been so surly looking in the last couple of weeks, he would have got some two weeks ago! Anyway, some boy talk yesterday revealed that some friends of ours had DTD 4 times on Sunday - I think that jolted him into realising that we hadn't DTD since the night we brought on labour...5 weeks ago!! Being that I didn't have any trauma to my bits from the birth, I was able for it sooner than many new mummies - stupid DP!!
OK, got to get to my pony with this boy and I've managed to make myself a nice lunch...a first.
BTW, Candy - I had on my horse a cotton combo under the canvas and it has a satin lining, but the canvas is too heavy on his unmuscled frame - he really is quite out of condition and I'll need to keep a synthetic on him when he's being spelled from now on. I have a bib but it wouldn't have made a huge difference - he was left unattended cos DP wouldn't take me out there to get the rugs off for me