just posted a new pic on my site of my " new " family on our way to a wedding ( she slept right through it )...
... baby awake ..( not that she was ever sleeping ) gotta run!
It is good to see most people are travelling fairly well at the moment, and some of the problems with feeding/ sleeping etc are starting to iron themselves out.
Jess- SOrry to hear about your friend. Hopefully you will Patrick home with you soon as well.
Velcro Babies I have found with Tori that she does like to be held when she is sleeping but if I wait for her to go into a deep enough sleep she is fine to put down. If she wakes when I put her down I have started to settle her and put her straight back down. Eventually I will work up to putting her in her bassinet for self settling, but she is still young so I will wait till she is ready.
Co- Sleeping I am not against co-sleeping but have found that she settles well enough in her bassinet at night to not need to spend the whole night with us. I am like you Candy- I dont think I would sleep well with her in the bed with me. We do however usually bring her into bed with us after the early mornign feed (5-6am) and DH spends some time with her, cuddling her, settling etc, before he goes to work. We do have the bassinet in our room and I sleep with it pulled up to the side of the bed.
As for us we are doing quite well, getting a decent amount of sleep at night, usually 4-5 hours before the first wake and then 3 hours after. Tori usually only feeds for about 20 mins in the night, so we are back in bed by about 45mins.
MIL arrived yesterday and has spent today with us, she is staying till the weekend and then going to see some other family. It has been great she has been helping with the cooking, cleaning, washing etc. She even bought our weekly groceries for us today which I thought was a lovely gesture.
Anyway best go and do something, not that there is anything left to do, might take the opportunity to read a book!
IK - yep , im on my way to target I saw the catalogue aswell , might stock up on nappies and baby wipes aswell.
As for the co-sleeping , id love to give it a go, but im too scared. DH rolls over on to me sometimes while he is sleeping , so I dont want Aneta anywhere near him when he isnt awake.. I'll be co-sleeping with her when she is 7 months old because then we are going back to Poland and we only have one bedroom to the 3 of us at my in laws house! eeek
As for us we are travelling well, Cody is sleeping well 4 hrs between feeds at night about midnight and then 4am, then 7-8am and a top up after we get back from dropping DS1 at school. Then he will sleep from about 10-11am til 2:30pm then have another feed after we picked up DS1 from school then again at about 6:30-7pm. So we have established a fairly good routine for now until he decides to change it.
Co-sleeping I don't do it while they are little but as they get older and can sometimes get unsettled I will bring them into bed with me and DH so it's a half half thing with us.
Arrrrggghhh! Since Wade woke up at about 3pm he has:
* flopped and jumped all over his bed making it near impossible to dress him.
* whinged constantly for food that's not available or inappropriate.
* asked for food that when provided he says he doesn't want after all.
* constantly climbed up onto the dining table and jumped around.
* pulled stationery eg pens/textas off shelf and drawn on walls and carpet (when i was changing Niall's nappy)
* Made constant loud noise with mouth and toys.
* Kept trying to turn tv on.
* Did wee on carpet.
* splashed water all over bathroom during bath.
and this is just off the top of my head... and a lot occured whilst i was feeding Niall. He is learning that if I'm feeding Niall i can't give him my undivided attention.... groan... meanwhile Niall has simply fed and slept... give me a newborn over a toddler to look after any day!
Bath I know how you feel, I've got DS2 and DS3 running around wild while I'm feeding Cody as they know that I can't do anything about their behaviour. Big hugs to you.
I didn't want to post last night as I was so disappointed! For the past 4 days we have ben told that Pat would be coming home either Wednesday or Thursday. Well we got up there yesterday to find his monitor had been taken off, so we thought he must be coming home...no dice!The doctor came in after me waiting 4 hrs to talk to her!She said he wasn't coming home because they wanted to start demand feeding him again...WTF! Can't I do that?
Jess - IMO demand feeding requires a mummy and a baby...in the same room together!!! I'm SOOOOO sorry that you're going through this. You and Patrick will get through this, you know that - it's horrible while it's happening, but you will be able to look back on it and pat yourself on the back that you got past it
Feeding - is better!! Not completely, and I still have a left hand side issue (hmmm, funny, I have that with my horse riding, too, and I KNOW that it's cos I'm right handed!), but I tried the side lying feeding again and voila! no nipple ridging! Saves me getting up and sitting on a chair in the bedroom from now on.
Gotta change a nappy now...
Jess- Sorry to hear that Patrick still isnt home, it mustbe so disapointing for youwhen they told you we would be coming home.
Tanya- Dont be too disheartened it wont be long untill you are back into your jeans. I am like Candy- most days that I am at home I spend the day hanging round in tracky pants, its just much more comfortable.
We had a great night here last night, Tori did her first 6 hour sleep, and it was bliss. Mind you it took over an hour to settle her after and she did a massive projectile vomitt- I think because I was just so full of milk that she guts it down. When she did go back to sleep she slept for another 3 hours which was awesome.
Had my first outing without the baby last night, DH stayed home with her an I went shopping with SIL and MIL. It was hard being out without, but good for DH to have some time with her, she was a little unsettled but I think that was more about him being a bit uptight than her, he gave her a bottle of EBM and she wasnt too bad. It was nice though when I got home he said to me ," I really didnt realise how hard it is too look after a baby, I cant believe you do it all day...... I am sure that I dont appreciate you enough for the job you do.." I thought that was really sweet, and I dont think he realises that he helps in other ways, like doing the dinner, washing etc which makes my job with Tori so much easier.
I am very excited a friend I worked with last year, who got married 3 weeks after me and also got pregnant on her honeymoon had her baby this morning, she also had a little girl Kyannah Marie, and she only weighed 30 gm less than Tori., and she is exactley 4 weeks younger. I cant wait till she is home and I can go and visit, it is nice to know someone else witha little baby.
Anyway best go and have a shower before the little one wakes up.
just a quick hello before DS wakes up. its so hard, i put him off to sleep and i just dont know how long im going to get until he wakes up again, sometimes half an hour sometimes a full hour and if im really lucky he will sleep for two hours!
im having major sleep, feed and settling issues with him, he screams for about 6 hours from dinner time (6pm) until about 12 then he will finally go down and only sleep for two hours at a time and wake and then i have to try to settle him again which can take anywhere from half to one hour. its so hard, DF is getting really frustrated with it all and i cant stop crying, its like when i feed him im hurting him, he just cries whenever he is awake, he is getting pains, im sure its wind but i think he may have reflux too, he is starting to vomit alot too and after he vomits or does a poo he cries like its hurting him, its just so hard.
ive been to the paediatrician and he really wasnt much help at all, just saying that he should grow out of it but i would like him to come and spend a night with us and then see what he thinks!!
Jess - sorry to hear about your friend and i hope you get some answers from the doctors, i would be demanding it!!
IK - good on you for having oscar in bed with you, i thought about it but even now i wake up and think that i have forgotten to put him in his bassinett and go searching through the blankets for him!! im actually thinking of getting one of those snuggle beds so he can come into bed with us!!
Tulip - i love that picture on your ticker!!
anyway thats all from me, im thinking i might try to get some sleep, i think if i sleep more during the day then i can spend a bit more time with DF, i feel like im negleting him cause im trying to sleep all the time when im not feeding or walking the floor trying to settle lachlan.
oh who would hav thought this would be so hard, im sooooo jelous of you girls who get four hours sleep at a time!!
Dee - I am SOOOOO sorry you're going through this, the nights are the worst, like it's going to last forever...but you know it won't. Anyway, I was talking with a friend today and she was describing a problem that someone she knew was having with her very young baby - sounds familiar. This baby would feed for 2 mins at a time etc. Turns out that after seeing specialist after specialist (she's a nurse), she took herself to the Royal Women's and said she wasn't leaving till someone could tell her what was wrong with her baby. Eventually she got to see a senior nurse who, after listening to the story said she knew exactly what was wrong...the baby was allergic to her breastmilk! Unfortunately she had to make the switch to formula after persevering for so long (so the sooner we can get milk banks set up in this country, the better!!), but the situation improved after that. It may not be this for you, but maybe try the "I'm not leaving till someone's expertise and education can be of some use to us" approach? Makes my feeding problems pale in comparison reading from you (no wonder you haven't been on much) and I hate that you're going through it You are being such a good mummy I know that all you want to do is enjoy your baby and the last thing you want to do is wish away this time so that you can get to the time when it's easier cos that means wishing away this littleness - but when you DO get through it you won't know yourself. I can't believe that I'm already starting to enjoy feeding Oscar - I thought the time would never come! I'm trying to be helpful, but I'm probably not so I'll stop now. Ali - he really IS super hubby!
Better eat something before walking to the maternal nurse...
dee - I don't have any solutions for you. I just want to offer my sympathy & my thoughts. good luck in finding a solution. I like IK's idea of "I'm not leaving...."
Dee: Oh what a poor little mite! Lachlan's expression in your ticker piccy seems to say it all... What IK suggested was interesting and worth looking into... please don't despair darl *hugs* I know it's hard and can't really offer any other advice except to say that my two older children went through similar challenging phases but it passed. At the time you just can't see an end in sight... maybe Lachlan is just going to get his fussy period over and done with earlier than our little ones. When I worked in a creche almost every mum said at one time or another that their child was highly unsettled and keeping them awake all night for what seemed like forever... usually it was due to teething or growth spurts or illness but sometimes it was unexplained... and I reckon even the mums that said nothing about their little ones were just trying to put on a brave face! Anyhow, definately seek professional advice if he seems in pain. Also try to be easy on yourself and your partner... don't worry, you're not alone and remember that most parents agree that having children is the HARDEST challenge they have ever faced in life... don't suffer alone, make sure you come back and vent, cry or scream (like I did yesterday LOL - today is much better BTW) whenever you need to!
Dee - im sorry to hear your having problems I can only imagine how frustrating it must be , but he is beautiful.... and im sure it will pass... dont forget that when your up trying to calm him down , half of us are probably doing the same with our babies - that thought always helps me...good luck!!... we are here to vent to
Last edited by enigma; July 21st, 2006 at 05:35 PM.
500!!! yay! But I'm still a Kidlet...I tells ya what, I feel like I've posted 5000 times, not a mere 500...
All is well as far as the maternal nurse is concerned, with Oscar.
Got to visit my pony today - he's got a really, really raw wither rub (bad mummy!) but it's not as bad as one I saw a few years ago that got really feral. For the non-horsey, the wither is the point where the neck meets the back and shoulders, or the bottom of the mane - if it gets a little bony then a heavy duty rug can lay too heavily on it and rub the skin off...ouch! DP was wondering why he was so antsy walking down the hill, but that would be why. Anyway, I fed Oscar in the sunshine there and did something really clever - I walked and fed at the same time! My horse looks like a bag of bones for being so out of work, so I'll need to get some weight on him and his muscles a bit more toned before I get on him - just as well he's out of shape or I'd be doing something silly like hopping on this week...
My cold has gone away - I told it to and it listened! However, DP has got one now,and he sounds sick, too.
Back to getting a frozen dinner unfrozen...
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